On Plenty Of Fish, do girls just sign up for an ego boost? I mean the only girls that respond or reply are the really unattractive obese type girls. Every other girl is either average or decent looking, they are not like they are smoking hot with the exception of a few. None of them ever respond. Or maybe is it that I'm just exceptionally ugly?
I'm sure some do. There are girls who are most likely hooked on the attention they get to the point where they'd rather just come home to a bunch of "you are beautiful" messages then get into a relationship. Funny part is when I'd meet certain girls off the site, they'd "complain" about getting 30-50 messages in a day but would be smiling at the same time. They're bragging but they don't realize it. I had a girl "complaining" to me about how a guy was stalking her job, but she didn't realize to me that she was bragging with her tone of voice. Then she'd take a phone call and be bragging to her friend that she's on a date. So I kissed her on the cheek at the end and she got offended. She was expecting me to just keep paying attention to her all night.
Most girls treat it like another Facebook. I've met girls off of different websites and they usually have something that makes me say "That's why she's on this..." Even the girls with decent photos you need to watch out for because they can be taken in a way that hides their excess weight. I avoid messaging face only photos too because it means they're hiding excess weight too.
I would say their number one issue is being way too picky though. That's a very common complaint. They have unrealistic expectations and you can usually tell from their profiles. Some have checklists at the end that must be met to be considered and they're almost always materialistic.
There's also women who are married but list single on it. So they can't meet unless they are able to figure out how to not let their husband know. It's not just the men doing this.
Oh and yes the unattractive girls are probably doomed. The problem is they do exactly what unattractive guys do and message good looking people when they clearly have no chance with them. They also send "hi" messages and other dumb nonsense.
I heard a lot of people say they do it for an ego boost (of course this was online that they made this confession) I have a profile on there but I can't find any quality guys. It seems they are all younger than me and have settled down by now. I never thought there would be a time limit on me finding a husband.
The hot/decent/average girls probably find a guy immediately or they get inundated with so many inapproprite/annoying messages that they just stop using their accounts and just ignore them instead of deleting them. The girls who are unattractive are the ones who can't actually find dates so they respond and send messages out.
I did it once, not to try to find somoene but to see what kind of guys are on their. If their are some attractive guys who are just not going out to clubs and all , or if their were just ugly creepers. I fount one guy I liked and we dated for a bit, but he turned out to be a player. Most of the guys on their are super creepy and pervy in every way.
I have found that most women, hot or not, tend to go on sites like those because they're not getting the attention they want in real life. Once they get what they want (from the right kind of guy), they leave and look for love where you're supposed to...in real life
The problem is that many women go to POF for a reason. It's often (but not always) because they had a failed relationship, or the guys they met in real life were jerks to them. Or they had a fight with their boyfriend and they want to get even by finding a new guy.
I used to go to some Facebook-like social network and just play the girls there for an ego boost or a quick date, so I guess it is not just girls.
Online dating is tricky. You gotta stand out from the rest. It's all about coming off as fun and interesting.
A little uncool thing I will admit I did: Once I signed up for OKCupid and listed myself as gay just so a bunch of dudes would message me. I got like 10+ messages a day, it made me feel special. Just imagine how a straight girl feels when she can do that