What does it mean when a guy says you're his "best friend"?

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Ok, what I mean is when a guy says to a girl "You are one of my best friends" or "You're my best friend" Does he actually think more of you? Like when a guy says that does he mean something deeper than what he says? For an example when he says it does he really mean he likes you as a girlfriend? Or is it just merely you're his best friend and nothing more? Just curious, I am not serious about it, I just don't know if guys say these things to almost give the girl the hint that he likes her more than a friend and wants her as a girlfriend? or if he just means you're his best friend?. Please Answer! I am so curious! Thank you! :)

HandsomeRaj · Accepted Answer

When I tell a girl that she's my best friend, then I mean it as it is that she's someone who I can talk to about anything that comes to my mind, someone who'll know, understand (try to to the best of her ability) and accept me and not judge me with preconceived ideas / notions.

Someone so close to me that I can even tell her outright when I'm horny or if I want to have sex with her (if I feel that way i.e. and she can do the same too) and even if she doesn't think that's going to happen she won't judge me or think otherwise but appreciate honesty. Why I state sex is cause it's considered the epitome of understanding / misunderstanding in a relationship and generally defines it. However, in this case it will be more emotional than FWB types. It's more of being a friend in all situations w/o judging each other.

If I'm a best friend to a girl then the I'd be the same way.

That's me. However, it's an individual situation varies from person to person how they define it. I'm sure you get that from the answers here ;) :D

Popnlock · Accepted Answer

I think he's playing it neutral... I believe men and women can't be friends unless there's 0 attraction or the guys gay... I'm assuming he liked you awhile ago but you friend zoned him now he's that guy who's cool with just being friends waiting for something more to happen... Classic scenario

simplyaramdomgirl · Accepted Answer

Guys are usually very blunt when they want to be. If he says you're his best friend that's it. You're in the friend zone, and normally if a guy puts you in the friend zone it's a dead end, you're not coming out of it in a long-ass time. So no don't get your hopes up, when you're the best friend you're kind of like their favorite hoodie. They don't fuck their favorite hoodie. The only other meaning that it could have is if you're already in the relationship. If you're already in a relationship and he calls you his best friend then that means that you are the person whom he trusts the most, and who he confides in the most. Best of luck!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think it could be either. That you are actually his best friend or maybe he likes you. It's hard to tell sometimes. I had something like this happen. I liked this guy a lot and we talked every day. One night he just casually said that I was his best friend. And he also said things that made me think he thought of me as more, but it's so difficult to tell sometimes. Anyway, a month later he got drunk and called me one night. He left a voicemail telling me he liked me. I never knew for sure until that moment. So, it just depends. I think you just have to look for signs.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

So he "confessed" some feelings some months ago, you said that you just wanted to be friends, and he got angry. Obviously, he feels an attraction to you and wants to be more than just friends. So you know that there is some chemistry present. And you must feel some attraction to him or you wouldn't waste time asking this question, right?

So now he says you are his best friend. Most people want their romantic partner to be their best friend and it sounds as if you two are on the verge of developing a relationship, but the previous "I just want to be friends" thing is making him hold back.

You hug him in a friendly way, right? Go out to dinner with him, have a good time, and at the end of the evening, give him a hug - a full body hug with both arms around his waist. Then pull your head back while keeping your arms around his waist, with just a few inches between your faces. Look into his eyes, stare for a few seconds, then close your eyes, purse your lips very slightly, and move your lips towards his. He will meet you halfway, I'm sure!

ohsheeT · Answer

It means one day he had to make a choice
It was a very hard choice
Options were to try to pick up on you get in your pants. and try to date you

Or thinking ahead know the odds of it working out as girlfriend boyfriend were slim knowing who you both are

So he did the right thing sucked it up and said you were more important to him as a friend. Than being selfish and only think about him getting laid

And by doing so he's he got to learn
Unconditional love respect friendship Bond and house strong he is and he respects that he respects you
So now looks at you as his best friend somebody that he loves unconditionally somebody that he respects somebody that he trust and you know would do anything in the world for you

Pinay_ako · Answer

I was told three times by 3 different guys of these lines... They all didn't mean it. They were in love with me because they told me years later, they'd rather have me in their lives as their friend than lose me because I had a boyfriend back then when I was friends with them. But when I tell a guy, he's my best friend, I mean it..

Genie23 · Answer

It means exactly what he said. He thinks of you as a close friend whom he trust a lot and someone he feels comfortable sharing his happiness and sorrows with.

