Protecting a Woman and Making Her Feel Safe, What it's Really All About

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Protecting a Woman and Making Her Feel Safe, What it's Really All About.


Probably not the greastest title ever written but, the whole catchy title thing isn't my forte. Anyway, I had a bad dream last night and it lead me to thinking and feeling a lot of things that inspired me to write this.


I've been on here along time now and when ever a guy would ask a girl why she likes tall guys she would say "because tall guys make me feel safe and I know they could protect me". When I'd see that I'd be baffled because feeling safe with someone and protecting someone goes far behind the phsyical aspect (or at least it does for me). I'm one of those kookie people that feels everything, everything for me is based on feeling not what I see. So, for me a guy being tall or having incredible hulk muscles, does not a safe feeling make. For me it's based upon something about them, something that I feel when I talk to them that makes me feel safe. There's no reason or explanation for it, there's just something about them as person that gives me a safe feeling. Maybe it's how they treat me or things they do to comfort me when I need it, that also leads me to feeling that way. I don't know. I just know that for me feeling safe is based on the individual person and the vibe they give off that naturally makes me feel safe with them. That's how it is for me.


So, when I see women make feeling safe based on how a man looks physically, it's perplexing to me. Like I said, I know I'm kookie but feeling safe is not just a physical thing. Protecting someone is not just a physical thing. Everything in this life comes from a feeling, whether we want to admit it or not.


With that in mind I'm going to go over a few things you may not have thought of.


1. Looks can be deceiving


Just because a guy is tall and has muscles, does not mean he would necessarily protect you. Just because someone looks tough and acts tough, does not mean they are tough.


Just because a guy is short and has the muscles mass of Steve Urkel from Family Matters, does not mean he couldn't protect you. Just because someone looks weak and seems weak, does not mean they are weak.


2. Physically feeling safe isn't the only safety you should feel


Everyone wants to feel that the one they're with would protect them physically if need be, but feeling physically safe with them isn't the only thing you should feel. A person should be able to make a person feel safe mentally and emotionally, along with physically. You want your heart and mind to be safe from hurt as well as your body. You need to know that your heart and mind are safe with them, that they won't hurt you. That's just as important as physical safety (if not a little more so, especially to some people.)


3. Protecting someone is based on a feeling of wanting to, not an obligation


I'm VERY protective of the ones I love and care about and even when someone say's something about them that I may not like, I go into defensive mode. I do that because they matter to me and I don't want anyone to ever hurt them in any way, shape or form. That's usually why someone is protective of someone or would put their life on the line for them, because they love them and or care about them and don't want them to be harmed in any way. Protecting someone comes from a feeling of wanting to but when a person feels safe with someone because they look a certain way or thinks that person would protect them because they look a certain way, it turns into an obligation instead of what it really is. Which is an instintual need to protect the ones that you love and care for, that's what it's all about.


My point in all of this? Don't look at someone and let that be what makes you feel safe with them.


Don't look at someone and assume based on how they look that they would or wouldn't be able to protect you, because neither can be proven based on their looks.


When you feel safe with someone, it should be based on a feeling they give off that let's you know you are in fact safe with them in every single way and vice versa. How they look phsyically should not determine if you feel safe with them or not.


That ladies and gentlemen, is my point.


This now concludes this MyTake, thank you for reading.

Protecting a Woman and Making Her Feel Safe, What it's Really All About
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