Falling in love can sometimes be a terrible experience or a very good one depending on the context. If you fell in love with someone who's not the right one for you, you may end up with a terrible experience that you wish you'd have never gone through in the first place. All of this can give you experience whether it's your first time or it's multiple times. Here are some things to know before falling in love.
1. When you have feelings for someone, don't raise your hopes up.
That person may not be the right one for you, they may not feel the same way towards you, they may be taken, and you may end up having a crush on someone you can't get and it's a terrible experience. Everything is possible. It may or may not work out, but if you raise your hopes up it can be very destructive when you're slammed in the face with an unexpected reality. If that person doesn't give you his or her attention, they're not for you and you're not for them, it's not worth it move on. Don't expect too much and be prepared, you may thank yourself later if it didn't work out.
2. Don't give out everything for a person you've just gone into a relationship with.
You may never stop thinking about that person, you may think your life won't be perfect without that person, STOP THAT! that person could be your partner in life, but your life is complete with or without this person. If you give out a portion of yourself to that person, guess what? People aren't fully stable, if you happen to let go of that person, you'll feel a part of you missing because of the fact that you gave that part to that person and they took it away once things crumbled. So that's why you feel emptiness. Understand that you should give a small portion not half from yourself to that person.
3. If you went through a bad love experience in the past don't let it hinder you.
It's just an experience that you gives you something to learn. You went through it and it's gone. If you want to start again, don't be afraid to start again, allow yourself to experience it again if it happened. If you made some mistakes in the past don't make them again.
4. Ask yourself whether or not you truly want to be with that person?
Be honest with yourself, what do you truly like about this person? Do you really know them well enough to form this strong feeling? Do you really have a lot in common with that person as you think? Do you feel like your feelings for that person are merely fantasy you created in your head, and you think that this person is perfect? if that's the case, then you should step back, look at reality and be honest with yourself. The earlier, the better.
5. You may not get "the one" from a first experience.
You should know that you may not get the love of your life from first experience. Love in reality doesn't always work like it does in the movies, you may have to get your heart broken a few times, till you finally get someone that you'll share the rest of your life with. You may lose hope, but just know that you're enough, focus on yourself and that right love might just interfere.
Sometimes it may not be under your control to fall in love, you may not be able to control your feelings for someone, just go through it if it works out, AWESOME, if it didn't, then let go of them and learn from it.
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