Girls would you be mad if your boyfriend had a backup plan?

[troublemaker]

ok I know that you girls would be if your boyfriend did have a backup plan but what if your friend was the one who told you that your boyfriend had a back up plan. I know that you would still be mad though but what if your boyfriend was thinking about having a back up plan instead of having one because he was feeling that he was going to lose you as a girlfriend? Also girls what would you want your boyfriend to do to show you that he cares and that it was just all a big mistake?

[SmarmyMarsh]

Not sure I fully understand what you're asking. This is one of those "he-said-she-said" things, where someone heard he might possibly be thinking about being with someone else just in case he loses me?

All right, first of all, I'd ask him where he saw the relationship going. Maybe then he'd just make whatever insecurities he has known and we could work them out. For the time being I'd leave the back up alone, because there's something else that needs to be worked out first.

The problem there is if he thinks he's losing her, obviously she doesn't mean that much if he'd rather find someone new before he even gave winning her back a go. That's tough to make up for. If he actually believes he made a mistake, he'd have to give up on his back up (I don't want to hear her name, I don't want to know she ever existed, because now you've just threatened me and that's f***ed up) and make me feel appreciated however he can, whenever he can.

But the biggest problem here is he's not being up front. If he had been, this back up girl (hopefully) would never have been a problem in the first place, and chances are he wouldn't have felt he was losing the girl he was with.

[allola]

The reason that having a back up plan is such a bad thing is because you're basically saying that your girlfriend is easily replaceable. That hurts, because we like to think that you think we're special.

I'd have a hard time moving past this. First off, you have to be sure you really like her. If you do, then show her. Be genuine about everything you do and prove that she's worth the fight.

Compliment her, sincerely. Tell her why you like her, sincerely. Remind her you like her and no one else, sincerely.

[DanielleJo]

I would want him to just prove to me that he wanted me.

I know guys do usually have a back up plan but either way its not fair to either girls.

i mean honestly, who wants to be someones back up?

im not lecturing lol

I'd want him to just tell me why he feels that he's losing me and what he's going to do to keep me.

if a girl doesn't want to be with a guy she's not going to waste her time.

and plus, she would be griping about little things to you.

if you need help just message me k.

Danielle

[singerlovez]

kinda mostly because I like str8 up people I wuld want them 2 just be real abt it if they want 2 be with me or not... because no 1s forcing 2 people 2 be 2gether its their choice y shuld you hide the fact you dnt want 2 be with that person any more