A: I think your over-thinking it, if your exes realized they liked girls more. I don't think that has anything to do with you being feminine, it sounds like maybe you just need to mature.
A: If you don't want to be with him even when your around him, it's probably not going to work out long term. or it shouldn't, if it's true then you should love him just as much when he's there as when he is gone. I guess