Am I destined to die alone, worthless and a loser?

i am unattractive, hence pathetic , creepy , loser . I'm not funny or charismatic and I've never had a real interaction with a girl ( mostly because they ignore me )

will I grow old a loser like I am now ?

PS : I only talk to girls I don't find attractive


Most Helpful Guy

  • hate how girls are allowed to play the victim but not guys

    • Bitch please, you boys play the victim all the time "I'm nice but no girl wants to f*** me"

What Girls Said 26

  • Nobody knows what your future will look like. But I do know that feeling sorry for yourself won't help at all.

  • You're not pathetic but you're not confident in your own skin either. None of us are perfect but we have to learn to live with it. Like K├ámbo said use this as your fuel to be something better. What you're labelled use it as your motivation to become what they want you to be. Go to fitness clubs, get fitter, make a six pack, some muscles. Dress different to what you do, get fashionable clothing,read up on how to approach women etc

    Ask your friends for advice, hang out at clubs

    • my friends tell me to" suck it up , and live life single , its better " and they all girlfriends , which they refuse to set me up on dates with her friends . I am fit , I go to the gym but I refuse to get a six pack , its unhealthy and I won't get anything to eat that I like

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    • between over 400 girls , at least one can be nice + I'm almost 30

    • I'm 18 never dated I don't care I'm too busy getting good exam results. There's more to life tbh

  • If you maintain such low self esteem, yes you will! Looks really only account to a small percentage of who we are. They're only good for first impressions, that's it! Now, I'm certain you're NOT a loser! You spelt the word charismatic correctly. So what if spell check corrected it for you, at least you knew what it meant well enough to use it in a sentence, lol. Stop worrying about your negatives because we all have them. Yet nobody is gonna be interested if that's what we're focusing on. Show you're good qualities and don't say you don't have any because we ALL have those too. Find yours and bring them out so others can notice them! Most importantly, CONFIDENCE is the key! Things are never what we think but what we believe. And you can believe there's someone out there somewhere who's uglier than you! So if you have teeth, be thankful! Things could always be worse! Smile now and get out there and knock em dead!

    • the only good quality I have is being a good swimmer , and that won't attract girls , especially with better looking guys there too . 400+ rejections

  • The answer to your question is completely up to you. I highly doubt you are as bad as you say, your self-esteem is currently at an all time low and so you are in an ever ending spiral of self-criticism and loathing. Trust me, been there, done that and it sucks. Do you know what changed all attitude.

    Start saying how good you are. List on a piece of paper all things that are good about you. What do you think other guys are offering women that you can't ay? Nothing. The difference between you and that guy you see getting all the girls is a brilliant act of confidence. If you think you're brilliant, so will everyone else.

    My brother used to say the same as you, he found his wife when he was 30 years old and hasn't looked back since.

    Number one, get out there. Go to as many things as you can, join as many clubs as you can. Get an active and varied lifestyle and start to enjoy yourself. What do you really like doing? Find out and go do it. Life is too short for us all to sit around moping and hoping someone is going to come a long. She is out there for you, waiting, and you need to go and get her.

    You say girls ignore you, well ignore them back they aren't worth your time. You're acting as if you are inferior to them, well you're not. You are a human being too damn it!

    Now come on get a bit in fight in you, find that girl, and she will realize she has something special.

    I can guarantee you will look back on this question one day and say to yourself 'what the hell was I thinking'. Good luck :)

    • they offer a better exterior . Saying how good I am knowing that I'm only saying it to force myself to feel better won't work , I've tried . Girls can get any guy they want , they are damn well superior to me and most guys . How can I ignore girls that don't like me when I can't even find one that does

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    • Aw dear, you sound like you have been hurt by a girl or it has been a combination of hurtful events that has led to your way of thinking, and I am sorry for that. Girls can be nasty when they want to be, and coming from a girl who was bullied by other girls for years, I know best of all. I have been out with a guy I was really attracted and a guy who I wasn't overly attracted to and guess what they both treated me like crap. What I'm trying to say is isn't about looks, the personality is.

