A: Why can't you go when he hangs out with his buddies? If you are not apart of his life to a point where he considers you a friend enough to hang out with his friends, then I honestly can't see this relationship going too far. Has he even been decent enough to ask you whether you would like to go?... more
A: No, it had no effect whatsoever, unless one or the other of you has huge issues with premarital sex. Expressing your love for someone this way is perfectly normal and it won't change anything once you've said your vows.
A: I didn't have pain either and only a very small amount of blood. I would think your hymen has broken by now. The only way that it wouldn't have is if whoever you have been sexually active with hasn't gone far enough to reach it.