If he likes you more than a friend, then he would have asked you out or made it kind of obvious by giving you compliments, hit on you and say things that makes it obvious that he truly desires/wishes to be your partner.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I have only one male friend and he’s gay.  Other than that all male friends I had eventually wanted to be my boyfriends.  So, I would rather not waste not my nor their time.

Logorithim · Answer

Take him at his word. Women can be great platonic friends.

Avicenna · Answer

I would tend to think it's a recognition of your reliability and compatibility as a friend

Some_Goof · Answer

Its just merely means you're his best friend nothing more.

Lliam · Answer

I don't know. It depends on the relationship. It could be platonic.

I had lots of best guy friends in my life. But people usually grow apart as time passes. I remained good friends with a few people throughout my entire life and am still in contact. One in particular was my best friend ever. I met him when I started a new job when I was 26. He was maybe 4 or 5 years older than me. We stayed in touch for 40 years. Once we were both retired, we talked on the phone at least once a week and sometimes for hours. We had so much in common. He passed away from a heart attack a couple years ago. I really miss him.

I was never into hook up culture. I always preferred having a girlfriend and being in a mutually infatuated relationship.

What that felt like to me was, she was my best friend. We loved hanging out, going places and doing things together, holding hands, walking with our arms around each other, sharing experiences, laughing, kissing, doing sexual things, confiding in each other.

We would get to know each other intimately, develop trust, and engage in enthusiastic, unbridled sex.

So a female best friend was my ideal. But it didn't mean that I had to have my sights on marriage. I figured that marriage was a once in a lifetime thing; the most important decision I would ever make. It would be life changing, like starting the final chapter in my life. So I needed to be with her for a long time and become certain that I would be happy spending the rest of my life with her.

And I wasn't motivated by a need to start a family. I just loved having a female best friend.

My wife is my best friend ever. We trust each other 100% and have each other's backs, no matter what. We've been married now for almost 26 years. I'd be lonely and miserable without her.

Finchie40 · Answer

I can’t speak for every guy but if I tell a girl that she is my best friend and that I love being around her and I invest a lot of my time into her, then yes I like her more than just a best friend , if I tell a girl she is one of my best friends and I am not investing a lot of my time into her , then I just like her as a Friend while keeping my options opened basically I like hanging out with you and talking to you when I see you , but I don’t feel the attraction and chemistry I am looking for with you , but I still think you are a cool person , so I usually won’t tell a girl she is my best friend until I am in a relationship with her , other than that I usually won’t say it all , cuz I know most girls’ tend to take things the wrong way and assume , I have to hots for her , when really I don’t. Guy’s and Girl’s are different , we don’t really think alike and assume things differently , just the way it goes for the most part , their has been so many times I was just being friendly with a girl just having casual conversation not realizing she was thinking I was hitting on her when really I wasn’t , The same thing happens to girl’s that were just being friendly to me while I am thinking she wants to rip my clothes off , It happens lol

Gibbons44 · Answer

There is a difference between friend-no-attraction and friend-I'd-really-like-to-be-with-you. The one time I naturally got close to a girl was when we first became good friends. Best and most natural relationship I ever developed, even if it lasted for 3 months only (until I moved towns).

She used to take me to small pubs in a picturesque European town we both lived in at the time. Was expecting to remain living there all my life, basically. It was when the times were still good, in 2001, a quiet town, next to zero crime in it, just a few not-so-pretty migrants, no terrorists, no drugs, no raping conceivable, etc.

Later on I started having doubts since it happened to be in a country in which prostitution is legal, so one can never be certain whether she did any of that, or had a boyfriend (or a few) along the way.

It was perfect whilst it seemed innocent (in the sense that she wasn't seeing anyone else).

I'd still go down that same route as my preference providing the girl isn't a prostitute, nor a porn star/ex-porn star, nor seeing anyone else. But then I am not, so I easily assume thatto be the case - even if some of the girls I meet seem to be at least one, and possibly all 3, of those things.

I think porn got people to stop being friends, since anyone one is not friends with is much easier to dump.

Secure1993 · Answer

I do not know about others but for me I would say a big no. When he says you re my best friend it clearly state u re as good as his sister. I am a girl that have spend all her life with male cause I am never good at making friendship with females and I have heard almost all my friends saying If I like her there is no way I can be her friend cause it wilk never work out, its like putting beans with a goat they say. I remember one of my friend denied a friend in my face every time she refered him to a friend. He would say I am not yr friend but everytime I reffered to him as we re friends he wouldn't object or oppose as time passed he expressed his feelings to her. Meaning he liked the girl. A man can never reffer to a woman he feel more for as best friend to hide his true intention. Never unless I do not know tht theory.

