i think it depends on the balance between both. and the girl you ask. for me, there has to be a bit of a physical attraction, but I think that a WIDE variety of guys are attractive. I have found guys attractive that were a bit on the heavier side, as well as super skinny guys. I think that guys that look a little rough around the edges are attractive, as well as the preppy, clean cut guys. it all depends on who you're asking though. :)
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you can have both, looks and personality, but I prefer to go for a guy whos attractive, but not overly like a model, they are usually the assholes, if you are avergare to above average looking lus have a personality you can get heaps of girls, as long as your not butt ugly.
Personality is VERY important aswell as interests, life goals, morals. But you definately need chemistry and physical attraction - if I don't feel physical attraction you cannot kiss or get sexual with a guy, no matter how sweet he is, I feel guys go for looks first, then they will get to know you only after your good looking enough.
I'm similar if I find a guy attractive then I get to know him and if he has what I'm looking for , cool, but I also keep myself open by talking to avergae guys that I meet or approach me, cos spark may fly or attraction can grow over time if you connect 100 % .
Because they radiate fake-confidence when all they really have is a mask disguising to be confident and girls miscontrue this for Real confidence+good looks= <3
Yeah, as a challenge... but not as marriage potential. They only bide my time... keep me from being bored while single. If I wanted to date someone seriously, I'd go for the nice guy who makes me laugh, and doesn't spend a majority of my time making me cry. Sometimes girls just want a little bit of attention and flirtation, doesn't mean we prefer the bad guys. Wouldn't THAT be dumb...
Yup. I saw a post similar to this one and when I posted that girls like assholes, a bunch of girls replied saying that's not true. That same day I saw a post asking do girls prefer nice guys or bad boys and every single girls said like the bad boy asshole type. It was even some of the girls that had just poster on the other question saying they like nice guys! They just can't admit they like the assholes
Personally, I dated a 280 lb slob a year ago, and our relationship lasted until he cheated on me (we were together a year and nine months) and I completely fell in adorement with his personality.
Now, I'm dating a guy who has muscles, but a little layer of "fat" over his tummy muscles.
So no, not everyone always cares about looks.
However, if someone says "Looks don't matter to me," they're liars. Looks matter to everyone, just they matter to some people more than others. For example, my best friend will NOT date a guy if he doesn't have great arm muscles, but like I said, I dated a 280 lb slob ( I say that he's a slob now because we had problems after the breakup ).
So if you have a good personality, and a great body, it's just a double plus.
looks are what we're attracted to first, but if a guy's an asshole I don't care how hot he is. and sometimes a guy's personality will change the way I see him - if he's really cool and we have a lot in common then I'll start to look at him romantically and think he's really hot even when no one else does.
Personally I don't like skinny guys... they just look too weedy... but personality wise they have to be cool out for me to be even slightly interested... nice, witty, charming without being corny, and interesting.. but every girl is different and has different things she looks for in a guy... most of my friends fellas are all completely different people... it all depends on what we are individually attracted to both physically and mentally..
Both. You can't have one without the other. I'm not gonna want a guy with a nice personality that doesn't look good,nor would I want a good looking guy that had a bad personality.
Body type doesn't determine your attractiveness. There are some girls who like skinny guys and think they are attractive just like there are ones who like muscular guys. The way you worded your question makes it seem like skinny guys can't be good looking
Both. My crush is tall and skinny, and nice and caring. I honestly think that I am more attracted to his personality than his 'muscular' body. lol and he isn't very muscular because he's not athletic. he does do a lot of things though. . . anywho, I have to be physically attracted, but a guys personality holds more weight than looks.
Wow, what a great post said in only two sentences, especially the last one. I feel the same way about being attracted to girls. I've fallen for tons of girls that were attractive but not necessarily the best looking.
i don't care much about looks but they do play a little roll in what makes me like a guy. If he is compatable and has an amazing personality then yeah I'll like him, I currently like someone who has 7 fingers. but he is the best guy I know, so to answer your question I prefer personality =]
honeslty looks won't do it for me, I don't care if your a model, if your a jackass I honestly just don't care. Personality first, and then looks. I don't like uber muscular guys I think its sort of gross. but I like it when guys are toned, it shows that they are athletic and strong but not vain.
