Why All Women Should Play Hard to Get and Never Court a Man

[Aconfusedguy90]

So in today's society it's becoming accepted for a girl to approach a guy first, but as a man I can't express just how dangerous this is for the women, and what risks she is putting herself up for by doing this,

Let me start off by saying that us men have a somewhat predatory nature when it comes to women and life in general. We are always on a mission, always trying to achieve a goal, always looking for an easy target you could say.

So a guy's at a bar, he's on the prowl. I don't care what anybody says, guys go to bars to get laid or to get numbers. No bullsh*t.

So a girl comes up to a guy, and guess what? She's just walked straight into the spiders web. She's just given the power of the relationship to the guy straight from the get go. Now if this guy wanted only sex she's just made it totally easy for him to manipulate her into that or even if the guy was looking for a relationship but he was lame, abusive or something else, he's now in control of the situation. And if this guy is shy? Well screw him anyway if he doesn't have what it takes to be a man in life.

Women have more to lose but men have less and it's often why less attractive women end up with abusive guys or in a bad situation, they were desperate, in a position of vulnerability.

Do you ever see a model in an abusive relationship? Nope, or at least not often, models usually target older guys with resources as they can manipulate them into getting what they want using the power of beauty.

Unfortunately life is not as sweet as we have been told, it's kill or be killed out there.

[WavyWyx]

So when did you realize that you were the man who had figured out how everything works? I mean your read on all men as predators. Bravo! That hasn't been said a thousand times before, and if it was then saying it again definitely makes it more true. And shy guys aren't real men! What a scoop! So if you have an anxiety disorder or were abused/bullied your whole life or are just generally the quiet type, then you get your man card taken. More women for @aconfusedguy90, the realest of men vomiting up his providence upon us! (Nice, self-aware choice of screen name btw).

In all seriousness though, you've only ever been yourself, so don't tell me that all men are predators. When you say, "As a man, I know all men are predators," what the rest of us hear is, "I'm a predator and to make myself feel better about it, I've psychologically projected this trait upon the rest of my gender." Grow up and take responsibility for your own personal creepiness, because I, as a man, am not letting you pass the buck off onto your dick.

[LittleSally]

*This reads like some 'men's' single's manual for getting laid.

[Aconfusedguy90]

Not really, it's supposed to be an honest piece of advice for women, saving them from potential heartache, make the guy work for you, if he's man enough he will step up, if not forget him, don't approach and give it to him on a plate.

[LittleSally]

According to that I, nor any of my friend, acquaintances nor any other woman I've ever met in my life has ever met a real man...
(A drunk guy asking someone to show their boobs doesn't count.)

[Aconfusedguy90]

Well it's probably true if you are American British or Australian, there are less strong gender norms,

if you spend some time in Russia or Eastern Europe you understand the concept of femininity and masculinity a lot better

A girl approaching a guy first only puts the ball in his court making him work for you makes him cherish and respect you a lot more then if you treat yourself like a cheap easy come easy go item.

[Aconfusedguy90]

A good relationship is going to have to be a struggle, you may have idealised fantasies, but life and human nature is not so fair and even, an easy relationship will mean less respect towards each other or it will be shallow, 'I just need someone to go the movies with' 'I will look good in public with her so I will take her' are very common attitudes in the west, even if people don't admit it,

because people don't fully realise the complexity of human nature and emotions, how our brains work etc,

Take money for example... if you struggle to make money then losing it will mean a lot more then if you had it wile going on holiday, and this is actually subconscious in our minds,

So who has more to lose? Man or women? Women need a long term mate and man need a short term, women therefore must make sure the man is more invested in her then she is him, if the relationship will be worthwhile.

[LittleSally]

I'm Croatian...

[Aconfusedguy90]

Then you will understand

[Aconfusedguy90]

Honestly I've never been to Croatia, but I have never seen a girl approaching a guy in any of my travels to Eastern Europe, And I can't imagine it happening either.

I think the girl going after the guy or initiating is a lot more normal in western nations, but this is why you see men taking more than they give here, and why the women end up in a mess over 'fuckboys' A EE girl will give you the boot if you act like an idiot, a western girl will like you even more.

[Anonymous]

This was the biggest load of crap I've read yet this year. Most guys are not the monumental douche bags you make them out to be. Sounds like maybe you are, but don't project your own dirty laundry onto the rest of us men. We don't deserve it.

Also, women are not the poor defenseless victims you seem to think they are. And don't kid yourself... most of the women who go out to bars and approach guys are looking to get laid too.

There's not a damned thing wrong with women approaching men.

[Aconfusedguy90]

Look if you believe women want to get laid by strangers then you believed there bullsh*t, usually women sleep around to get over a guy or to get attention, women are definitely not horny beasts like us men are, I have f*cked women who then told me they recently split up with there boyfriends, and I thought they were just horny... if they were so horny then prostitutes would be prostitues by choice which never really happens, women use sex as a tool you should know that by now, and women are never going to be honest with you, they will say they love sex just so you don't find out there intentions

And I'm not a douche I'm just being honest, from my own past, girls have approached me and due to there desperation I have took complete control of the situation

[Aconfusedguy90]

Everything women do is emotionally driven and manipulative , honesty and transparency doesn't compute with women the same way it does with men, they use sly tactics to manipulate situations, a few masculinised feminist equal gender role anglosphere women may be transparent
But that's not the feminine type you want

[Aconfusedguy90]

And it's not douchebag it's called being a male , you can't fight biology or cover it in false western idealist morals.

[IHateBeingaMan]

some guys hate, resent having to always be the initiator

[Aconfusedguy90]

Why would a women ever initiate? Where is the mans courage?

[IHateBeingaMan]

and its always the man that has to have courage, which can feel like an injustice

[Aconfusedguy90]

Oh come on, there is no such thing as 'justice', or you are taking the definition to the extreme, if there was justice which means fairness which means equality which means everything being the same why are we all different? I bet you have a boss right? But where is the justice there? Why should you do his jobs for less pay?

[IHateBeingaMan]

ya this video right here says it all, but oh well, i guess thats just part of life not being meant to be fair:https://www. youtube. com/watch? v=91SlnIVDFso

[Anonymous]

Not everyone is like you.

[skeptic002]

No that's you I'm at home chillin