Why do guys overlook good girls?

OK I always hear nice guys complaining that girls don't like them but I don't even think they like nice girls. they always chase after girls that treat them like crap but completely ignoring girls that would actually be treating them right...so what do guys really want and what makes you overlook a girl? I'm tired of being overlooked do I have to become that hot snotty girl to get guys to notice me? they say they don't want that but it seems like mouth candy to me

 

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    it's allll a game.. life is a game ...

    You might be that girl that would treat them just like a god if you got with them and that is fine but first you have to reel them in and to do that you have to make them chase you.

    Don't be so nice at the beginning all the time... act tough but cute and flirty at the same time

    once you have them and they are interested be who you really are and if they like it they will stay around and if they don't then they will move on... not your loss because they obv weren't the right one for you

  • im the inbetween type

    i don't treat people like dirt, I usually tease/pick on people.. & I'm fiesty in a friendly way more times.


    & I hate doing that whole.. chase me to keep me ;) thing... seems kinda stupid & like

    too much work... as far as I'm concerned once we're checkin... you've kinda got me? how far can I get really? LOL :S


    & I have the "cute" image which I think I work well... & I don't have a bad girl image... because I'm from a ghetto area, I'm only bad girl when I'm angry lool

    what the people below are saying doesn't sound like my area definition of bad girl, just sounds like a flirt, a tease, or a d***head chick lol

    but even if I flirt and try to tease (I end up LOL'in, I can't carry it off)... everything ends up on a PLAYFUL vibe, more to the cute side? LOL

  • i don't think I'm a bad girl but all guys take interest in girls they think are way out of their league and its like I play the part and then just start the chase. some guys just love a girl that does things like that

  • don't change just to make a guy like you!

    be the nice person you are, and the right guy will appreciate you for you

  • Bad girls are sometimes aggressive, and I think this trait is what is attractive. It's different and it stands out but I do not think they have any advantage over you. You probably are much better off than they are in the Dude Dept. Just be more aggressive, and up front about who you are and what you are looking for. Don't look at the other girls, what they are doing. They don't matter, trust me.

  • Guys like the challenge/chase.

  • mostly because of sex, but once they are over them they talk about them and then they say why are girls sluts and stuff. well hello you wanted sex and if she didn't then they would go find someone else, but for that sitiuation I'm thinking good girl, bad guy. so how about looking for the good guy, you know he's sweet and kind.

  • Guys over look girls who are nice sometimes because they are either 1. immature or 2. the girl is soft-spoken and that doesn't grab a guy's attention

    You want to be someone confident so a guy can approach you or you can approach him in terms of dating. Plus being able to talk to each other and finding interests is important, regardless good or bad girl alike, communication is key if you're trying to secure a date.

    Guys don't think too differently from girls, it could be that they're busy and they don't notice you, they don't know you that well and they prefer dating within their circle of friends, they don't notice really shy and quiet girls and there are other reasons as well.

  • no, you don't have to be that "Fantasy bitchy Girl" that every guy wants to cater to.. if you just be you then the right guy that's acually ment for you will come around.. if you really want to become part of that chase that every girl wants to be apart of then that's up to you, but in the end you won't really know whose your real friends and who isnt.. if you change who you are you have to be willing to take the chances.. you seem like a nice person and it would suck to let some jerk that's looking for that high quality girl to treat him terrible and in the end wish he would have been with you.. be yourself.. and just make yourself a fun person to be around.. because that's what they want, they want someone who they can have fun around but not someone whose always gonna treat them like crap..because eventually, that's gonna get old to them. and when I say "have fun around" I don't mean have sex and all that stuff I mean just go out and be like a really good best friend.. and don't show that you have any feelings for him cause at the end of the day, He's gonna want to talk to you.

  • The key here is first impressions. If you're wearing a grandma sweater, pants, have your hair up and seem introverted, guys are going to overlook you. You don't have to be slutty though either, you just have to find a good balance. Guys want a girl they can take home to Mom, but behind closed doors is a freak. So a lot of times they see the girl with her boobs hanging out, flipping her hair and laughing obnoxiously loud and he's like BINGO there's a freak...but later realizes she has nothing really beyond the exterior. So help him out... if you know you're a good girl that he would want.. make yourself more noticeable.. show him some skin.. initiate a flirty conversation with him. Poor guys, they really are led around by their d***s! =P haha.

  • I'm a girl, so I can't really give an accurate answer... But if I had a d***, I would go after hot girls and not care about their personality. Although, that's probably just me.

