"Why can't I get a date with a good guy?" or "Why won't he call back?" is a very interesting issue faced by many women. In many cases women have been left, ignored, or simply not called back by "that guy." The guy they thought was the be all and end all of men. Others simply have a hard time getting past sex into a more intimate relationship where emotions are shared. Others still simply have a hard time dating. There are a huge number of nestled issues within these three case sub sets. There is one common thread running through all of them, however. In all of these situations the man has come to the conclusion that the cost of further dating or eventual marriage to any one of the women in the formerly described case types is not worth the benefits or rewards.
In my experience, my friends, and I have shared the sentiment that a woman is more trouble than the sex is worth and we could not bothered presuing a relationship. Relationships are expensive, distracting, and annoying for most guys. Today men have entered an age where as long as you are marginally attractive you can get laid without game, without spending money on dating, without losing time, and without dealing with the emotional investment of dating. In order to actually secure a relationship or an eventual marriage women need to distinguish themselves for the other women on tinder, and make themselves available for dating.
You can distinguish yourself by having a great personality, by being feminine, and by having maternal qualities. There are many very beautiful women, gasp, even more beautiful than you. The guy you are interested in probably met her on tinder, had sex with her a few times, decided she was a bitchy diva, and forgot about her. If you are kind, sweet, clean up, cook, don't constantly require financial assistance or extravagant dinners to keep you happy, then you have a huge advantage over a woman who looks like a model but feels entitled to being treated like a queen for looking pretty.
Guess what, looks fade. All men know this. Women hit the wall and lose their looks. We want to marry or date someone that won’t give us headaches all the time or financial problems. We want to marry someone who can feed our kids healthy food, and who won’t have an emotional meltdown at the prospect of changing diapers or picking up after their kids. If your emotional situation is together enough that a guy recognizes you can take care of a child and maintain a relationship with him while still letting him have a pleasant life, then you will be able to find a great guy who will want you and won’t leave. The benefits of a relationship with you might be worth the cost. You might even be marriage material.
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