He's growing...
Even a large man is a small boy compared to the entire Earth. He's lost in the world trying to swim against the current with only hope that one day he'll reach some shore and even then he won't know where he is. He doesn't know where he fits. He doesn't know what he's supposed to do. As such, he's bound to make some mistakes. Forget things, act selfishly, realize the errors in his ways, and try with all his heart to make it right.
You're fragile...
Girls, you probably take yourself too seriously. One mistake and you're willing to give up on a guy who's crazy about you. I get it. You're not only scared, but you have just so many choices when it comes to men. But think of what most girls really want and wish they had--that boyfriend or husband that they click with and spend time with and have great sex with and are loved by. No, a lot of guys aren't worth your time, and no a lot won't change, but use your intuition and try to see a guy who's better than his one single bad action suggests.
You can't learn from your success, you can learn from your mistakes
It's not the achievements that teach you anything. Yeah, you can break down what you did and try to figure out how to re-engineer it to other successes, but anyone who's tried this knows it doesn't work like this. No one really knows why they are successful they just finally were. However, the mistakes we make teach us to grow if for no other reason that when you fall down the only thing you can do is figure out brand new ways to get back up. In dating, a guy who makes a lot of mistakes early in his dating life is actually one of the most wonderful guys you can late later on. He surpasses other guys his age who didn't go through what he went though...who didn't learn what he's learned. Individually, a guy honestly will just mistakes, but if he comes back immediatly afterward and tries to make things right he could be the guy with such a perspective and motivation to do right by you that he's the one who could love you better now than anyone else.
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Wow. There might be a couple of things I agree with on here, but very few if any.
Let's start with the middle. Fragile. Yeah one action the female deems as bad doesn't mean the guy is undateable completely. Though I guess it depends on what that action is and what the tolerance of such action is. It seems like this is speaking from the perspective of Anna, because we know she has strict preferences. That doesn't mean most guys are a piece of shit or anything like that. It just means she's picky.. maybe too picky. It's another case of maybe it's not us it's you. Maybe she's her own problem. Do some women take themselves too seriously? Yeah probably so. Some people in general are very tense. More tense than the typical person. Maybe the remedy for that is to relax, or maybe it's how that person is and they don't want to change (more on this later). It's really a good balance when it comes to which gender has the most choices. In fact it's really a individual based thing. There are girls who get a lot of choices and there are guys who get a lot of choices. In other words that's not really a good excuse for females.
"He's growing". Horrible statement. I understand biologically the body does grow into adulthood. However, you're talking about personality. You believe that people make mistakes and have to change themselves and get "better". That they are worst at some point and that they have to "improve". If you're going to do such a thing then that means you also believe certain people are better than others. This is why this kind of logic is flawed, and why I'm not someone who supports it. You don't get better. There's no improvement. There's only you being more you. It doesn't mean you're a better person. It just means your again more of you... be it deemed good or bad. That's how I see it. Many people have a certain model.. a standard that they want to reach. "I'm not confident enough." "I don't smile enough." Things like that. Who are you really trying to be? You or a society based model of yourself?
You can't learn from success? Wrong. You can. People do know why they are successful. Though the question really should be successful in what? Money and a career? I know in my career it's because I went to school for it and going into it I knew I'd make money. I also know some people and who I am as a person helped as well.
Why can't you know how you got successful and learn from that? I can name guys who fooled society's system and I'm sure they know how they became successful. Is it love that you deem successful? Even people who have been married for over 40 years can still remember that day they saw their true love and how they ended up getting married.
Success can always be learned from. Not only can you learn from your own success, but also the success of others. Just like mistakes. You again throw in that grow word. Meaning you were worst than you are now. This is apparently also how you feel about sex. That through experience a guy becomes "better". No. No. I had good sex the first time I did it and I continue to have good sex. Maybe it's because I just so happen to find the right compatible females, but none the less I didn't get "better" or "worst". Are there things I might like or not like? Sure, but I don't think that makes me a better lover.
I guess we'll have to continue to disagree on such matter.
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As far as the hashtags because I know how the mods/admin are.. hell you know how they are too. I will say this sounds like something she'd agree with and she does.
You are always writing love letters, aren't you.
You are really a very nice person.
proud of you.