Are you tired of these woosy-ass hugs where all you do is put your hands around the other person and pat them on the back?
Do you want an amazing hug, one that can make all of your troubles melt away?
Well, then I've got the hug for you: The iron lung hug.
I remember when my brother first showed me this kind of hug. It was my freshmen year in college and I had just been raped so I went over to his place. After I knocked on his door, I summoned the strenght to stand up on my feet and when he opened the door, I fell into his arms and when I explained what happened to me. He then used his own hugging technique on me and after a few minutes, It felt like all of my troubles melted away and I was able to compose myself. He didn't have a name for the embrace but I since dubbed it "the iron lung hug" and I wanted to share how it was done <3
1. Know where to put your arms.
Something I always tell my guy friends, if you want to give a girl a sense of security, hold her by her waist. When a girl has a big, strong arm wrapped around her waist, it feels like nothing can ever hurt her. Your other arm should be around her shoulder blades and it is very important that the left arm is on the bottom and the right arm is around her shoulder blades. That way she can rest her head on his chest so that her ear is directly over his heart so she can hear it beat.
2. There is more to being held than just wrapping your arms around the other person.
This is something I always tell guys when they want to know how to make girls feel special during an embreace: You don't just have arms, you have hands too; use them. Use your hands to hold her shoulderblades and the side of her waist. That easily doubles the sense of security an embrace will give a woman. With both your arms and your hands, don't just barley hold onto her but also don't squeeze the life out of her. Hold her firmly but gently. If the guy is a lot taller than the girl and wants to put some icing on the cake, he can tuck her head under your chin (that's just so cozy). If you're the girl, rest your elbows in the guys' elbowpits and hold on to his left tricep with your right hand and his right deltoid with your left hand. If you guys are the same height then the girl should wrap her arms around his neck and both pparties should rest their face on the base of each other's neck.
3. Breathe Together
This is why I call it the "Iron Lung Hug" because when you breathe together your troubles melt away. When you breathe, sync your breaths and how you breathe is very important. Don't breathe exclusivley through your chest or your stomach; breathe evelnly through both. If you're the guy, how tight you hold the girls should vary at each stage of the breath. You should losen your grip with the arm you have around her shoulderblades when the two of you inhale and tighten it when you exhale Ideally, when you're done inhaling, you shoulb holding her just tight enough that you could hold her against you without any effort to stand on her part. When you're done exhaling, you should hold her just tight enough that you could feel her heart beat through her chest. The pressure of the arm around her waist shoul remain constant in between the pressure you use when you inhale and exhale Aslo, if she's resting her head on your chest, make sure that when you tuck her head under her chin, your face is angled so that your breath is felt on the back of her neck instead of her face.
Well, that's myTake on how to make a hug great, I hope you enjoyed it :)
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