I know it sounds cliche', but maybe it has something to do with who you've identified as the strongest male figure in your family.
The structure of men in families is usually one where they have absolute or near absolute authority. This authority is voluntarily socialized. More importantly, it gives these men power. So the false association that's made, especially early in childhood, is that (authoritative behaviors = powerful man).
being "controlling" is definitely one of the many behaviors. but it's important to dispell this false idea that "these behaviors" CAUSE someone to "be powerful or strong". No. people who "are powerful or strong" CAN "behave in an authoritative or controlling way"; but don't necessarily have to. do you see Bill Gates or Hulk Hogan being authoritative or controlling? They're an example of financially and physically powerful and strong men, do don't display those behaviors.
being attracted to these men, might be because of a misassociation formed during childhood development towards men. but you have to identify where and when that was formed, and understand why it's just not true. once you do, you'll find that your attraction to such men will be gone.
controlling & dominant guys are not that way because they're strong and powerful. to the contrary, strong and powerful men are secure. the last thing they crave is a sense of security. they don't find the need to "control" you, simply because "you're worse off without them anyway". they don't "need" to control you for you to prefer staying with them. that's power, that's strength.
instead, guys who are insecure, are so because they lack any real strength or power. to feel a sense of security, they find the need to "control" and "dominate"; especially in a group setting, be it other men, a mixed group, with his girlfriend, family, or any relationship he finds himself in. If he's not "in control" or "dominant", he feels uncomfortable. why? because he's not secure, since he lacks any real or substantial strength or power.
these are the guys who threaten their childrens' autonomy and sense of fairness with kicking them out of the house, or financially starving them. they also treat their spouse of girlfriend the same way, and prefer she spends her time in the house and with the kids, so she doesn't have the independence necessary to be unaffected by those threats which he's prone to making in an effort to control her, dominate her, and comfort his insecurities.
being attracted to guys like this is not "unhealthy", that's a little extreme; but it's definitely not productive to your dating life either; especially if you're looking for a relationship and something long-term.