  • nice guys like nice girls...relationships can last forever


    cruel guys like cruel girls...relationships last a small time

  • You don't need to worry about a guy noticing you. You should be the one noticing him. Every guy I've ever met says when it comes to meeting new people, girls have the better situation, because if a girl is outgoing, courageous, and confident in herself enough to talk to a total stranger guy, she obviously has the power to decide which guy she likes. Remember that relationships, especially new ones, are a leap of faith. You gotta take risks for someone else to trust you, and feel comfortable around you. I'm not saying point and demand the hottest guy in the room approach you, but don't be afraid to break the ice for no reason in the elevator. If a someone speaks to you, isn't it at least polite to respond? Shy girls and guys have to buck up that courage and be assured in that if chat goes sour, or the person just isn't your type, or you aren't theirs, drop it and move on. "hot snotty girls" and "good girls" who do get guys have one thing in common. They look like they don't need anyone but themselves to walk tall. Some hot girls end up treating guys like crap because they actually don't need anyone, and are not looking for a long term relationship. Hence petty drama, cheating, and general guy-abuse. Guys, and most girls, unless you're into the wounded type >_>, I like to think are the same in that respect. Shouldn't you have someone who is as awesome as yourself?

  • Probably cause nice girls aren't as outgoing as others. And they might try to go with the pretier ones

  • Read, "Why Men Love Bitches" by Sherry Argov. Guys like things that are not easy to come by, overly nice girls are doormats, you have to be sort of a bitch until they fall in love with you. Don't go out of your way to do stuff for guys, don't be the one texting/calling all the time, don't ask them for their number, don't be the one to always flirt with them, act like you have better sh*t to do than find a boyfriend, have a life, be interested in something besides guys, & don't worry about why guys like other girls & not you.

  • Lol. It probably is mouth candy for some of them. I think the nice ones do it because they like the challenge of chasing after a girl who is really difficult. That doesn't mean you should change your personality and become a mean, ...but you could try playing hard to get a little; see what happens. There's a skill tio it though. Watch and see how those girls do it. They play hard to get without really being hard to get.

    They present themselves a ssomething to be attained.

  • because good girls aren't hot.

    • Unfortunately that is just the way it is.

    • They don't seem hot, they even avoid it.

  • Guys don't overlook good girls.


    Guys don't want bad girls. Bad girls have a stigma of cheating, being slutty and being drama.


    Which is a paradox, considering that girls always want a bad boy. Anyway, that's another issue altogether..


    Don't become the snotty girl. You can still be the hot girl.


    I'm sure that a nice guy will come along and like you in all your niceness. Just give it time. You shouldn't ever have to change who you are to be with someone. You'd be lying to yourself and presenting a false representation of who you are in a relationship. And you don't want to have to pretend to be someone you're not. Eventually, the facade will wash away and then you'll be back where you started. Alone.

  • I know what you mean, I'm a nice girl who often gets overlooked/taken granted. My last boyfriend dumped me for a bitch when I treated him right.


    I think we might be overlooked because we don't put ourselves out there as much, and I definitely believe we're taken for granted because we tend to be doormats, not that it justifies other people treating us that way.


    Regardless, I don't think you should become a snotty girl just to be noticed. That will attract the wrong type of guy. One of the curses of being a good girl is that you often have to wait for love, but I think it will be worth it, because even though you'll have to weed out the douchebags like every other girl (such as in my situation), you won't have to deal with as many. There are good guys out there who appreciate and want good girls, you just have to be patient, and seek them out just like they're seeking out you.

    • I know there is more to life than that. What I meant was that when you ARE looking for a relationship, you have to seek out the good guys sometimes, because they're not always just going to find you. And "looking for love" doesn't always end in heartbreak for everyone. Wanting to find a good companion in life is normal.


      No need to insult me.

    • Looking for love is only going to end in heartbreak, people who "seek out" for girls/guys are desperate. Get a life, there's more than just having a gf/bf.

  • Good girls are generally boring. Give me a sexy minx with a riding crop over a suzie homemaker any day.

  • I will overlook a good girl that's not above average looking or better.

  • Where are they I haven't found them I always runing into girls that hot but they don't like me

  • You are wrong. There are guys out there, this one here, that like nice girls. I highly respect morals. Biggest thing is ..just have a life...if you do and you are at least someone okay at flirting..that should be all you need. Sure you may have to wait for some decent guy, but then again...its standard. Something just like your own personal standard. That's not a bad thing, but rather a good one because in the end you will thank the lord you kept strong in belief that he was out there..then give in for 2nd best (which 2/3 women do).


    Don't worry about guys...you are bound to meet someone eventually that paints your perfect guy picture...as long as you are putting yourself out there. Doing community work, clubs, extracuritculars hopefully. You don't have to go to bars to meet guys. Just do what you like...volunteer...the smart guys will know where to go to meet you (ei volunteering, big brother, etc)..


    We hate patience...but don't faultier.. have hope.

  • were do the good girls hang out. I want to go their

  • cos bad girls are so much fun

  • The very thing you don't want to become is exactly what they want during dating. Guys like a fun girl that keeps the chase going on. Nothing better than a BAD GIRL, that is until it is time to get MARRIED.

  • To like a girl there has to be some challenge, you do not need to be a snotty girl. To get noticed you just have to flirt and tease.

  • I believe the main reason for this is because when a 'bad' girl puts them down, men seem to take this as a challenge, knowing that if they do build a relationship with them, they would build a bit of self-esteem.


    I've been a firm believer in the opposite however, when guys get a bit more mature, they do tend to realise what they're doing and how backward it is. It's interesting to note that I've been in the same shoes as you with girls. Good girls tend to overlook me and I'm beginning to think that they believe that I'd be too easy to get.


