Everyone knows when Valentines Day is coming around. The stores suddenly have much more options in the way of candy - especially the red, pink and white variety - and they've put the cutest stuffed animals on display and as in your face as possible. It's really hard, if not impossible, to ignore Valentines Day.
But really, what is the fuss even all about? It's a Hallmark holiday, a day where spouses and significant others expect their other half to treat them likes Kings or Queens, because a card company said so. Because a card company decided it'd be the perfect opportunity to bring in bigger revenue.
Maybe you'll call me bitter because I've never been in a relationship on Valentines Day. Maybe you'll say I don't know what I'm missing out on, because the only gifts I've ever received were from classmates or parents when growing up. But I can assure you, as someone who doesn't even like the idea of relationships, I'm neither bitter nor ignorant as to what is happening.
Should you not be treating your other half as best as you can on a daily, weekly, monthly, yearly basis? So why fuss about and panic about how to treat them on this one particular day? I don't see you making as big of a deal about a milestone anniversary. You do it because the media says you should. They tell you that if you don't get the biggest, most expensive and shiniest gift for your special someone, that you're a failure.
You know where that gift is gonna find itself in a year, if not less? Lost, maybe stolen. Perhaps even tossed out, mixed in with items that your significant other deemed dull and boring and exclaimed they were so over, without remembering - or realizing - that scarf, or that necklace, was given to them on February 14th, 2010 at 8PM after a romantic home cooked meal by candlelight.
I'm not saying you can't and shouldn't treat your special someone on Valentines Day!
Do it if you want to, have fun, go crazy. Plan a nice romantic evening, or just netflix and chill on the couch while the dog farts in its sleep in the corner. But don't feel pressured to do anything. You're not obligated. You can acknowledge the day, you can still give a small gift or maybe cook a nice meal for them. But don't use the day as an excuse to buy a ginormous gift for your significant other, and then pat yourself on the back for a Job Well Done, using it as a reason to slack every other day of the year.
In short: don't feel pressured to buy presents that will outdo any present before or in the future. Don't stress about getting that specific reservation at that high class restaurant that will probably be in the news for food posioning in a few months time. Be content to just be with each other, because that's all you should need.
And if you're single this Valentines Day - go out and get fucked, or just sit at home and read a good book in the bathtub. Snuggle up with your animal or your favorite blanket and your movie genre of choice. You're single, the world is your playground.
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