    • well because of my looks , girls won't give me a chance to show any type of personality

  • yes,person I don't know,even though I don't know you and I can't see into the future,i'm already certain you'll always be a ''loser''.

    • Wow...bitch much!

    • and how am I supposed to answer to an anon question about being ugly and being forever alone?

  • if you only talk to girls you don't find attractive, you need to figue out why you have such low self esteem..that is the core of your problem. fix that and you will meet the ONE

    • if I talk to girls I find attractive , then I'm going out of my league

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    • im 28 now , and never even had a female friend . Do you know how pathetic that is?

    • u are still is not pathetic, I have met many people who have never dated ..its not that uncommon,be patient

  • Are you that physically unappealing that no one can look at you, or is it that your personality sucks?

    • how should I know ? I said hello to a girl I don't know and she walked away

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    • seriously what's wrong with you

    • Nothing is wrong with me. I'm not the one complaining here.

  • Get a make over, go see a therapist, hit the Gym and stop complaining

    • i wasted 3 years at the gym

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    • im ugly , I'm not allowed to have standards . If I do have standards , then I am going too high

    • exactly because you have really high standards you have no right to complain. But ugly people have standards about different things like personality type, niceness, religon, music choices, political views, just not on attractiveness unless they are charismatic as f***

  • Maybe you're not a nice guys. Like, are you rude? I knew this one guy in high school who was unattractive, he had this attitude that made him seem like he thinks he's the sh*t. Never seen him hanging out with a girl, probably cause he kept acting like a f***ing a**hole all the time.

  • “Why do people have to be this lonely? What's the point of it all? Millions of people in this world, all of them yearning, looking to others to satisfy them, yet isolating themselves. Why? Was the earth put here just to nourish human loneliness?” ? Haruki Murakami

    its true man :) you got to get off your ass and go for it! there could be a girl out there falling in love with your awkwardness, but you would never know.�

    • im 28 now , there hasn't been one to even let me have a conversation with her

  • You can always change that

    • how so , nothing I can do anymore , muscles and money didn't attract women with me

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    • Im not telling you to go onto the paid ones, I'm telling you to try it, I can't promise it will work but I'm not promising you it won't either, ya know, 5 years from now you're gonna look at this question and ask yourself why youve asked this. There are a lot of users on here who have asked questions they wish they could delete now, because they got over it. Just try it and see what happens

    • ive tried online dating +very few girls my age are on it

  • You can thumb me down all you like but you have to break out of this thought pattern it's dangerous! I am not ugly but I am not a top model either so what do you think I give a sh*t. There is so much more to life then shallow thought patterns. Make something of yourself at least you have a shot. Imagine you are so disabled you can't even walk, talk, feed yourself, go to the toilet. Life can always be so much worse. Enjoy being young and alive and then you will find charisma!

  • First off, everyone has their own taste. Some girl could think you're not the most attractive guy ever, but another girl could think you're a Channing Tatum to her. Everyone's opinion is different, so stop having this attitude and put yourself out there. If you do, you are bound to find someone! Have confidence in yourself... if you walk around with your head down no girl is going to want to come near you, but if you have your head held high with the confidence beaming off of you, the ones that find you attractive are going to flock in! Now don't be cocky confident, but just be confident with yourself. I doubt you are pathetic, creepy, and a loser, it's just your subconscious mind telling you that so you walk around believing it, but stop! Be who you are and I'm sure some girl is going to find you extremely handsome AND funny, but you have to stop sulking around thinking you're going to end up alone forever. Keep yourself well groomed, dress how you feel like suits you (hopefully it's not slobbish or anything) and BE CONFIDENT. And who knows, some of the girls you thought would never be attracted to you could have been, like I said, preference is key. Some people are attracted to bigger women/men while others prefer athletic built or even really, really skinny people. Some people may prefer a male to have that baby look face to him because it makes him look softer, while some women may prefer a man that looks rough and tough. Some may be attracted to geeky men/women while others look for an athletic person... and the list goes on and on. Everyone has their own taste and I guarantee someone out there will think you're the most perfect person to them. But you have to start with that negative attitude and get rid of it!

