I came on here yesterday and saw another "have you dated someone on here or would you" question. A lot of people said "no" and some even said "this isn't a dating site, this isn't what this is for". Well, neither is your local Walgreens check out line but I'm sure you'll find a few people who met like that. See, I don't think people quite understand how relationships form or what it is all about. So, I'm going to try and explain it to you. I don't expect you to agree, but this is how I see things.
I get the impression that people think relationships form because of common interests or because of "the list" they have and finding someone with all those qualities means they found the one. I think people see love as intellectual thing, instead of an emotional thing. Love is not of the brain, it's of the heart. When you see someone across the room with a billion people in there but you focus on just that one, that's an instantaneous connection. In that moment you're not thinking, you're feeling. You don't know why you're drawn to that person, you just are. And, that is how this whole crazy relationship thing works. It's not logical or rational. it's emotional and something that just is. You don't know why and you don't know how, but it just is.
I know people think relationships and love can only happen if it's done in conventional ways, but that's not entirely true. I suppose if you were out looking for someone, you could find them at a club or a bar. However, if you're not looking for anyone and just going about your life, such as it is, then it can happen anywhere. You could meet someone just about anywhere and people have. At.....
The grocery store. The gym. The dog park. The hospital visting their sick relative. At work. At school. At a friends wedding. While backpacking through Europe . On a trip to Costa Rica or other countries. On Twitter,Facebook or other internet sites. Through video games.
Basically, you can meet anyone anywhere and you don't have control over that. Some people just have great connections and it's wrong to deny yourself that because you didn't meet under normal circumstances. I didn't go to the grocery store many years ago to find a man to date, but I did stumble upon one I was drawn to and left a note for, because I knew there was something special about him and just had to know him. I never got that chance, but I don't regret writing that note.
I didn't come here to make friends or find someone I may want to date. I came here to ask about that guy at the store and stayed because I like questions and answers. However, I did make friends and found people that I had romantic interest in. Most of them have left my life, but for all the ones that left, there are the ones that stayed. I have two best friends,one who I'm very connected with and is my rock. One who I have everything in common with, to the point that it's eerie . I also made some really good friends on here, one of which I talked to a lot and is very sweet. Then there's the one who I became friends with but now want to date. We talk on the phone sometime and it's hard to deny that we do have a chemistry between us. I think we'd both be idiots if we didn't at least try explore where things could lead. I know we're different ages and live in different states, but that doesn't mean it can't work. So, I guess we'll see what happens.
What I want people to take away from this is that love just is. Connections just happen. Love just happens. There's no right place to find it, or perfect person to find it with, you just find it. There's no rhyme or reason for it. Love just simply exists and you can't control how it will happen or who it will happen with, you just have to be open to it when it does. Listen to your heart and it will lead you in the right direction.
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