46 years old and from Albuquerque, New Mexico, United States
Jewish hippie neo-pagan retired Macintosh programmer now back at UNM fulltime studying economics & physics. I flunked out back in 1981 so -now that I'm retired- I'm back at it again. I spent years being one of those clingy nice-guys, desperate for affection till I got over it a few years ago. Now, life is much better, I can concentrate on school and -although I still miss my last girlfriend - the world feels brand new & wonderful again!
I cannot imagine a heterosexual guy behaving like that towards a woman he is NOT interested in pursuing romantically. How would he know if you were interested in him? He sounds to me like a guy who wants you but doesn't want to sacrifice your friendship to find out if *you're* interested in *him*.... more
I see two possibilities. Either he really is so attracted to you that he cannot reconcile being in your company and continuing a relationship (maybe even friendship? ) with you unless the two of you become lovers. Or. Maybe he's found another girl who is beginning to become his lover and he doesn't... more
Find a friendly heterosexual older woman (in her 20s or 30s) and ask this question of her in person. That seems like a more reliable way of learning what you want to know than posting here. It sounds like you're asking a question of the form, "How do guys react to me? " and that kind of question is... more
I have always felt that it is important for my partner and I to share the same level of emotional development in life. Not that we're identical, but that we're both sorta "going through" something together. That doesn't have to be something tangible such as school. Usually it is not. Something like,... more
A relationship means the two of you are actually relating to each other. If you can't figure him out and -even asking for his help isn't enough- there isn't much you can do. That said, how have things been since then? I know if guys who create in their minds the 'rest' of the relationship. But this... more