I do not understand why black women have the worst attitude?

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First off, I am black. This is not a joke or a white person behind the computer. I do not understand why I shop in grocery stores in my neighborhood and the black women are so mad. The black women I encountered today were negative or say things that are unnecessary. One told me she was going "kick my ass at one store and the other store I felt threatened by two black women because of my card and they did not want to do their job. You do not even have to provoke them and they are upset. I am trying to understand this. No one says anything when somebody get shot and killed in our neighborhoods but everyone has something to say unnecessarily. I go to Whole Foods and no problem. I even shop with Mexicans and no problems. I do hate to shop in white neighborhoods sometimes because they think I am stealing and I never stole in my life. Anyways, I just would like to know why black women have the worst attitudes? I hate it and I wish we can treat each other better.

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Yeah, I know anyone can be rude, but not like a black woman though. I wish we would stop ignoring our behavior. I have not gone to a store yet and a white, arab, Mexican, or Asian told me they were going to "kick my ass on their job" when I do I will update this. I would like to proven wrong.

STEPHGIRL · Accepted Answer

You should work in retail because people from all different races have attitudes. I was a manager at a retail store and in the store we have 2 sets of registers (one in the front and one in the back. Anyway, this lady comes up to me and asks, "are the back registers open?" I told her no and she said, "you're rude." I helped three people into the fitting rooms, told the store manager what happened and when I came back one of the employees was ringing her up and I walked up there and I hear her tell him "I don't want her." I was going back and forth with her and she told me she wanted the store manager. So I went in the stockroom to get the store manager and when I came out while smiling she said "is she laughing?" And apparently she told the store manager that she wanted to stay there and make my life miserable. The lady was white by the way. I had another lady throw clothes at me (she was white), I argued with three women (they were black) about a price on a shirt because it was wrong and I even admitted it was wrong, they kept arguing with me so I got so fed up and I said, "are you going to buy the shirt?" and they told me no. These women started a pointless argument and they didn't even want the shirt in the end. I even got into arguments with Asian men, and white men.

Oh and one of the other managers at the job got into it with a Hispanic girl who really wanted to make her life miserable. The other manager was working in another store but under the same company. Anyway, something happened between the manager and the customer and allegedly the customer said that the manager told her she doesn't look good in the company's clothing. The customer spoke to the store manager of that store, the store manager of our store, she spoke to me one night, and another manager at the other store. The customer even spoke to the district manager but she kept harassing her. She even wrote her a ten page packet basically calling her ugly and just demeaning her. It didn't stop there. She kept calling, I guess she thought the district manager was going to fire her, but she kept calling and she even gave her another packet that was demeaning. Finally, security told her that she couldn't come back in the store.

Basically, anyone can have an attitude and anyone can be rude, trust me it's not only black women. Try working in retail and you will see.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

African American culture prides itself on keeping it real. We don't fake our emotions. Some people take this to the extreme. Me, if I don't like you, I won't fake and pretend to like you, but I won't be unnecessarily hostile either. I just won't f*** with you. I probably come off rude to some people because I don't smile a lot and I keep to myself. even though I'm sure if I was a white girl it would be excused as "she's just shy/pensive" but because its a-ok to stereotype black women, I am probably seen as a ghetto mean attitudy bitch lol. whatever.

but anyway it sounds like you were dealing with some hood bitches who like to fight and keep up drama.

But by saying that black women have the worst attitudes, no I don't think so. many nonblack people can be even more treacherous and evil than blacks. the black girl may have threatened to kick your ass, but a hateful white girl will stop at nothing to ruin your life and career and sabotage your sh*t. White folks will smile in your face (good attitude on the surface) but ruin your life when your back is turned. personally, I would rather deal with the openly hostile black woman. she's a harmless threat who's just talking sh*t for the most part. the person you need to be worried about is that becky smiling in your face.

and I work customer service/retail, some of the nastiest attitude having customers I have experienced are white males and Indians of any gender. they can be really nasty and rude. but you know what is so interesting, I doubt I will ever witness other white males talking about how sh*tty white men are. or see an Indian down their own people.

Belleoftheball · Accepted Answer

*Sigh*...

I know what you mean. For some reason black women just don't smile, which is what kills our chances of ever being approached by people ( especially men).