    As for what guys really want?, they want attention, so even when they reject you, they're walking away with something, while you're left with nothing (not to mention feeling a bit embarassed with the whole situation). It feels awful, but it happens to nice guys too :(.

  • It's just the society your living in. A few years back it was worse. Thug culture is being pushed because we are still fairly primitive and a lot of people think like that. It's getting better though look at the metro-sexual trend and the emo's and such people. They are hated because they defy the petty thug stereotype and dare to be them selves The girls that are disrespectful don't' get the time of day from me, I won't even do business with them as a business person because you can't trust people like that. Those girls (like their male counterparts) suck to no end I dispise them they are nothing but trouble. Every retired cop has more than a few gray hairs on her or his head put there by such stupid moronic people.


    That a girl not act that way is a must for me but It's also important to take care of your self . If your 30 lbs overweight that's not a plus. If your clothing is bland and boring and you don't express any fashion sense that's boring as well. Think about what you like, dressing is an art form. I'm always more attracted to women that look sharp and sexy than I am to some girl in jeans and a tee shirt with flat hair because she is boring to look at. Nothing says you can't look hot and NOT be some stupid ass. You can weir wet look leggings and PH8 etc and still be a decent person. Think how far ahead of the monic stupid thugs THAT will put you.

  • Honestly I wish I could say why I do it, but I do let girls treat me like dirt.


    It's not that I have a thing for people who treat me badly, usually I think the person I'm with is nice. It just never works out, but I think that is more me than them. They smell loser and run like the wind. Nice girls don't want a loser any more than snotty girls do.

  • I could answer your question with a question. Why does it seem like nice girls overlook nice guys? I think that you are not around the right guys. There are guys out there that would like a nice girl. I personally prefer a nice girl over those stuck up ones that are always more worried about themselves than anyone else. I think the guys that are doing that are as snotty as those girls they are chasing. I believe that the reason why the guys chase after those kinds of girls is because those kind of girls are doing the chasing. The nice girls are not snooty so they are not compatable with those kinds of guys. I would suggest you find a guy who is like you and go from there. You can do what you want with this advise, but I don't think that you should change who you are and become one of those other girls just so you can be in a relationship. There are other nice guys that would die for a nice girl. You have to wait for the right one to come along...that;s what I am doing.

  • What a real guy wants is confidence. A girl who can be both the saint and the devil. We want a girl who is not afraid to be comfortable with herself and around guys, a girl with a sense of humor and playful (not slutty) nature. Like a girl who will flirt and sometimes use it to be funny. Like we like a girls who will be real. We want the girl that flirts and makes you chase her and work for it. That's the girl we really want. However, we are very sex driven at times (most of the time lol), so that's why most go with the slutty girls, in order to get some. You see if the slut can hook us in now they have us for a few then get thrown away in a few days,... but if the real girl can hook us in then were definitely not leaving.

  • oh becuz we think we know a lot but truly we don't like it depends on situation you can't approacch a guy on the bar table and ask him to be your future husband sometimes it happens sometimes its a one time deal but you know just take care

  • darling its the human condition want what you can't have both sexes do it guy go for the girls that treat them like crap and the girls go for the jackass that will sleep with her friends or sister

  • Guys want women that are nice outside the bedroom and naughty inside it, who are not slutty in their behaviour with friends and socially mature but seductive when alone one on one. Good girls never stop being good girls and that is like dating someone with no intimacy experience which sucks. Its being a bit of everything and not one thing or type that makes women interesting. Men want a challenge and that means you must defy them at times in a way that is common sense. If you are too good they asume you are needy and they don't like that.

  • Maybe you're too easy (NOT SEX but like you become interested in a guy with ease) and men want what they can't have that's how we measure worth (and vice versa.)

  • ...hell I'd like to meet a good girl to marry (am 22 years old)... I just don't find any out there. I dont' know where you are coming from?

  • ah yes, the age old question. this one goes both ways of course since nice girls go for pricks as well. I honestly think it is as simple as this: we ultimately want someone nice for settling down when we are older, but for now it is much more exciting to be with someone a little crazy who we never know what to expect from. we pretend like we don't and when things go wrong and we break up someone we had fallen in love with we complain about it and say we want someone nice, but ultimately we usually want someone exciting and entertaining and this usually means going for someone less nice. nice is security and trust, but boring. bad girls and guys and not trustworthy but fun.


    this is how it goes I believe. some girls and guys have realized this dynamic and act jerkish to score more mates. the nice ones stick to their guns and generally end up with someone good in the long run, but struggle in youth. go for a nice guy just after he has had his heart crushed by a mean girl. he will be most open to a nice unexciting girl at that time because he will be sick of the crap you get from mean girls.

  • i think its more the problem that nice girls want bad guys (even thought they say its not true), plus in my situation its because people think I am not that good looking, I mean yes I am 5 ft 8 220, but I work out everyday, I don't eat the greatest, but its not like I'm sitting on my butt all day eating mickey d's yet girls think I'm just a fat ass, same things for guys too.

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