The importance of communication in relationships! Don't be afraid to make your voice heard!

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The importance of communication in relationships! Don't be afraid to make your voice heard!



One of my biggest flaws in relationships. The bane of many break ups and failed dating experiences.


Yes I'm talking about COMMUNICATION!


I've noticed that it's especially prevelent with people who use this website. There is question after question of people asking us to interpret what their boyfriend/girlfriend/SO/partner has done or is thinking when the best way to realize that is to actually TALK TO THE PERSON. We can't decipher body language and behavior from a person we've never even met. We can't solve your problems for you. The only way to really come to terms with that is to dive into it head on with your partner. I know I'm not the only person who becomes a deer in headlights whenever he has issues in a relationship.


I always have reservations such as:



  • Will this turn into a blowout?

  • Will she care enough to come to a resolution?

  • Is this all in my head or is it a legitimate concern?

  • Will she think I'm weak or think less of me as a man for voicing this?

  • Will she break up with me for having criticisms?


But whenever I did have the bravery to talk or discuss an issue it rarely turned out as horrible as I made it out in my head. In fact, I think many women actually respect this in their partner if it's put forward in a reasonable and sensitive way. I think that many of us now that there's the internet and social media have become completely afraid of communication. We fear confrontation instead of facing things head on. Also keep in mind that just because you talk often does not mean you're communicating. Talking about the weather or a new movie you've seen or the news isn't going to repair issues with the relationship.


It's perfectly okay to be vulnerable with a significant other! Isn't that what we're in it for? A potential future and trustworthy partner to spend our lives with? Being an open book with open dialogue and discussion is very much a part of its success. What do you really have without that? What's the endgame?


I've learned that without healthy dialogue and discussion it can build heaps of resentment that eventually festers and splinters into more resentment that all evolve out of the muck into a giant beast of burden. It can cause us to distance ourselves from our partners and retreat to a cave of our own making. We create these ideas that are completely untrue and think less of them for issues that probably weren't a big deal if they were discussed at the proper time. We become increasingly short with each other. We become easily agitated by even the slightest perceived issue. Then sex appeal and emotional connection just gradually degrade into something completely unrecognizable compared to the start of the relationship.


When one person becomes reserved in a relationship then the other person usually follows and if that trend continues then it won't be long until a relationship that you cherished is completely over. It's okay to have concerns and problems in a relationship. It's okay to have some arguments. Relationships take work. Relationships aren't perfect. Relationships take nurturing and compassion. Don't be afraid to be vulnerable. Don't be afraid to voice your issues. Don't trivialize yourself and your own importance. Don't let your partner trivialize you. YOUR OPINIONS MATTER! It's for the sake of the relationship! :)


The importance of communication in relationships! Don't be afraid to make your voice heard!

The importance of communication in relationships! Don't be afraid to make your voice heard!
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