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I Am The Nice Guy
 
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I notice now the problem is not me. I am the "Nice Guy". I do everything I am suppose to do in a relationship. I know she has been hurt before. I have been hurt too. It's hard to trust again but, I do. I take the risk of being hurt again.

The problem is she is not willing to take the risk. She projects her insecurities onto me. Why do people project their insecurities onto others? I feel bad for her. I want to help her but, at what cost? My own feelings? Are my own feelings worth making someone else happy?

Through out my life I have catered to others. I have given everyone a chance even if it meant sacrificing myself. I have been screwed. I have been f*cked over. I have been left in the dust. Why?

Because I am the "NICE GUY"

Many people have told me. Many people have tried to point it out. Even people on this very website have tried to convince me. Finally , I believe it is sinking in. I am learning from my experiences.

I am the "nice guy," and I realize now that is something that is rare. That it is something that should be cherished. It is something that gives me power and hope.

No longer will I allow others to make me feel small. I understand now that I am much bigger. These "others" want to be where I stand. They will step all over me to take my place. But what they don't understand is that my position takes balance. I am stable.
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These "others," these "bad guys"/"bad girls" have to carry a heavy burden on their souls. They will attempt to step on me and when they do I will kindly move aside and allow them to pass. They will continue to climb. They will step on anyone who stands in their way. They may eventually reach the top but, I know that they will fall. Those heavy burdens that their souls carry cause an imbalance in their life. These burdens will cause them to topple and fall from their high pedestal.

As they fall I will see them. I will look into their eyes and no...

I will not laugh. I will feel pain. I will feel their suffering and feel sorry that another one of the human race has so blindly given into what I can only call selfishness.

This pain I feel will make me stronger. It will make a better person. I will continue to climb at my steady and balanced pace. I will reach out my hand to help others who too climb at a steady pace. I want to get to the top just as much as anyone but, I want you to all be there with me.

I will climb with my family and climb with my friends. I will move at a steady pace and feel secure.

The top will always be there and one day I may reach it. I am in no hurry to get there. My journey will be filled with love and happiness. I will welcome anyone who wants to join me.

I am the "Nice Guy" and I will not be walked all over. The top is only a destination. It is only the end of the journey. The journey is what my life is all about.

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hippiex8x8x Wow, I really like that. I admire how you refuse to be the "bad guy" just because you think it'll be easier to get girls. You're being honest and brave with yourself and assertive with your morals and beliefs. I think that's a lot sexier than a guy who acts like a badass jsut to get girls....guys that do that are losers. - 3 months ago
sueper I really like you I wish the guy that I dated is willing to do like that. start new - 3 months ago
glowgirl3 Very well spoken. Alot of women prefer the "nice guy." I'm one of them. Thanks for choosing to stay the right path! :) - 3 months ago
 
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