Disclaimer: I'm just an typical guy. I won't be able to anticipate all situations, and I won't be able to make a statement that will cover all situations. So, if you feel as though I am generalizing, that's because I am, but only because I, or anyone else who isn't doing this professionally, don't have the time to actually account for all circumstances. Enjoy.
You're Such A Good Friend
We've all heard this statement before, either in person, or someone complaining about being told it. It's that critical statement that locks you in the infamous Friendzone. Among it are, "You're like a brother (sister) to me; you're a really great guy but..." Now, I'm not here to debate whether or not Friendzones are imaginary misogynistic (misandrist) interpretations that set unnecessary expectations on women (men) or if they are means by which women (or men) sequester good men (women) out of their love lives to find a bad boy (girl) to excite them. No, I won't get into debates about that bullshit; they exist, but they shouldn't be a letdown or a form of rejection.
Romantic relationships should always be built under the framework of there being a friendship. I mean, how can we learn to love people if we don't like them first, and isn't two people who know each other and like each other a friendship?
My advice is this: treat meeting new people as just that. Leave your expectations of romance at the door, and if they want a romantic relationship with you, and you want that too, then take it. But don't act like that's what your relationship is predicated on.
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