For women, personality and strength is what attracts us. Looks do matter, but with a confident, strong personality you can be just as attractive as someone who isn't conventionally good looking. I wrote a post about this, explaining in more detail, here: link
Personality is extremely important, if you're personality isn't very compatible to your other half (your partner) then there will be definite problems. Looks play a minor role in a relationship, the looks have you attracted but to me the personality is most intreguing.
Ah.. you have hit on the main difference between men and women. Men will choose the opposite. :-) and yes, we are shallow. But it is much like a woman who will pick the guy with the better job over the poor guy who would never look at another girl.
The personality counts in the long run and I would date a skinny guy if he was working out to try and get bigger, I like fit guys so if he was skinny and wasn't working out it would be a no-no just because he wouldn't be fit or healthy.
I like skinny guys with a little muscle. But hey, personality is number one. He should be HIDEOUS looking that's all. Normal or good looking, we always prefer the personality more even if we don't say it. I used to tell myself that the guy has to be gorgeous or I wouldn't date him but now I REALLY like two guys which aren't that good looking but are attractive in their own ways.
Personality is key, for me even if there is a "hot" guy if I don't like or know his personality I will be able to see that logically he is "attractive" but I will not be attracted to him. If there is a physical trait that I can say I "like" its because I knew someone who's personality I liked and I thus over all liked who had that trait and it stood out, its not grounds for liking someone just a perk :P.
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i think it depends on the balance between both. and the girl you ask. for me, there has to be a bit of a physical attraction, but I think that a WIDE variety of guys are attractive. I have found guys attractive that were a bit on the heavier side, as well as super skinny guys. I think that guys that look a little rough around the edges are attractive, as well as the preppy, clean cut guys. it all depends on who you're asking though. :)
you can have both, looks and personality, but I prefer to go for a guy whos attractive, but not overly like a model, they are usually the assholes, if you are avergare to above average looking lus have a personality you can get heaps of girls, as long as your not butt ugly.
Personality is VERY important aswell as interests, life goals, morals. But you definately need chemistry and physical attraction - if I don't feel physical attraction you cannot kiss or get sexual with a guy, no matter how sweet he is, I feel guys go for looks first, then they will get to know you only after your good looking enough.
I'm similar if I find a guy attractive then I get to know him and if he has what I'm looking for , cool, but I also keep myself open by talking to avergae guys that I meet or approach me, cos spark may fly or attraction can grow over time if you connect 100 % .
we all have our diffrent types.
But how can a girl get to know you unless there's something that triggers her to want to talk to you?
When you first look at a person you don't see there personality, you see there physique!
So if your okay looking your more likely to meet a girl in a smaller enviornment. like a classroom, rather than the mall.
Catch my drift?
Yeah, like your answer :)
Girls like good looking assholes trust me bro. They won't admit it but they do.
Because they radiate fake-confidence when all they really have is a mask disguising to be confident and girls miscontrue this for Real confidence+good looks= <3
1fastfc, you are so right!
Yeah, as a challenge... but not as marriage potential. They only bide my time... keep me from being bored while single. If I wanted to date someone seriously, I'd go for the nice guy who makes me laugh, and doesn't spend a majority of my time making me cry. Sometimes girls just want a little bit of attention and flirtation, doesn't mean we prefer the bad guys. Wouldn't THAT be dumb...
Yeah, it would be dumb, but unfortunately most girls are built that way.
Yup. I saw a post similar to this one and when I posted that girls like assholes, a bunch of girls replied saying that's not true. That same day I saw a post asking do girls prefer nice guys or bad boys and every single girls said like the bad boy asshole type. It was even some of the girls that had just poster on the other question saying they like nice guys! They just can't admit they like the assholes
I think you're right bro. They settle for nice guys a lot of the time, but would never turn down a tall, strong, handsome badboy, face it ladies
Personally, I dated a 280 lb slob a year ago, and our relationship lasted until he cheated on me (we were together a year and nine months) and I completely fell in adorement with his personality.
Now, I'm dating a guy who has muscles, but a little layer of "fat" over his tummy muscles.
So no, not everyone always cares about looks.
