Communication: How Men and Women Communicate Differently, and How to Reconcile These Differences.

Nightinggale
Communication: How Men and Women Communicate Differently, and How to Reconcile These Differences.

Disclaimer: This myTake is based on my own observations of men and women I have known, and all of the statements are generalized statements, not universal ones.

Men and women communicate differently. This is obvious to anyone who observes people. Men typically do not discuss their feelings as often and openly as women, they are usually less sensitive in their speech, and they are usually more straightforward. Women usually discuss their feelings with one another, they are more sensitive, and usually less straightforward.

These facts often cause problems in relationships. I think I can help with that, and here is my advice.

For men

1. Usually when your woman wants to discuss something that is bothering her, she is looking for a listening ear and sympathy/empathy, NOT advice and your opinion on how she feels. So just listen, don't "try to help". You ARE helping BY listening.

2. If you do not know whether she wants you to just listen, or rather, is looking for advice, just ask her. Trust me, she will appreciate it.

3. If you're worried about being insensitive, then just preface what you say with something along the lines of "Now what I'm about to say may hurt your feelings, and I'm sincerely sorry if it does, but I think what's best for our relationship is if I am honest about my thoughts and feelings" and then say how you feel.

4. Talk about your feelings. I know it sucks but I promise you that: It will make you feel better and it will strengthen your and your woman's relationship.

For women

1. Be more direct. Most men appreciate it and actually prefer it. Trust me, we usually won't take it too personally.

2. Don't "over talk" about how you feel. What I mean is that if you have already told your Man once or twice how you feel about something, that is enough. To be honest with you, if you keep talking about something that' bothering you, and it's on and on, most men will see it as whining. And let's be honest, it is.

3. If you are looking for sympathy/empathy, tell your man. If you are looking for advice and his opinion, tell him. If he's worth a shit, he will provide you with what you need.

4. If you are worried about being too insensitive, refer to my advice to men above on # 3

In conclusion: Communicate with your partner what you want/need from them openly, yet sensitively; Acknowledge their feelings and validate them, yes also be straightforward with them. Do not judge one another's thoughts/feelings. It's a relationship, both the man and woman's input is equally valid.

Thank you for reading. I hope this helped someone. Sincerely, Nightinggale.

Communication: How Men and Women Communicate Differently, and How to Reconcile These Differences.
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