This is a follow up to the take 5 Tips for Approaching Your Crush. So again I will be going by my own personal experience about how I got with my crushes.
Okay n00bs, we're now at the final boss! Yes, I know what you're thinking...
No matter how nervous or embarrassed you will be asking them, I believe in you! Which here are some tips you can try to help your odds of succeeding!
Make sure they're alone
I did forget this part in the other myTake, which I'm sure it's a mistake a lot of people have done. NEVER try talking to your crush for the first time when they have friends around. Which you also don't want them around when you try to confess to them. The fact that they're friends are near will influence them into rejecting you more than if they were alone. Same with you trying to talk to them for the first time, the chances of them not talking is higher. I had a guy come up to me in a store once and I was with one of my female friends. She kept making her own comments at times, which it made me feel weird to talk to him. He asked me for my number and I ended up saying no. Though I felt bad afterwards due to his reaction and wanted to apologize.
Talk to your crush often!
If you have followed the 5 Tips for Approaching Your Crush. Then you have already started the first conversation with them. With that out of the way you need to learn more about them before you go in for the kill. You also need to tell them more about yourself, and keeping this going for a while often raises your chances of succeeding. The longer y'all talk and the more frequent, the easier it will be once you confess your feelings to them. Now if they end up not seeming interested in getting to know you more or talking at least once a day. Then sadly that's a sign of having a one sided crush.
Never rush!
As Elvis once said, "Only fools rush in!" (Please ignore the rest of the lyrics) Which he is 100% right about the fools part, by rushing I mean getting with them 1-2 weeks after just meeting and talking. Yes that is too soon and tends to not end well relationship wise. I've been in 13 relationships and that's how most of them crashed and burned. The ONE time I had waited about a month before confessing anything to a guy. Was to my awesome boyfriend of going on over 4 years now and keeps getting better and better.
Be yourself!
If you put on some kind of persona just to make your crush fall for you. That's going to come back and bite you in the ass (not in the good way) in the end. Your crush will be confused once you do start acting like your normal self after getting together which they won't be happy about it. Even more if it proves that you being yourself, shows how incompatible y'all are together. Then you just wasted your time pretending to be something you're not. Which you could have used that time finding someone who actually likes who you are.
Don't beat around the bush!
When the moment comes and you finally feel like confessing....DON'T BEAT AROUND THE DAMN BUSH! If you're a naturally shy person, you still need to try and be direct with your crush. Pretend that they're mentally slow at understanding anything. So you have to say it as straightforward as possible so they understand what you're saying.Also don't prolong telling them either because your window of opportunity closes each time you don't tell them. So by the time you're done beating around the bush and ready to flat out tell them. It could end up being too late and they have already found someone else.
Taking down the final boss!
(Yes I'm calling it that :P) Okay, this is when you have the big confession moment and tell them how you truly feel about them. Again it's best to never think when you do this because if you do you could freeze up even worse than you did when you talked to them for the first time. Which you could end up panicking more and want to run for the hills.
If I could I would be there with you and drag your bum back before you run too far away. Something that can help you to not run is remind yourself about how your window of opportunity is closing and you need to tell them before it's too late.Also please don't beat them up over how nervous you are. (though in anime it's funny to see. :D)
Yes, you will probably stutter horribly while trying to tell them. I know I did when I first told my boyfriend and ended up shoving a song in his face to explain more of it better. (God the song I had sent was so damn cheesy, I'm still embarrassed about that. While I had waited for him to finish listening to the song I had this expression on my face....)
Just know that it's okay to be nervous and to seem silly in front of them while you try to tell them. Most of the time they will think it's extremely cute and makes a good memory. So honestly that makes a better memory of telling them and asking them out than to do it all smooth and cool. So never aim to look cool but to just get your feelings across loud and clear no matter how silly you might look. I'm sure once you confess and if your lucky they will say they like you too and say yes. Though if they're embarrassed too they're face might look a little like this. XD (I know so many pictures all of a sudden. :P)
I hope all my tips help some of y'all in approaching and telling your crush how you feel. I wish you all the best of luck! ^^
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