It's mostly because of the way they've grown up. It wasn't easy for us you know. When you live a rough life your not going to be patient with everyone. You and I both know we go through enough bullsh*t in this world. Believe it or not most of us grew up in single parent homes,(with an absent father so we had to play both the man/woman roles) criticized for our hair, hell even the black community itself has displayed racism towards each other. Like what is with this dark skinned-light skinned f***ery? We are all black to the police! You don't see white people saying #Teampaleskin #Teamtanned skin like wtf!? Oh and let's not forget our male counterparts, we are supposed to be enlighting and nurturing each-other but these days instead we're tearing each other down.So when so many bad experiences happen, we tend to become bitter and carry that weight on our shoulders. Don't get me started on BET. You will see that the majority of Black women on it are loud, angry, and have bad attitudes. If this is the type of image you see day in and day out, eventually, you'll believe it and in the case of many Black women, it is what they will become unless they are exposed to an alternative to this stereotype.

So from one colored woman to another when you see one of us act like that just move on. Not all of us are the same.

madhatters4 · Accepted Answer

i think a lot of black women have a built in resentment and disgust with the world. basically I think that black women have for centuries been used for their bodies, enslaved, faced discrimination, etc from populations. on top of that unfortunately black men are absentee fathers at a higher rate than any other race. essentially they have faced the hardship of not only being black but also being women and forced to be subervient to men. So for many the resentment, due to a sense of being absolutely alone in the world, manifests itself in anger towards other people even those who look like them

obviously this is not true for the entire population of black women and is merely my opinion but I do believe it to be to some extent the reason for their angry behavior, and sadly understandable. not that it makes their behavior OK (and I have faced it myself for no good reason more than I'd like to say...even on this site) but I guess understandable

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Blacks and women, are being taught they are victims of society and the feeling of being powerless can create a great deal of anger and resentment. So black women would have anger over the treatment of blacks, and anger of the treatment of women. Since people often take out their anger on the wrong people they often end up acting angry at everyone, including each other.

Black women in particular are often seen as the least physically attractive women, and nothing will hurt a woman like being seen as unattractive over something she can't help. I have found normally it is the women that thought they were ugly that have the worst personalities.

Janson · Answer

Ones upbringing has the most to do with why individuals turn out that way. Growing up as a black woman isn't the easiest thing in the world, so I imagine that to survive, a lot of black women (and I'm particularly talking about the older generation here) had to be toughenized to cope. Some of this is passed down to their children as life lessons but a lot of black women in the younger generation do realize that they don't really need to have the same kind of shields that their parents had, since things have progressed. So this would be my guess. The important thing though is not to generalize the situation

Anonymous · Answer

QA: I have noticed the same thing. I don't know why.

@SailorMoonPower, who said "Boy the black community sure needs some repair..."

I agree with you, but I believe what is needed is self-repair. The black community needs to look within and stop blaming everyone else for their issues. That only generates anger and resentment and is counterproductive.

Mr. Cosby was right. JMHO.

Five star question.

ras144 · Answer

"I do not understand why black women have the worst attitude?"

And I don't understand dumb racists have to be dumb racists who ask dumb shit like this. :)

Maybe they have bad attitudes because people like you ask stupid shit like this.

ChillWhiteGuy · Answer

they honestly irritate me.

they can't handle anything, but can dish it out.

I also dislike being called ugly by any black woman.

because most of them aren't exactly the ideal of beauty. I'm not in to the funky frizzy hair. I like straight, clean looking, hair.

maiez · Answer

I just feel like they are short tempered most of the time. Not saying all black women are like this though.

SailorMoonPower · Answer

If the world is always telling you that you're ugly wouldn't you be pissed too? Boy the black community sure needs some repair...

Anonymous · Answer

Well isn't those people who think you're stealing have a bad attitude also? But I see that you're part of the crowd who seems to extra special attention to what blacks do wrong.  Every black woman doesn't have a bad attitude.  Every race has their bad people  and everyone knows that deep down. But they all  purposely play like blacks are the only ones that do wrong.

1xadzy3dgSG · Answer

I don't even know how to answer this.

I do not understand why black women have the worst attitude?

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