People learn what they want in a partner through the dating process.
I will admit when I was 19, 21, & 25, what I THOUGHT I wanted in a female partner, I honestly realize I didn't want overall. Not just self-realization, but because I changed with a person over time as I age.
Same for other people.
Don't see it as "giving the best years to men that don't matter"; guys and girls alike are either dating to find out what they want, or are dating to find "the one" but happen to fail their first few iterations.
This love thing is so much trial and error more than anything else.
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Because when they are in their 20s they are not wise enough to see the mistake they are making.
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I find your assumption that past 30 you've past your prime pretty offensive or that women choose not to settle down before 30. I was in an 8 year relationship which fell apart because by boyfriend proposed and took it back because HE wasn't ready. This was mind you in my 20's. I actually feel my best years are now, I'm still living my life but I'm old enough to have a better perspective on my life, life in general and relationships. My friends haven't settled down because the guys haven't been ready to as well
I'm not waiting till a certain age but I would rather be older than younger. You have the rest of your life to be with this person. I want to travel the world hang out wtih my girlfriends try new things and just be independent without having to worry about a signifcant other
Most men want to settle down later in life, so why should women put their lives on hold for men who aren't going to do the same?
Also, the average person in America isn't financially stable in their 20's. So bringing marriage into the equation is asking for a divorce.
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I get my best years, and the crap ones too. I choose to share them with other people. My 20s are for me to do as much exploring, experiencing and just enjoying myself. A husband would mean I have to consider him in those plans, and I'd rather be able to be selfish.
I am in my 20s and don't see myself settling down until at least 30 at the earliest. Why should I when I am not done exploring, living my life, becoming established, and developing as a person? It's not 1925 where I need to get married right after high school to ensure my virginity or some shit. Most people want to date around so they can learn about themselves and know what they really want. You have your whole life to be someone's wife, why get tied down now?
Why do men get to wait until THEIR 30's to settle down and get mature at the normal human rate yet women are not allowed the same freedom? Ask yourself that question next time.
I don't know what women you're talking to but I personally am not planning to wait for any particular age. I am waiting for the right man.
That's not true for all. I'm 19, and I want to get married within the next 3 years. I just don't have the means to now.
I agree with you though, I want to give my husband the best years of my life and experience everything with him, and not random guys.Are these women in their 20's married? Believe me, the best years are yet to come. Wait Till they hit their 30's. The best years are yet to come, and you have many many if them ahead.
Shouldn't the woman herself get the best years of her own life? Meaning, shouldn't she spend them as she pleases?
I haven't got a certain age in mind to settle down for me its when I meet the right guy and you can't see yourself with anyone else...honestly if someones telling you they're not ready to settle down they're fobbing you off!
Some do and some don't. I'd rather be 30 to settle down to be honest. I'll get married tomorrow if I found the right guy. I'd have a child for him the day after that if we both wanted it. But settle down? I'm too young for that haha
Why is a woman after her 30's past her best years? I feel bad for whoever you end up with
I don't. I want to get engaged NOW, and married in two years at 23.
im 20 and di wanna settle now so that question isn't valid for most
Not all women do? I think most women are married by their 30's. I'm not waiting for a certain age, I'm waiting until I'm financially stable, I already found the right man and I'm 19.
I was settled down and engaged and I am just 23 found the love of my life had a lovely family, Happiness never lasts, He left and broke my heart now I will never want to settle down to soon again!
Men are the same way. Shouldn't you be investing all that time chasing women you could never get into one woman?
there's no hurry
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