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I know what you mean, I'm a nice girl who often gets overlooked/taken granted. My last boyfriend dumped me for a bitch when I treated him right.
I think we might be overlooked because we don't put ourselves out there as much, and I definitely believe we're taken for granted because we tend to be doormats, not that it justifies other people treating us that way.
Regardless, I don't think you should become a snotty girl just to be noticed. That will attract the wrong type of guy. One of the curses of being a good girl is that you often have to wait for love, but I think it will be worth it, because even though you'll have to weed out the douchebags like every other girl (such as in my situation), you won't have to deal with as many. There are good guys out there who appreciate and want good girls, you just have to be patient, and seek them out just like they're seeking out you.
Looking for love is only going to end in heartbreak, people who "seek out" for girls/guys are desperate. Get a life, there's more than just having a gf/bf.
I know there is more to life than that. What I meant was that when you ARE looking for a relationship, you have to seek out the good guys sometimes, because they're not always just going to find you. And "looking for love" doesn't always end in heartbreak for everyone. Wanting to find a good companion in life is normal.
No need to insult me.
i think its more the problem that nice girls want bad guys (even thought they say its not true), plus in my situation its because people think I am not that good looking, I mean yes I am 5 ft 8 220, but I work out everyday, I don't eat the greatest, but its not like I'm sitting on my butt all day eating mickey d's yet girls think I'm just a fat ass, same things for guys too.
Lol. It probably is mouth candy for some of them. I think the nice ones do it because they like the challenge of chasing after a girl who is really difficult. That doesn't mean you should change your personality and become a mean, ...but you could try playing hard to get a little; see what happens. There's a skill tio it though. Watch and see how those girls do it. They play hard to get without really being hard to get.
They present themselves a ssomething to be attained.
im the inbetween type
i don't treat people like dirt, I usually tease/pick on people.. & I'm fiesty in a friendly way more times.
& I hate doing that whole.. chase me to keep me ;) thing... seems kinda stupid & like
too much work... as far as I'm concerned once we're checkin... you've kinda got me? how far can I get really? LOL :S
& I have the "cute" image which I think I work well... & I don't have a bad girl image... because I'm from a ghetto area, I'm only bad girl when I'm angry lool
what the people below are saying doesn't sound like my area definition of bad girl, just sounds like a flirt, a tease, or a d***head chick lol
but even if I flirt and try to tease (I end up LOL'in, I can't carry it off)... everything ends up on a PLAYFUL vibe, more to the cute side? LOL
Bad girls are sometimes aggressive, and I think this trait is what is attractive. It's different and it stands out but I do not think they have any advantage over you. You probably are much better off than they are in the Dude Dept. Just be more aggressive, and up front about who you are and what you are looking for. Don't look at the other girls, what they are doing. They don't matter, trust me.
Honestly I wish I could say why I do it, but I do let girls treat me like dirt.
It's not that I have a thing for people who treat me badly, usually I think the person I'm with is nice. It just never works out, but I think that is more me than them. They smell loser and run like the wind. Nice girls don't want a loser any more than snotty girls do.
mostly because of sex, but once they are over them they talk about them and then they say why are girls sluts and stuff. well hello you wanted sex and if she didn't then they would go find someone else, but for that sitiuation I'm thinking good girl, bad guy. so how about looking for the good guy, you know he's sweet and kind.
just have confidence in yourself
dont be needy
and don't complain about yourself to the guy that shows that ur insecure and that the guy should be doing better
or is desperate so the only girl that he can get is the one that doesn't even like herself
Oh now that helped me!
Yes one girl understood it!
The same reason guys wonder why women like "jerks"...generalizations and misinformation.
because us guys wonder the same thing why you always go for the cocky, asshole, douchebags, but you girls get away with it more often since you get to do the choosing.
Yeah, we get to do the choosing. You're funny. And the thing about all girls going for the absolute idiot jerks just tops it off. Go become a comedian :P but seriously, I have only met about 3 (I'm being generous!) guys who aren't this way!! And even then, if (and only if because some of them were too old for me) I liked them, they already had a girlfriend or liked another (not-so-saintly) girl. It's hard to go for a guy that doesn't exist. :P
Yeah, you girls have more options
the reason is because most good girls aren't hot. if you are hot you usually get a huge ego and treat people like crap. if you don't look so good, you have to win affection by being nice. so it probly has to do with the fact that a persons personality is mostly affected by their looks. if there were good hot girls I go for em right away.
Sad but true :(
If there were good hot girls they would be hearing how hot they are since they got their first bra and most wouldn't stay "good": having lots of success often spoils a personality.
I get hit on a lot and I don't have a huge ego. Probably because the guys I DO like think the same way you do and don't even try because of these silly assumptions.
i don't think I'm a bad girl but all guys take interest in girls they think are way out of their league and its like I play the part and then just start the chase. some guys just love a girl that does things like that
Maybe you're too easy (NOT SEX but like you become interested in a guy with ease) and men want what they can't have that's how we measure worth (and vice versa.)
I'd say because there are more whores than there are nice girls :( Like a 7:1 ratio.. I don't chase after girls who'd treat me like crap tho, I always go for the nice girl. :D
The very thing you don't want to become is exactly what they want during dating. Guys like a fun girl that keeps the chase going on. Nothing better than a BAD GIRL, that is until it is time to get MARRIED.
I'm a girl, so I can't really give an accurate answer... But if I had a d***, I would go after hot girls and not care about their personality. Although, that's probably just me.
Once guys get a little older...they learn to ALWAYS pay attention to the nice girls first.
Have a little patience!
Can I ask how much older is a little older? Haha
Hahah I'm with browneyedbeauty!
nice guys like nice girls...relationships can last forever
cruel guys like cruel girls...relationships last a small time
Probably cause nice girls aren't as outgoing as others. And they might try to go with the pretier ones
There are nicegirls? That's good to know because I've been trying to find once since forever, once a guy gets a nice girl he never lets her go.
Thanks for the unfair generalization :P a lot of girls are nice, yet overlooked.