The Irony of 'Nice Guys'

kaylaS91

I'm sure most of us have heard of the 'nice guy always finishing last'. Women being demonized by proxy for always giving their attention to the cheating, abusive 'assholes' while leaving hte 'nice guy' in the friend zone.


However, if you look at the issue a little closer, it's not quite so black and white. Perhaps guys who don't treat their girlfriends all that well do, in some cases, receive 'undeserved attention'. That's under the assumption that, for not raping a girl, she'll owe you something in return?


Sounds like pretty faulty logic to me. Let's delve deeper into the 'nice-guy' phenomenon;





1. BRING UP THEIR ANGELIC NATURE IN A NEGATIVE CONTEXT.


Generally speaking, the only time someone is made aware of just how nice a guy may be when a situation in which he was wronged is brought up. I’m sure most people here at GaG, especially, are aware of that. When a guy gives the ins and outs of exactly how a girl may have manipulated him and greatly wronged him. That she’s such a ‘manipulative little bitch’, and many variations of that. How could she have been so ‘scheming’ to someone who is harmless as a fly.


Let's dehumanize and insult these women and justify it by saying that it's their loss for failing to be with the 'nice guy'. Sounds like a pretty reasonable argument, eh? (/sarcasm)


The Irony of 'Nice Guys'


2. THE WOES OF A 'NICE GUY' ARE REALLY QUITE SELF-CENTRED IN NATURE.


Continuing on how the main context in which nice guys finishing last is that they simply had to go through something which 99.9% of the population shares in terms of experiences, it generally amounts to nothing more than the girl simply having failed to reciprocate any sexual/romantic interest. The guy who’s oh-so-‘nice’ will spin the events in a way so that anyone listening will be led to believe that it was dense of the woman to not realize that the love she supposedly sought was in front of her the whole time.



What all the regular folk fail to realize is that, when you’re truly nice (ie. practicing basic human decency), that alone entitles you to being a woman's primary choice by default.



3. THEY ALIENATE THEMSELVES FROM EVERYONE ELSE BECAUSE THEY'RE JUST 'TOO NICE'.


According to the individuals in question, being a nice guy is really a truly rare occurrence. Something so seldom stumbled upon that, in comparison, it makes most guys to be basically pure evil. Damning a huge portion of their own sex into being interested only in women to get between their legs.


A statement that’s ironic in itself because ‘nice guys’ will often finish up their rant by expressing their disgust with how women won’t sleep with them over these other plebs, when they’re the ones truly ‘deserving’ of having sex.


The Irony of 'Nice Guys'


4. WOMEN SHOULD FEEL LUCKY FOR 'NICE GUYS' EVEN BOTHERING TO NOTICE THEM.


I know, I know. This whole shebang of what each group deserves or is entitled to receiving through essentially doing nothing, is getting confusing. This is just another situation in which self-appointed nice-guys reek of further irony. When they claim that women should thank their lucky stars for receiving any attention from someone so nice. That, in reality, they deserve to be with all those other ‘assholes’, and fail to appreciate the honour which has been bestowed upon them. That she should feel lucky that he didn’t go for someone thinner/hotter than her.




...What a sweetheart that guy really is.


Curse us women for having standards and not allowing a guy possessing basic human decency to trump there being zero sexual chemistry or no physical attraction towards him.


There is honestly so much self-pity going on here, even I am starting to have some trouble to wrap my head around all of it.


The Irony of 'Nice Guys'



This whole ‘nice-guys finish last’ movement seems to have become not much more than a bunch of guys who don’t want to accept that they can’t get that one woman’s interest, or the interest of multiple women, because of them maybe having some shortcomings of their own.


So, in a classic case of the victim complex, they shift the blame. They’ve been single for a certain amount of time not because of anything to do with themselves. No, the issue lays with other men and women. All other men are jerks who are capable of thinking only with the head below their shoulders. Women, on the other hand, are manipulative and interested only in the type of men who make up the majority of the population.


The Irony of 'Nice Guys'


The Irony of 'Nice Guys'
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