    • what if no girl has ever found me attractive

  • hmmm...


  • u would grow old like a loser if that's what you set in your mind. you have to change your mindset if you don't want to grow old like one. how? by thinking positive all the time, don't think that the girl doesn't like you already tho you haven't talked/approached yet. you have to be tough and take the risk on talking/approaching the girl you like. just be yourself, be positive, life is beautiful and don't focus on girls that don't like you...move on to the next one :)

    • did you even read the question ? did I say I'm not approaching ? if a girl likes me , I would go after her + I can't force being positive

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    • there's no harm in forcing it . but I've done it before , it just doesn't work

    • i wish it did , and I wish some girl becomes desperate

  • Every woman is attractive and if you are a creep then look for girls who like creeps

  • Your mindset is what is pathetic.

    Let's be realistic for a moment. How likely is it REALLY that you're alone because you're a "worthless loser"? Not very. People sh*ttier than you could ever be find love every day. That's a fact. No matter how ugly, no matter how stupid, not matter how boring and uncharismatic you are, SOMEONE out there will find you attractive. Look around you at all the sh*tty people you know who are married, or in relationships. You don't have to be attractive or interesting to get a girlfriend.

    And besides that, life changes in ways you could never imagine. You have the ability to find a girlfriend. Stranger things happen. You find yourself in places you never dreamed you'd be.

  • Not at all. You aren't worthless

  • Maybe. I'm not a psychic

  • Why are many guys on this site having negative attitude? You are single now doesn't mean your current situation is permanent. What is amazing about life is , it is fluid, things/circumstances/situations change very fast. the only thing that is permanent is change.

    Seriously are girls that bad in the country you are at that they would ignore you completely?

    • im going to turn 30 . and I haven't even had a real conversation with a girl (because they ignore me )

  • You will find the right and perfect girl for you just wait!

    • im 27 and still haven't even had a girlfriend or even a female friends

    • Youre not the only one but its your decision if you want to keep things this way or start changing some stuff get out and doing something about it don't get on here and ask for more negative stuff to get more upset!

    • how is my decision ? going and doing what ? I've done everything . Girls refuse to talk to me

  • You need to work on your self esteem issues before worrying about getting into a relationship.

    Once you're in a better mental place I'm sure there will be girls interested in you.

    • girls werent interested in me before I became lonely

  • Yes

  • Unattractive girls have learned they cannot get the hot guy so why can't unattractive guys learn they have to settle for an unattractive girl. Or even better change for the better. It's possible.

    • read the stupid question and you'll see I avoid attractive girls + unattractive girls now want hollywood models

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    • ive been wasting hours at a gym 5 days a week . Still a fit body isn't enough to get a girl attracted to me

    • Well that sucks, maybe it is your approach then.

  • With that attitude, yes

    • if you know my history , you won't judge

  • Feeling sorry for yourself is a choice. Only you can pick your own self up. So quit whining and DO something about it. Also, at the age of 25-29 you ALREADY ARE grown up.

    • shut up , there's nothing left to do anymore , I make decent money and I waste time at the gym to deal with you shallow women who want nothing less than a stupid hollywood model

What Guys Said 4

  • You have two choices:

    1 - Accept the words and title of pathetic loser that people label on you.

    2 - Take their words of insult, and use it as burning fuel to reach to something higher. Get richer, get buffer, many things you can do to ascend.

    Your weakness is a choice, and you can bury your head and let it overtake you, or you can overcome it. Either way, don't expect any sympathy from women, myself, or society.

  • Looks like you've already decided...

    • women decided not to give less than average guys a chance

  • Kambo is right. Women will smash you, if you show weakness. If you project confidence, no matter how ugly you are, women will almost instinctively try to impress you.

    • i always see feminine guys with girlfriends

    • Do you see those guys getting dumped by their girlfriends/wives? 'Cause I do.