Idealized Traditionalism: What It Really Is and Where it Comes From, Part 1

[legs_n_sheets]

If you haven’t read my first take, you’re very welcome to read it here.

This second take I wrote (which I divided in two parts), is basically a pt. 2, and a response to my previous take. Some of the comments were very interesting and I liked some of the feedback I got. But others prompt me to write another one, because as expected from some women, they get very defensive when you talk about their behavior. So I thought of explaining myself a bit better, while touching base on another subject that is extremely related to what I wrote about.

So one of the females said that my take was about “victimizing males”, where in no way was what I was doing when I deconstructed female and male behavior in terms of relationships, and reproduction in general (biology). But rather how this dynamic, putting the two sexes together, works, or better put doesn’t work because of the opposite directions males and females follow.

To understand why, we need to understand where a healthy female and male relationship comes from. I do not count deviants or deviations when I talk about the average relationship. We know there are nymphomaniacs, and that there are rapists and sociopaths out there. But I’m not including pathology in anything that I’m talking about. We are also not including homosexuality here. This is simply about the idealism that heterosexual healthy relationships have stood for for such a long time.

Another female commenter also said that we (men) can’t pretend to understand women because we would have to be women to understand them, and that we shouldn’t listen to either statistics or studies. To that person, all I can say is that our intrinsic behaviors, our hormonal composition and simply our biology in general is by itself fact. The point of including female behavior as well, is to understand why relationships do not work. If females don’t understand males more, and if males do not understand females at all we are not going to get nowhere.

And our instinct for survival and for reproduction are the mere reasons why we are sitting here typing things from the comfort of our homes. Humans have been successful to reproduce because we cannot shut down our instincts, and work for reason only. We, as humans, may suppress our natural impulses but not eliminate it. And that’s the actual reason why we use female and male nature as the basis to understand relationships. Without accepting that, your relationships are going nowhere.

So going back on my previous take, as I said, women are very directional when it comes to relationships. A woman knows exactly where she wants to go when she is in a relationship with a man. Women are not interested in giving romance, and their priority isn’t to have adventures and good times with their mates (note I’m saying priority). They are very systemic and crafty to select a male, based on whatever utility she will/is gaining out in a relationship, and take said male into her direction.

Whereas she’s getting emotional fulfillment, career opportunities/professional aid from their mate, money/finance, or any other thing that gives her security to move on to the next step, she will stay with her mate until he is either no longer useful, or he steps away from her direction. If a woman has to get to the next step and her man is preventing her or simply isn’t able to provide her what she wants and take her where she wants to go, it becomes in what many males have heard numerous times: “the relationships simply isn’t working”. And they will move on either alone, or with the next guy who will take her whenever she wants to go.

And that is exactly why women need commitment and security from their mates. And that’s why you see women behave like this in cycles from men to men. Remember that men work in parallels. Men offer protection and comfort to their women, they expect them to validate their masculinity via sex, and compliance to them (where sometimes turns into control, by an insecure man), and men romanticize relationships to the point they really feel and love their women. And they are capable of doing all of this with more than one women in parallels, simultaneously. A man’s priority is not that of a woman. Women cannot expect a man to act like a woman, and men cannot expect a woman to act as a man. No one can’t project their sexuality into someone else because that will take them nowhere.

I admit I have been guilty on doing that, and most probably all men have. A very common example here on gag is all these men from Turkey, or India or wherever they are from sending dick pics to women, and telling them they love them by just minutes of interacting with them. Sure, any man would be very happy to have girls sending them pics of their pussies and their tits all over their message board. BUT females are not males, and you can’t project your sexuality into the opposite sex.

Another good example is a man who has been dumped by his girlfriend, and he decides to go at 3 am to her house throwing stones at her window declaring the love he has for her, expecting she’ll reciprocate to that, you know, the typical old school chick flick scene. Or send as many poems and flowers to females, and making favors for them expecting she’ll eventually feel the same way as he does. Yes, all of this is projection from males to females, and it will absolutely get them nowhere. Females simply do not feel the instant affection and physical attraction that men have, and less they do not share any sexual fantasy that men have.

Looks/appearance works for men when it comes to casual sex, or in a more invested and serious situation it will open them the first door only, which is a female trying a man out or “sizing him up” phase. But outside of it, looks will not make a woman stay, and it won’t change a woman’s opinion about her directionality and her biological imperative. Her direction and your ability to take a woman there is absolutely all you need to be fully in.

So how then, females project their sexuality onto males?

To be continued...

[John_Doesnt]

I am not a traditionalist and I don't know where it comes from.

[legs_n_sheets]

Make sure you read pt. 2 then :)
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a30612-idealized-traditionalism-what-it-really-is-where-it-comes-from