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You Broke My Trust 💔

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You Broke My Trust. 💔


I'd like to share a quick true story with you.


My mother came home from work one day telling me about this adorable kid at childcare named Sebastian. He’s one of those really naughty children and you can’t help but love him because he’s so chubby and kind hearted that you want to squish him. :D


One day during morning tea, my mum said to Sebastian, “promise me that you won’t eat anything that you might accidentally drop on the floor, okay? I'm trusting you!”, and she turned her head to attend to the other kids.


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He now of course believes that my mum is no longer looking at him. A few minutes later, he does the very thing she he asked him not to do. She spots him. Busted.


“Oh no Sebastian, why did you do that?😕”, mum says with a disappointed, but serene tone to her voice [i know her]. "We aren't supposed to eat from the ground or else bad things will come into our tummies and make us sick😷" She wraps her arm around his shoulder.


"It was only for 2 seconds. Sowwy", he replies with what I imagine is the cutest sad face.


“I’m quite upset now… you broke my trust. Hmm... but I'll forgive you”, mum answers, embracing him. "Let's go wash our hands". :)


“NO! 😟 No I didn’t break it! I didn’t do anything to your trust!", his face turns red and he bursts into tears, pulling away from her.


"No no Sebastian it's okay! trust just means --"


"I DIDN'T BREAK IT!" 😭😔



At the age of 3, the child clearly has no idea what trust is. All he knows is that he’s broken something, and he feels really really bad about it.


After hearing my mum tell me this adorable story, I laughed at first and thought "aw how cute!", but then later I paused and thought, what if trust was really like that? What if it was an object you could physically break?


There’d be so much of it shattered on the ground we’d no longer see what lies beneath.


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  • Would you take care of their "Trust" if someone asked you to?

  • Would you still take care of it even when they don’t ask you to?


We’ve all had people who have screwed us over. Now this is just my opinion, but I believe that when trust is broken, it can never be fully repaired, but rearranged with the hopes that it will become something better than what it was before. Maybe this is too negative? I don't know, I guess I'll find out in time. Speaking of which...


So how do you heal?


1. Time⏰


When someone breaks your trust, it can be hard to just suddenly repair the damage that's been done, especially when that person isn't making an effort to repair it. You have to hold your own and just know that you will get through this. Another storm along the way, that will eventually have to cease. . . Until the next one.


Time feels like such a cliché thing though doesn't it? It's not the answer you want to hear, but it's the one that works. Kinda like when you ask people what you have to do to lose weight, but you want the answer to have NOTHING to do with eating healthy or exercise :P


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#giveittime


2. Give them excuses✔️


Hear a sista out.


As I was saying before, trying to return trust to its original state is incredibly difficult, so the best alternative is to at least try to fit them broken pieces into a rearrangement that looks reasonably presentable again. ❤️


So they break your trust, probably the last thing you want to do is give them another chance. And you know, you're right, not all people deserve it. But some do, so before you make the choice to obliterate them from your life, think about why they deserve your trust again, and think hard.💭



  • Have they done anything for you prior?

  • Have they put their own heart on the line for you prior?

  • Was it just an honest mistake?

  • Is their apology sincere? How can you tell?

  • Maybe they came to quick conclusions?

  • A misunderstanding?

  • Did they get pressured into betraying you? a weak moment?

  • Are they the type who learn from their mistakes?

  • What is it about them that would make them worth holding on to for a bit longer?

  • Why is it that you're thinking about this so hard right now, instead of letting go and getting it over with?


Something... anything for them to appear in your eyes a little less guilty of the pain they just caused you. Sounds a little insane doesn't it? Because that shit is hard to deal with.


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I know.


Well... my answer is, I believe that other than cutting them off completely, forgiveness is the only way you'll ever make peace with the situation. #fixit 🔨


That's all. Thanks for reading.


~j.B🍌


Now this next bit is just something I’m getting out of my system and I've chosen to use GaG as my outlet. Don't mind me too much. Whether or not you read it is up to you.



To [some] people who broke my Trust.



Dear A:




Hah, you took my ‘trust virginity’, and at so young. Thank you for taking it so young. You taught me to be cautious early in life. I think I’ve forgiven you, but I still haven’t forgiven myself, twelve years later, for being foolish enough to believe you.




Dear R:




I kind of found it strange that a girl would compliment me everyday, but I guess I should have seen it coming. Getting close to me to get to him. I didn’t mind so much because he couldn’t resist you for me anyway. I forgive you. You are beautiful and I don't blame him.




Dear M:




My best friend, betting with some guy on whether or not he could get me to say yes in a week. He won. I wonder what he spent the money on. So naïve was I, so void of love that I took the first chance I thought I had, even though I felt nothing for him. You really hurt me, putting me up... for what almost felt like auction, but I forgive you. You will still be in my bridal party, as promised.




Dear J:




Oh, you. I would have taken a bullet for you, but you hit me with one instead. Best friends, you almost fell in love with me. I felt it too, almost. I chose you, I let you into the deepest and dustiest corners of my soul. My secrets, my shames. You took it all, and spread them out into the world, for everyone to hear. People whose names I didn’t know began to tell me about my life. Oh, you. You told me I was too much, and I’ve stuck with calling myself that ever since, because you’re right. You wanted nothing more to do with me, but eventually you tried to win my heart again. Fat chance. If there is one memory I can erase, it’s you. I will never forgive you.




Dear I:




My brother from another mother. Telling me you’ll take care of me, but saying that I’m also “like a drug”. What?


“You’re addictive, but potentially deadly”.


I could still never hate you if I tried. Any pain I feel from you is the good kind that isn’t going to kill me. I know you’ll always be in my life.




DearC:



I have no idea what I was doing getting even remotely close to you. I think I just wanted to prove people wrong. I have never felt so worthless in my life. You convinced me for a long time that my appearance determined my worth. I forgive you, but I will never forgive myself for allowing you to interfere with my self respect.




Dear Everyone In My Future Who Will Break My Trust:




I am going to try my best to forgive you. I promise. But I will never let you walk over me.



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