So, I saw something that pissed me off, so I thought I would rant about it. A very beautiful girl gamer YouTuber by the same of SSSniperwolf, or Lia, is with a “below average guy" (Who isn't even ugly to me mind you), Evan, who she calls “Sausage”. Their relationship seems happy and healthy from what is shown in her YouTube videos and other social media platforms, but there is something that really ticks me off, and that is what other people say about their relationship.
He looks like a caveman she can do better”
If I saw them in public I wouldn’t believe they were a couple.”
What is so special about this guy? He looks like a fat tranny mermaid”
Don't get me started on how many people say it must be the money he makes...
These are some of of the comments that I read when I scroll down the YouTube comment section of her videos. I find myself scoffing, rolling my eyes or just plain angry at how judgmental people can be. Yeah, you can say that it’s the internet or whatever and that people are primitive on the Internet, but that is not anywhere near the point of this rant, and the universal message is not even about YouTubers.
I see this in my own relationship at times. People ask to see a picture of my boyfriend and sometimes their faces contort into a grimace. I can sense what they think about him, and they're judging him. Anger grows in the pit of my stomach. Why where they judging my boyfriend? Wasn't he my boyfriend and not theirs? How can they say they know what's best for me?
It’s just so shocking to me that everyone expects people to be so superficial when choosing someone to be their partner, when in reality the way that the person looks may be the very last thing that came to mind when they first laid eyes on them. Don’t people ever think that just maybe, just maybe that person has a nice personality to them that had originally made them attracted to them? Why does society place so much emphasis on looks?
Maybe Lia fond Evan to be charming. Maybe his personality really stood out to her, and that’s what she looked most about him. It couldn’t be money or financial stability that led her on, because she makes loads of money from YouTube herself. Maybe it could simply be that she finds his personality to be attractive. No other questions asked.
Maybe he was attractive to her, and her eyes only. Everyone has differing perceptions on what’s attractive and what’s not. That’s life. Not everyone likes the same thing. Some may find six-packs and big muscles to be attractive. Some may find the dad bod to die for. Great. Why does it matter so much to other people as to what they find attractive in a person? Not everyone is going to find what the majority of society finds attractive...attractive! That is okay. One body type may be attractive to you and another may be sexy to someone else. YOUR opinion is not VALID in someone else’s happy relationship. Quite frankly it makes you look like a superficial jerk. Lia has a thing for chubby guys. That’s her prerogative. Not society’s.
I think that society as a whole puts way too much value on people's appearances. Looks are everything, society says. Personality is not valid if you’re ugly. Nobody will love you if you do not look a certain way. These are the messages that are taught by the media, and then everyone will begin to believe that every person on Earth has the same opinion as the one projected in the media.
Looks aren't everything. The intentions that the person possesses has to also come into the equation. People who come into your life because of your pretty face, or attractive body won’t be in your life forever, but people who can see past that into your heart will stay in your life. A pretty face with a god awful personality can make that person infinitely less unattractive than an “unattractive” face with a kind heart. I find myself much more attracted to a person’s personality than anything for this reason. A person who knows how to listen, care about me, and treats me right is super beautiful in my book. You can look good, sure, but if you can act good, that is more important to me and many others in a relationship.
Looks fade. We’re all going to get old and wrinkly one day and be unattractive to society, so why are we placing so much emphasis on them? Again, the thing that makes people stay until this happens is personality.
I’m not saying that attractiveness is not important because it obviously is, and is an important aspect in a relationship, but it isn't everything a relationship should revolve around.
When it comes down to it, it is not yours, or anyone else’s place on the planet to question someone’s relationship. The next time you see an odd couple such as this, as yourself this: Why are you wasting your time questioning someone else's love for each other, projecting your own insecurities into your own judgmental attitude?
I think couples like Lia and Evan, and another YouTuber called glowpinkstah and her boyfriend Ali teach us a lesson. They teach us that looks are not the only thing that you can find attractive about a person, and there are other things that can make a person beautiful. A beautiful, amazing heart will always, ALWAYS be more appealing to me, and many others, than a hot body and ugly personality.
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