Sunny88 - I read your comment to another responder where you stated " I know, they're old, but what's the point? He has her on his fb, pics of them hiking I don't get it I'm not insecure by any means. I didn't get mad but my friends are all like WHAT? So maybe I should be upset "
When I read this statement I have to ask if you weren't upset when you first found them and only now questioning if you should be upset because all your 'Friends' say you should be which relationship means more to you?
Have you asked him about the pictures? If they are old is he willing to delete them as well? Even though he has said he doesn't like this EX... Is it possible he may not like her as a girlfriend but as friends they are okay? You stated he has pictures of her on his Facebook page and he is still friends with her on facebook. In any relationship a person gets into are they suppose to go through and scrub away their life of past relationships because a potential relationship might be jealous?
I have been with my husband over 20yrs and I still have pictures of him and his first wife. Even though he told me to throw them out I still kept them. Simple because it was and still apart of his past. I do not want to erase his past and act like I am the only person he has ever been with or loved. I want to be apart of his future. Keeping those photos and memories from his past shows that I accept all of him past, present, and future.
Now if any of these actions have happened while you two have been dating and you feel like he has lied to you that is a different story. On that you should sit down and talk with him open and honestly if you really want to build a future with him. However if he has never given you a reason to doubt him and these doubts are only starting to build because of the ideas your 'friends' are giving you then make sure whatever choice you make is " Your Choice 100% " and not what "Everyone Else" thinks should happen.
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I can not say as to why he has them or if you should be upset. But I can tell you how I feel about things and what it would mean to me. First I have been married now for 20 years and we are very happy. If she found nude pictures of my ex's on my computer she would be upset and hurt. However, It is not how I personally see them. I love the way a woman looks both with clothes and without. I find woman to be both sexual and beautiful to look apon. This being said I have no interest in being with another woman nor would I ever even if i found one to be aluring. I do not compare her to other women or would I ever want to because she is special and above the rest. This does not mean I do not find other woman sexy or attractive and enjoying seeing them nude or clothed. I do not mean to hurt her nor do I want her hurt by my enjoyment of other women's appearance so I do not keep things like that around. However I see beauty in the way many women look and enjoy looking at them as a form of wonderful art.
I had a few naked pictures of exes on one of my laptops that I used on occasion. A year had passed before I had put them on there, and totally forgot that I had them on that laptop as well as another. My girlfriend at the time found them, and she was upset about it for around a week. Then she saw the modified date, and realized that it well before we even met. I would check the modified date, or at least the creation date. This will give you a better idea as to where to proceed.
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I still have nude pics of other girls from my past. Most of them are on my computer, old cell phones, or in old Facebook/text convos. I'm in a relationship and have/would delete anything a girl sent while we were dating, but in my opinion if the old pics were from before we started dating, then I am not going to go searching for these to delete them.
In your case, based on the info that you provided, I am fairly confident that 1) he had a stronger connection with this girl than he wants you to know, 2) he probably still has something for this girl, 3) the nude pics are accessible for a reason. Either they were recently sent or he still enjoys seeing her nude, and 4) you were purposely not I bited to the reunion so that he could see if he could score with the "annoying loser"I mean, it's pretty reasonable to assume that someone isn't going to do a sweep of their computer and delete a bunch of stuff from an ex off their. Most people wouldn't even think of it or remember that they're there. It sounds like, from the FB thing you mentioned, that you're just on the hunt for these things because you're a bit insecure about this ex of his.
When you go hunting through someone else's stuff, this sort of thing is bound to happen.you should be furious if he still looks at those photos and even more so if he uses them to masterbate with, if he doesn't ever look at them then delete them and forget about it, no need to be mad
"Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me." Shit, you let him fool you 3 or 4 times too many. Unless these things are old and he completely forgot about them, I consider it unfaithful.
It's not wrong to feel things... what you do with them, is another story
If I was you. I would definitely be upset
U should be upset. Aha
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