Why do I get mad when I see a black girl and white guy

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i mean I'm not racist and never have been I just get mad when I see a black girl and white guy together I know I shouldnt but I just can't help it I think its cause I can't even get a black girl and I Am Black I just don't understand I have liked mainly white girls my whole life but now I have this big turn on to black girls I mean I really really want a black girl friend but I just can't get one no matter how hard I try people say I act white then when I see a white guy with a black girl I just kinda lose it cause I don't know I'm not picky or anything I just can't get a black girl friend then out of know where no offense these guys get this girl I've been talking to forever he got her in no time I just don't understand and don't take this offensive I really not trying to be racist and if it sounds like sry but I'm not racist and never will be

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Ok I agree with you 100%. I never really went out with a lot of white guy's I just always had guy friends that was white, And I am a black female. And from expression I only dated just black guys, and that all I ever wanted at some point was a nice, hot ,good looking black person, grate personality ,and very smart, and had a good head on his shoulders. But unfortunately I didn't, I mean I met a lot of grate black in my life time once before . But it's like I never had any luck with any black male, I mean maybe one or tow out of my life time, but till this day I don't hate black guys or wouldn't date one. But the thing is with me I'm done with black man for now I mean I'm still Attracted to black guys. But one thing about me race and color do NOT MATTER at all, repeat At all. I mean if you are just starting to look at black girls now and are Attracted to them, then don't make it seem like it's a bad thing. But date a girl for her and not for her body date a girl because you really do like her and also don't force yourself to date a black girl if you don't want one. And honestly if  you dated white girls all your life, then it's nothing wrong with that. But don't get mad if you see a back girl with a white guy it's stupid and pointless and dumb of you to waste your time worrying about if a white guy is white a black girl. I mean I already know idiots like that I mean I don't know you or what ever.. But I think that stupid of you to get mad about something so small.  And also another thing is some black guys/ Not all make such a big deal out of (withe guys and black girls). But like me I really can care less who you date if she's white or black it don't matter people fall in love with other racist. I mean I been talking to this guy that white and he's very sweet, and Nice and it's not rude. And I like him a lot and he likes me and there are hater's that do hate on us and most of them are black guys I know. But I can't let that get to me because what they are saying dose not matter to me and I ain't worrying about it people are going to talk and talk dumb and crap. I mean grow up and get a life.. You know. But my thing is I just hate when it's OK when a black guy and get away with going out with white girls and we can't Really is that how you feel, but with us we get hate on and hater's. But  interracial relationship's are the best of both world it's something different something new. I mean race is over and people can date who ever they want to date, I mean the only time I come up with things like you do or is going through now.  Is when I have more white lady friends then black lady friend's. I mean I have black friends but every time I try to fit in with the black girl's, they don't accept me, so when I do talk to a white girl they do stuff different and I know that I can talk to them. But I have black and white friends just more white girlfriend's. But at the same time if you are into black girls then do it for all the right reason and for yourse

Dollface-86 · Accepted Answer

That is very interesting and I totally have your answer. I am black and have never been with a black guy. Never saw race as a big deal and I like who I like. Here is where you are going to get your epiphany.

**You said that you have always been attracted to white girls and haven't even really thought about dating a black girl til you started noticing them with white guys. Subconciously, men have a thing where they want what they can't have. You are getting the perception that they are unavailable to you so its making you want them more. Its like when a guy dates a girl and doesn't really like her, and so he cheats on her. She dumps him, and only then does he decide that he really wants her. It seems to always come down to wanting something you feel you can't have.

Also guys like you are confusing. You said you have always liked white girls but you get so upset when we are with white guys. Its kind of twisted and you really need to get over it. Why worry about who someone else is with? Its none of your busines, it isn't huting you, and it doesn't affect your life in any way shape or form.

Also I need to make you aware of your approach. Ask some girl friends you may have if you could do something different. I know where I live white guys and black guys have polar opposite approaches on hitton or talking to a girl. And this isn't the gispel but just what I have been through personally. When I'm in a bar white guys will be very chill and come up and say hi. They'll introduce themself and strike up a conversation. Its very casual and comfortable. A lot of black guys that have hit on me will kinda grab on me or try to hold my hand. They'll be like "eh shawty what it is you look so fine" And look me up and down while they lick their lips. Also get to close and try to hold me. It freaks me out. I'm like I don't know you and you are in my personal bubble and its just way too much. You need to be nice, nonthreatening, and make her feel comfortable by not getting all up in her personal space.

ALWAYSclassy · Accepted Answer

You're being hypocritical. So it's okay for you as a black guy to date white girls, but a black girl can't date a white guy? If you really feel that way then you shouldn't be dating out of your race at all. Get over it.

Also it sounds like you date white girls because you can't get a black one. Correct me if I'm wrong but that's how your post came off. If so, that is really disrespectful to the girls you are dating.

