There seems to be trouble distinguishing between the two.
If you can check the second option for 1+ of the following questions, reevaluate your
relationship.
1) Do you consent to any marks left behind?
[ ] Yes [ ] No
2) Do both of you receive sexual pleasure from any S&M?
[ ] Yes [ ] No
3) Does the domination make you sexually aroused?
[ ] Yes [ ] No
4) Does the fear you have from them doing *___* activity make you aroused or afraid?
[ ] Aroused [ ] Afraid
5) Do you ever fear coming home to them after work/being out?
[ ] No [ ] Yes
6) Do you fear staying in the relationship with them?
[ ] No [ ] Yes
7) Whenever they dominate you, is it ONLY during sexual activities? [ ] Yes [ ] No
8) Do you both consent to S&M activities? [ ] Yes [ ] No
There seems to be many people who don’t fully understand that domination is NOT
domestic abuse, as long as they both consent and have a mutual understanding of what
they want or don’t want.
Domestic abuse is a serious problem, whether it be verbal or physical. If you are a victim
(male or female) seek help please. And yes, males can be victims of domestic abuse too!
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I have shared my views on BDSM before but no harm in reiterating them, there is nothing wrong with it I feel once a few simple checks are made. Obviously before I go into them for those that like it, to each their own just because you don't find it arousing doesn't make them deviants so the checks.
(1) All parties understand and consent.
(2) This one is important especially for the submissive/slave that he/she is in right headspace to consent.
(3) I live fortunately in a jurisdiction where the sexual/moral laws are quite liberal so making sure it is legal covers a lot of the what ifs?
(4) The actions within the BDSM don't unreasonably hurt/abuse/neglect any party
(5) Attention is paid to what I support in any sexual practice for safe sex and the safety of the parties involved example safe words, traffic lights etc.
(6) An extra point doing your questionnaire would do no harm at all.
Sadly this is another take that needs to be written.
I really like the thought of being dominated by my Significant other but I mentioned that somewhere and they thought I wanted to be a victim of domestic violence.
I'm like, "HELL NO."
Because its done out of mutual consent and we love and respect each other