I feel like it's time to debunk another bad habit guys have...this time of getting comfortable once in a relationship that you lose all the qualities that attracted her to you in the first place and then calling her a b**** when she breaks up with your or tries to push you to be more athletic, ambitious, dominant etc. than you feel like being...
Guys in relationships always feel like they're entitled to have the girl in love with them for no reason whatsoever. In fact, if she does like him for his ambitious, his charisma, his looks, a combination of factors it somehow makes her a selfish she devil who only likes him for the things he can do and can be...OF COURSE THATS THE REASON. Yes, bonding and spending time with someone creates some attraction because of familiarity and comfort, but it's traits that are appealing to the person that makes you uniquely attractive in their eyes. If when you met her you were always doing stuff for your company or school or art...and she saw that...it could have been reallly attractive to her. If you turn around and never do any of that anymore she's not a jerk for losing attraction to you or even wanting to leave you...
It's not about deserving it. And I wouldn't even say it's the fact that a lazy bum is who you really are or anti social or fat...whatever is that makes it seem like you've let yourself go...that's not who you are, but of course when a girl is giving you sex everyday, sucking you off, you feel like a content bear ready to sleep for the winter his bear cave. It's not entirely on you...you have more temptations to do nothing than a single man, but you, as men, have to get up and continue to follow the pursuits and demonstrate the traits you did when you were single even it requires an expenditure of effort. Even if she begs you to stay fifteen more minutes in bed and screw her again even though you'll be a few minutes late for your meeting...go to the meeting. A man cannot lose the pursuit of his ideals for what falls next his integrity and so his purpose and so he becomes yet another confused male lost in the world instead of one taking control of it.
Think of it like this...even though she doesn't always tell you for fear of making you so conceited that you leave or cheat on her (more common thought in her mind than you think) trust me if you are killing it in area of your life she is noticing. Girls notice value of a man much more acutely than men tend to which is usually based primarily on bust size among other physical attributes...you don't have to be high value to get laid or even get a girlfriend but it is very attractive when you are and it certainly gives you more options.
So to wrap up, even after you get the girl don't stop being as hard working, awesome, and self motivated as you were before you met her or she will slowly lose interest and love. Brutal logic, perhaps, but effective.
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