I do know a few guys who feel that way though. One of my cousins is like that too; he is like the Rainbow Coalition with all the girls he dates. He goes for every race of girl but mostly white but hates when black girls date white guys. He says he feels like white men are taking "their" women when really black girls don't belong to anyone.

If you want a black girlfriend go affter her like you do white girls. Don't get mad at another guy because he's with someone and happy, you could be too if you played your cards right. The other guy probably made a move faster and made his intentions known. You had a chance to get that girl if you were talking to her forever but she probably felt like the other guy was more into her than you were since you didn't try to take it to the next level like he did.

voodoochild · Accepted Answer

Hey man,

I think your suffering of an emotional rage at the moment.

Stuff in your personal life hasn't gone the way you want it and now your making general assumptions about the whole crowd in general.

Like when women get used by a a guy and then call all guys jerks lol.

You've been outplayed; a superior male got your target and you got p*ssed.

Big deal, happens all the time.

Step up your game and you won't get these kind of situations any more lol.

A few things that keep you from getting laid:

"I've been talking to this girl forever" Yeah you should have made a move faster :D

If you beat around the bush to much, girls will lose interest.

They like a man who will take initiative and action and who dares to take a risk.

Second, you have this thing, not sure if there's a name for it but it basically comes down that the actions of women determine your behaviour.

Women don't like men who get overly jealous, overly happy or sad by them

Jealous; means you think you're not worthy of her and that you view yourself as a unwanted person.

Happy; means you never get laid and drool all over a girl once you get a small chance.

Sad; same as above, but that you get p*ssed if things don't go your way because you "ruined your chance" instead of thinking "she missed out"

You can find a more detailed description on page 38 of this book link

thatoneguy · Accepted Answer

youre mad cause it ain't you f***ing it and you're  wondering why a white guy is f***ing that but you're not. just  because the girl is black and you're black you think it some how entitles you to a black girl before a white guy because lets be honest there is nothing in you're question that wasn't someting to do with skin color and you have dated or  f***d white girls so you're a racist and when think its all right for you to f*** a white girl but a black girl f***ing a white guy. f***in HATER.you are a straight up HATER

dollhouse · Answer

yeah, um it's totally you. You have to step your game up, alittle, you know.

lol I kid, I kid. Um I think you answered you own question. But jsyk, maybe if you stop viewing black girls as a general type, instead of seeing girls as an individual, than MAYBE you'll actually find a girlfriend.

'i can't even get a black girl?" what is that suppose to mean? It sounds to me that you can't seem to find any type of girl. And also...maybe you just have some sorta envy issue towards white guys. Like for example, you might want a specific thing they have and you don't have...like maybe since you like white girls and their white so-they relate to them in that way, makes you jealous or mad. So when you see them getting a girl from your race or something, it gets you frustrated because they're like getting close to something that's close to you-but you can't get them. So you feel like its not fair.

Do you know what I mean?

It's like lets say, I'm unpopular and I see a popular girl wearing a cool pair of boots that I want, but don't got...so I get mad. You see?

timberlake · Answer

LOL

i'm sorry, but that''s hilarious. this is the double standard I'm talking about. you can get as many white girls as you want, but if a black girl gets a white guy, it's the apocolypse? you're not racist, you're just hyprocritical. don't be angry because a white guy can pull a black girl faster than you. that's not a matter of race, it's a matter of his approach. you may try and act as white as possible (do you think that if you act white you'll get black girls? lol - I was confused on that part) but you're still just a black dude trying to act white.

maybe these black girls like these white guys because they're true to themselves and aren't trying so hard to date a black girl just because. you need to relax and start changing the way you approach women - no matter what their race is. you need to be looking for a girl you like and not a race you like.

Little-Hippie · Answer

I think you're looking at the entire situation the wrong way.

You should be endorsing that fact that white men are now open to dating black women.

Ethnic groups are coming together, and racial barriers are dissipating.

It's a wonderful thing, considering that in recent polls, very few white guys are open to dating black girls.

Think of it more as a victory for humanity.

plus,

While the white guy is distracted with the black girl, you can go and get the white girl!

Everyone wins!

Yaaaay Confetti!

gravygirl · Answer

Maybe it comes from you taking it as the girl preferring something you can't be.  Kind of like if a guy told me he'd only date girls who were 6 feet or taller.  That would bug me a bit.  And if you threw in that the thing I could never be also had a long history of being an oppressor to people like me, I'd probably be pretty damn angry too.  I don't think it's something you should act on or anything like that, but I think feeling that way is totally okay.  Especially in the way you're doing it, having the feeling, but also being aware of it and (hopefully) not letting it take control of your actions.

Charnelle · Answer

So you've dated white girls and now that you want a black girl, you get mad that you see them with a white guy. Hmmm someone is a bit of a hypocrite, don't you think. And why do you want a black girl now? Do you want to sleep with one or have a real relationship? You should ask yourself that before getting mad at a black girl/white guy relationship. And stop getting so angry because I'm sure you didn't appreciate it when you were dating white girls.