Kiss_Me · Answer

I'm a firm believer that when there are friends of the opposite gender one friend is usually attracted to the other.

Why they (both male and female) fail to act on it is the big question. The person with the attraction may feel "Friend -Zoned," or they consider the object of their desire as unobtainable. However, they still have plenty in common and enjoy each other's company so they have become close friends.

"Your my best friend" is sometimes the closest term of endearment they say without embarrassing themselves.

It's OK to have these types of friends. Just remember not to say unintentionally means things. Saying, "UGH, I wish I could date ONE guy that gets me!!" ... and the guy is sitting right next to you.

SammyGurl · Answer

Means that you're his best friend! Doesn't rule out romantic thoughts on his part. I think it's easier to fall for your best friend than a random guy, you already have a relationship with your best friend. Met my best guy friend when I was five, he was six and lived just down the road. We spent more time together than we did with our own families, so much so that which kid belonged to which family was kind of a blur! One thing led to another and we both fell head over heels for our bestie, been married almost four years now and loving being together with our best friend for life!!

ChocolateGoldRose · Answer

It depends...

It could actually mean that he has indeed friend zoned you or that he genuinely cares about you as a person and ever given the chance, I think he’d consider dating you because you two already have a history and he feels like he can confide in you when he doesn’t have anyone else. You’re an important person in his life and if he keeps bringing up the fact that you’re his best friend, it could be that he’s waiting to see if you feel the same or if you have feelings for him, that he might actually have for you on the low.

Janieyu · Answer

my guy best friend fell in love with me while he use to call me Sister and homie, i think this is the perfect guy if you want to get married, take your best friend if he is a straight up guy of course. In your case, it's inevitable :p i think he likes you, the fact that he tells you : "you friendzoned me, wth" shows that he got kinda hurt from this, and that hurted his male ego, and so as a defense mechanism he playing it cool by putting you in the " friendzone shelf' to make himself feel superior and to kinda rescore :p but hey, its a misundrestanding, if you want him bad, you need to observe, try him before doing anything ! confronting him to the truth will save you so much time but if he rejects you it will hurt like a buttstick in the ass lol xD good luck

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Unless there’s an awkward context behind it, I would assume that he just means you’re his best friend or at least a good friend.

If there’s romantic feelings behind it, then what he said he’s gonna be awkward and you’ll be able to pick up on that.
A guy with a backbone would just tell you straight up that he likes you sell a guy who says you’re my best friend when he means I have a crush on you it’s gonna be awkward.
Don’t get me wrong guys absolutely do do that but it’s always awkward.

mstbooblover · Answer

It's not because a guy likes a woman he only thinks of getting in bed with her. Potentially, a straight guy has that in mind, yes, but a woman can be appreciated for other things than sex, and thus having a real best female friend is possible, the more the lady can be engaged with another guy or girl.

Having had some good female friends during years, I can tell you that at some point, if that friendly relation after many years would turn into a bed relation, odds are very high that would mean the end of a friendly relation. Even the mere suggestion of getting more intimate made me lose one of those female friends...

sheenagwapa · Answer

my ex would use to call me his bestfriend... i think my ex is very much comfortable with me that's why he said that and whwn you are comfortable with someone you likely wanna spend more time with them. my ex would said he lokes being with me more than his friends.

my ex has depression and at times i feel kinda annoyed at myself how come i didn't have any clue but when i had anxiety i also don't wanna share because i felt no one can help me. worst in my country if you have mental illness people think you are somewhat crazy.

GregT24 · Answer

Honestly, He likes you and wants to pursue something deeper than friendship. But not at the risk of losing you altogether. He is afraid that if one statement he makes that goes misinterpreted by you, it will blow any chance he has with you. So playing it safe and calling you a friend is his way of not crossing any line that might ruin your current relationship.

There is that line that men fear of putting themselves out there and blowing it...but that's also the same line you need to cross if you ever want someone to be more than friends. You can't be afraid or lack confidence as a man, however it sounds like he cares enough about you that he is leaving the door open. If you should ever give him a chance (provided he doesn't scoop someone else up in the meantime) He's saying that you would be worth waiting for...just my 2 cents :) good luck!

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