However, if someone says "Looks don't matter to me," they're liars. Looks matter to everyone, just they matter to some people more than others. For example, my best friend will NOT date a guy if he doesn't have great arm muscles, but like I said, I dated a 280 lb slob ( I say that he's a slob now because we had problems after the breakup ).
So if you have a good personality, and a great body, it's just a double plus.
looks are what we're attracted to first, but if a guy's an asshole I don't care how hot he is. and sometimes a guy's personality will change the way I see him - if he's really cool and we have a lot in common then I'll start to look at him romantically and think he's really hot even when no one else does.
Personally I don't like skinny guys... they just look too weedy... but personality wise they have to be cool out for me to be even slightly interested... nice, witty, charming without being corny, and interesting.. but every girl is different and has different things she looks for in a guy... most of my friends fellas are all completely different people... it all depends on what we are individually attracted to both physically and mentally..
Nice answer :)
Both. You can't have one without the other. I'm not gonna want a guy with a nice personality that doesn't look good,nor would I want a good looking guy that had a bad personality.
Body type doesn't determine your attractiveness. There are some girls who like skinny guys and think they are attractive just like there are ones who like muscular guys. The way you worded your question makes it seem like skinny guys can't be good looking
Nah on the contrary I know some girls prefer that. I was just going for extremes so it would be easier to judge the answers
Both. My crush is tall and skinny, and nice and caring. I honestly think that I am more attracted to his personality than his 'muscular' body. lol and he isn't very muscular because he's not athletic. he does do a lot of things though. . . anywho, I have to be physically attracted, but a guys personality holds more weight than looks.
I prefer the one I am attracted to, could be looks, could be personality or both. All the rules fail when attraction sets in.
YOu're right, it could be either. depends on who the person is
Wow, what a great post said in only two sentences, especially the last one. I feel the same way about being attracted to girls. I've fallen for tons of girls that were attractive but not necessarily the best looking.
i don't care much about looks but they do play a little roll in what makes me like a guy. If he is compatable and has an amazing personality then yeah I'll like him, I currently like someone who has 7 fingers. but he is the best guy I know, so to answer your question I prefer personality =]
honeslty looks won't do it for me, I don't care if your a model, if your a jackass I honestly just don't care. Personality first, and then looks. I don't like uber muscular guys I think its sort of gross. but I like it when guys are toned, it shows that they are athletic and strong but not vain.
Initiallly, a good looking guy draws us, but eventually personality wins over everything else.
Mmm, that sounds real...same with guys I guess, although in my case looks have a bit more priority, I don't know why
Personality is important but I could never be without the looks.
I like ur view, nice & simple.
For women, personality and strength is what attracts us. Looks do matter, but with a confident, strong personality you can be just as attractive as someone who isn't conventionally good looking. I wrote a post about this, explaining in more detail, here: link
Personality is extremely important, if you're personality isn't very compatible to your other half (your partner) then there will be definite problems. Looks play a minor role in a relationship, the looks have you attracted but to me the personality is most intreguing.
Ah.. you have hit on the main difference between men and women. Men will choose the opposite. :-) and yes, we are shallow. But it is much like a woman who will pick the guy with the better job over the poor guy who would never look at another girl.
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The personality counts in the long run and I would date a skinny guy if he was working out to try and get bigger, I like fit guys so if he was skinny and wasn't working out it would be a no-no just because he wouldn't be fit or healthy.
Who says skinny can't be healthy? lol
Slim is healthy, I class skinny as unhealthy-by skinny I mean boney. This is a blast from the past btw lol, 2months agooo!
I like skinny guys with a little muscle. But hey, personality is number one. He should be HIDEOUS looking that's all. Normal or good looking, we always prefer the personality more even if we don't say it. I used to tell myself that the guy has to be gorgeous or I wouldn't date him but now I REALLY like two guys which aren't that good looking but are attractive in their own ways.
Personality is key, for me even if there is a "hot" guy if I don't like or know his personality I will be able to see that logically he is "attractive" but I will not be attracted to him. If there is a physical trait that I can say I "like" its because I knew someone who's personality I liked and I thus over all liked who had that trait and it stood out, its not grounds for liking someone just a perk :P.