Who are you?
I do not know if there are many women out there like myself. For me if I decide to be in a relationship with a man I am committing to be loyal and faithful. I am committing to help you get to the next best step you aspire to achieve. Moreover, I am committing to working things through, multiple times before I give up on us. Knowing this why is that I have had all failed relationships in the past. Even the ones where I let my guard down and was completely genuine? I have been getting into relationships with unavailable men!!!
Disney ruined us with fairy tales
Sometimes we have an idea in our heads of how we want our lives to play out. So despite a man showing signs that he really is just not that in to you. We stay. We become so fixated on the ideas in our heads, that we fail see people for who they truly are. There is this thing called reality, fully participate in it.
Get out of the battlefield
There are a turmoil of emotions, should i stay, should I go. In the long run is it really worth it?? Fighting a battle to attain a man that is not fully attainable?
What do you truly want from a relationship? No, I am not referring to that happy ever after fairy-tale. We haven't start manufacturing partners as yet. Is the goal to be married, to be intimate, to share a lover and a friend. Whatever it is ensure that Mr. Now and yourself has similar goals.
Sure he provokes feeling of care and love and fun sometimes, but what about all of the negative feelings? Is he truly the one? Get to know the man you bed.
Being in a relationship should bring joy to your life, not the converse. Sure every couple has problems, but with a little conversation and reasoning things should be resolved or at least accepted.
Talk really is cheap, do not keep receipts for words that do not equate and match up to similar actions.
Sure he tells you he loves you, but how are you two in public? Is he proud of you? Does he takes you out? Does he express care and concerns for the lil' things that stresses you out in your personal life?
No money more problems, more money more problems
When there is a problem, do you two discuss it firmly and arrive at a decision?
Does he manipulates you, gaslight situations or verbally, sexually abuse you?
Are all your conversations about sex?
Do you truly now this man, has this man given you an opportunity to know him?
Has he taken time out of his busy schedule to see how you are doing? Or are you an option he picks up when he feels like it?
Are you truly happy?
Is he really putting in the effort?
Be the best for you, do the best for you
At the end of the day, all you have is you, and people who care. But first we must truly learn to value and respect who we are.
You are a being, destined for greatness. An intellectual, spiritual, physical, psychological, sexual, physiological, emotional, substantial being. If he doesn't treat you like all of the above, you do not need him.
If things has failed, accept it and move on. Do not judge yourself harshly, but retrace your steps, so that you can avoid taking the same routes that will amount to pain, disappointment and hurt.
Being single is not bad
Never be afraid of being alone, you should be able to keep a man, and likewise a man should be able to keep you. If it is not working leave. Yet, be responsible, tell him as it is and do not contact him. In the long run you will thank yourself, and truly see why it did not work. You do not deserve this. There is someone out there for you, but be guarded and pensive of the ones you meet on the journey to finding him. After all you have a genuine, amazing love to share with your partner.
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