A: If you mix it up with the shirt and tie combo, and maybe different shoes or something, they probably won't notice, and if they do, they probably don't really care. We understand suits are expensive. Just don't wear the exact same shirt, jacket, and pants everyday and you should be ok.
A: Feel it out. It is important to look her in the eye and tell her you are there for her. When you hold her, hold her tight so she knows you really care.
Even if she says she doesn't want you to touch her, she probably still does.