I'm not trying to be mean just being honest. I get upset when black guys get mad when they see a black girl/white guy couple. I just ask them do you get mad at your black guy friends that date white girls? And very often the answer is no. So it just comes off as a double standard, they can do it but we can't.

If you truly want to date a black girl just be yourself and maybe you'll find one that will like you just the way you are.

Dela1111 · Answer

Everyones at least a little bit racist so quit trying to act like you're color blind, its not a bad thing as long as you're not closed minded on an individual basis.

Firstly you shouldn't take your personal failures out on others, if you can't get a black girl that's your own fault, not the white guys.

I get p*ssed when I see a black guy with a white or especially an asian girl because part of me thinks that she's making a giant mistake, but I just think that its their decision. I have my own fiancee and I'm the only guy she's ever dated, so I don't need to worry about anyone else.

CuddlyCarla · Answer

If you weren't racist, then it wouldn't matter to you either way. And frankly, what is up with everyone being in eachother's business? It isn't your girlfriend, so live and let live. Your inability to get a girl has nothing to do with someone else's success. It sounds like you need to work on your own game and not blame others because you can't get it together.

sunspotmia · Answer

I'm white and I think some black men are handsome, so why shouldn't a white man see attractivness in a black woman? It's exotic and sexy what the two of them have.

SmileyDancer · Answer

I feel the same way...then yet I don't

I am a black girl and I am a little into a black guy, but I really honestly perfer a white guy over a black guy.

I am mostly in honors classes and there are usually white guys in there!

People always say I act white and talk white blah blah blah...w/e!

I like who I like

You being mad when you see a black girl with a white guy is probably because of jealousy

aceofdiamond · Answer

well, it seems that those girls you want to date are not interested in you. or maybe you may be laying hints but they're not picking up the hints. the girls might want to go out with you but don't want to wait around forever for you to get the nerve to ask them out.

regular-guy · Answer

I would guess, 1) you are jealous and a bit bitter because they are getting something you want but can't get but think you should be able to get easier than them, and 2) you are just a little bit racist.  Don't feel bad, most of us have a little bit of latent racism in us if you push things just the right (wrong) way.

Bureezay · Answer

It would probably p*ss me off too.

Im not racist eather,but what's sad is that most of the time,inter racial couples are not excepted.

If a white girl marrys a black guy,the black girl would have a hard timem fitting into the black culture,and if a white guy marries a black girl,the black girl would probably have a hard time fitting into the white culture.

shadowcat517 · Answer

Maybe it's because you're black and, since you want a black girlfriend, it's a little unfair that you can't get one, but you see that some white guys can. Honestly, as a black girl, I tend to only go for white guys, but that's probably just because I'm mostly around white guys.

djstizl · Answer

Maybe it's just where you live bro, because I don't see any white dude/black girl combos around my area. I wouldn't have a problem with it though. To me it seems like you might be upset no matter who got the girl, just because he got her instead of you. Just play it a bit more chilled and you'll find a girl.

onebozo · Answer

my opinon is your jelous,i used to be the same way when I saw a black guy with a white girl I'm white,but I got over it ,i think there's just got to be more interracial cupples in our socity for poeple to get used to it. keep trying you'll find a gal.

stevo · Answer

I'm a white guy and see a black guy with a white girl, and it first, it bothered me, but it really just doesn't phase me anymore. I'm not being racist or anything, but at the time, I didn't understand it either, just like you didn't. But trust me, you will find yourself a girl.

DuggieFresh · Answer

Because its one less for you and one more for me? Kidding! but really I don't know, I mean what about a black guy with a white girl? what are you thoughts?

AdrianaFL · Answer

Well what do you think when you see a black man with a white women? I hope you feel the same way you black men think that they you can have any white girl but it's bad when you see a black woman who feels the same about white men. Please. Tell me how you feel when you see a black man with a white girl. Because if you don't like it then  fine but if your okay with that your going to need to reallyyyy think about that. Respond please.(:

Anonymous · Answer

WHAT COUNTRY ARE YOU ACTAULLY FROM?  AND ITS BECAUSE YOU ARE RACIST YOU BELEAVE YOUR OWN COLOUR SHOULD BE WITH YOUR OWN COLOUR.. THIS HAS REALLY PISSED ME OFF..I MEAN WHY EVEN SAY IT DO YOU NOT THINK ALOT OF PEOPLE HAVE THIS PROBLEM LIKE ACTUALLY IVE NOTCIED ALOT OF WHITE BOYS GET ANNOYED WITH WHITE GIRLS GOING WITH BLACK BOYS ..IM A GIRL AND I DONT REALLY SEEM TO CARE WHO GOES WITH WHAT I JUST FIND THIS SO ANNOYING

ktbeasleyze · Answer

idk, dude but I'm the same way. I'm a white girl and a see a black and white pair I feel so disgusted. I'm not racist either but I just reminds us be with our own race.

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