It's probably true, I was never too keen on commercialised celebrations but Valentine's day is still a good chance to show to your partner you are considerate and have them deeply in your heart.
So is Valentine just a day? Is it an event you should plan in the last moment? Or should you go to the other extreme and prepare for it for like weeks before in obsessive antitipation as there were month(s) old takes about it. I think the truth is somewhere in between. You can plan ahead but still don't have to be oversweating it.
1) It's not the arrival its the journey
Like when you want to have sex with your woman. You have to treat her good and in a loving manner till the morning, to be successful in the bedroom at night. People see sex as a mechanical pistoning process. It's far from it though. Women are naturally emotion-oriented creatures and the deeper connection there is with them the better that manifests in the bedroom. So as you have to treat your woman right from the morning to get her open herself to you, the same way with the Valentine's day. The day in itself means nothing if you haven't made sure you build that nice, loving, and erotic atmosphere from the previous days. If you two got unresolved issues and accumulating negitivity that hasn't been adressed there is no magic pill or happy outcome.
You actually want to see your partner respond to the events that you planned as the peak of something deeper and higher and not just a rushed awkard thing we got to do, to just get done with it. Anticipation for it is something you can build with your behavior and mood from before.
2) Be considerate and aware
You might scratch your head thinking what the other person wants and what will actually work ofr that day. Well you don;t have to do much, just be a good listener. Listen to your partner's needs, tastes and desires. One day she said how much she'd love to eat in that restaurant or how much nice this dress looks. Don't look far then. Just by seeing you rembered something he/she said along time ago and kept in your heart and memory, she'll be surprised in a pleasant way and it will add even more sentimental value to it. It can be something as simple as a bouquet of flowers that under the proper circumstances though can bring her to tears and running on your embrace.
3) Simplicity is the way to go
A loving couple really doesn't need anything far fetched or overly sophisticated. Don't obsess over the "best" solution but find the freedom that lies in the simple one. One that gives though a direct message of your feelings and consideration to your other half. Hell it could even be a hippie picknick under the stars or something totally unrelated to your initial plans. The sentiments, if strong enough, you might get so caught in them moment where you won't need to follow any standard procedures. Just make sure that there is that spark and connectivity of doing both something you enjoy and feels good.
4) The day's end and the aftermath
Have no agenda and no certain outcomes in the end of the day. What if for example your girl gets drunk and she can't do anything with you. Put on her bed, cover her with her sheets n blankets and kiss her goodnight on the forehead if it comes to that. You don't have to be pushy about anything and you don't have to expect anything specific from that night. That was your little chance to reconnect and refall in love once again. Even like teens if thats what comes up. Why be caught up in silly agendas?
And that's how we go to what's after that. Does Valentine's day end there? Is it just this "day of love" and then we go back to whining, to daily routine and to mediocrity? No, you have to live up to the previous day. Today, and the next, and the one after that.
Let Valentine's Day to be your chance to reconnect, to strengthen your bonds, to create solid sentimental "structures" in your relationship that have resistance to hardships and long life against time. Make time your ally not your enemy. Let the day probably be unique and unforgetable, but why not even mundane but with an unforgetable feeling. It's the vibe and motive that matters most. Let that day be the peak of something good that has already been built there and a prelude of something even greater. Whatever you do keep growing, keep showing... love and care!
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Loved your take bro. I believe too that the whole life of a couple is Valentine's. I especially liked how you emphasized in the clever preparation and the "after" part. It's also true though that it doesn't have to be something predictable, cheesy, and outcome dependent.
I loved your take. You really gave me a new insight on how to look at things. Thank you.