I'm ugly and hate my life?

[S7evin11]

gly and hate my life?
Ever since I was in the 3rd grade I've always wanted a girlfriend, I had a friend who got a girlfriend and it just seemed so cool to have one. The older I got (I wear glasses) the more I realized that I was ugly with them on, I was ok with this until grade 11 there was this girl I liked and we became good friends but that was it... She friend zoned me hard. On Facebook she would like my statuses but never my pictures she would never hang out with me ever just talk on the phone then I had enough of being ugly so I got contact lenses and for the first year I noticed a difference and started going to the gym, I've gained muscle and felt a lot better but still feel ugly girls still don't like my pics on Facebook or Instagram I never notice girls looking at me, and now I've told myself that if college doesn't work for me (failing it I mean) I start in September, I will kill myself or worse harm others, I have an anger problem that is slowly getting worse because of this. I WANT A DAMN GIRLFRIEND IM SICK OF THIS **** EHY can't I BREAK THIS ******* BARRIER. by the way I'm the nicist guy I've been told by many women!!! But that's ******* it

[definebeauty]

I've got a nugget for you. You seem passionate about this subject. Passion is good. Try channeling that passion into something a little less obsessive sounding, like painting or baking. It is highly important that you are comfortable with yourself before you join someone else. Just like your thoughts about college, what if it doesn't work out. If you were never happy by yourself, you'll lose yourself completely if the relationship fails. So continue to work on yourself and becoming the best version of yourself by your healthy standards. don't kill yourself because that will not help you attain anything except eternal damnation.
About this social media obsession you have... stop it. The internet does not reflect real life. If no one liking your pics makes you feel bad, delete your pictures or your account or stop posting pictures. Have you tried being more sociable and purposeful? I'll tell you one thing. I had the biggest crush on a guy who 75% of my friends thought was a 3 on a scale 1-10 and the rest were indifferent but I didn't care because he he made me laugh, very intelligent and he had this strong silent type air about him and I was attracted to that. I say this because when people are attracted to your personality, your looks fade away. Show girls your personality, be more purposeful. I say this because even though you say girls think your sweet, I do not think you're going about finding a girl properly. Stop being casual be more purposeful.

[S7evin11]

Thank you for the thoughtful answer

[beeturner]

There is far more to life than popularity and whether you have a partner or not. The sooner you realise that, the easier life will become. I suggest professional help will do you a world of good. I have had similar issues before and I found it super helpful to talk to someone openly and without fear of being judged by someone you personally know. I really hope you can see past all this, as I can assure you there is a wonderful world out there beyond your own worries and a perfect partner could come along when you least expect it. Best of luck to you!

[S7evin11]

Thank you very much

[Get_Medieval]

Just try to get out there more often. Be a little eccentric. Have interesting quirks. Also, if all else fails, just make friends with a girl and then ask her out. But don't wait too long else you'll be just considered a friend.

Plus, don't kill yourself. I've seen violent death firsthand and it's pretty painful looking. Plus a lot of people or animals end up voiding their bowels (Sh*tting themselves) and urinating when they die via trauma which is just humiliating.

So just avoid that whole tableau and do online dating.

Also, I'm going to make a guess here. You don't approach girls enough. Ask them yourself. Steel yourself and just do it. The worst they can do is say no. I mean 200 years ago guys your age were made to wear brightly colored clothes and march directly into musket fire without breaking ranks. If french teens could do that, you can ask plenty of girls out. It's highly unlikely that they'll physically assault you. Also, how much girls like your stuff on Facebook doesn't mean anything much aside from that they use Facebook all of the time. Bottom line, never assume they'll ask you out. You have to do the job yourself. And if you get rejected, try again. Plus, studies show that the majority of someone's associates of the opposite gender would date them if given the opportunity. So someone you know wants to see you naked mate, and it's not just your doctor.

[S7evin11]

It's as simple as this... Girls want "cute" guys the attractiveness of a guy is mainly what gets the girl's attention yet they say otherwise smh

[Get_Medieval]

Well, I don't know how attractive you are, but give me your general info. Weight, facial description, musculature and hair color and I'll tell you if you're 'ugly' or not. Unless you have an obvious deformity like a clubfoot or are missing your nose a la tyrion (or are a dwarf) then you'll probably be fine. I know a dude who's, no offence to him, a land whale but has two really hot girls super into him.

[S7evin11]

Black male not dark but brown, I weigh 150 I have a muscular body, I'm growing my hair because my head has an oval look with a haircut, I have a big nose and small lips, small ears and and don't know how to explain it but my chin is "wrong"

[Get_Medieval]

I got a pretty good mental picture of you from that. First off, everyone has a bit of an oval head. It's so our brains can fit in it. The weight, I'd assume is mostly bone and muscle. You have that over me. I'm only 130. A good musculature is always a good thing, according to girls I know. Some girls find large "Roman" noses attractive too. From what I can get of that description, you're pretty average without the musculature, and with it, add on a few points. Find a girl you hit it off with and approach her and talk in person. It's hard, I know, but hey, you gotta do it. Make a few vaguely sexual remarks, jokingly when you hang out with a girl you can hold a stable conversation with. Eventually, within a few weeks, you should be good to go.

A rather underhanded thing to do is ask out a girl who has self esteem issues or gets depressed easily. They often place the bar lower. Besides, it's always nice to help someone, so long as you can listen to her talking about her problems.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

You need to speak to a professional about your anger issues. I don't know you, but it really sounds like you don't know how to talk to girls, and are friendzoning yourself. Social media 'likes' have NOTHING to do with real life popularity or success with women.

[S7evin11]

I know how to talk to woman but don't have the looks... Women won't admit it but they're ridiculously shallow

[yaddayaddayadda02]

You must not, because women prove time and time again, that ugly dudes with confidence and power can get hot chicks.

[S7evin11]

Honestly don't know what to do dude, even when I get a phone number she just kept hitting me with one reply texts

[yaddayaddayadda02]

The first, and MOST important thing to do is get rid of your anger. If you're swimming in the ocean and a shark bites you, is it rational to get angry at sharks? Of course not, it's just doing what it's designed to do. Same thing with women. How they behave is what they're designed to do.

Women want confidence, they want protection, they want to feel safe, and they want a guy their friends would be jealous of. They want to know that you are better than them.

The bitter reality you have to swallow is that every friend zoning you get is YOUR fault. Do not be friends with women you are attracted to sexually.

You say you get phone numbers, you CALL (don't text, that's a wussy way out) and say to her "I really thought it was cool meeting you, would you like to go out for drinks on Saturday". That's it. No chit chatting about her life, her day, her problems. She either accepts or rejects. If she rejects, thank her for her time and move on.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Get rid of your ego. A rejection is just a rejection of the idea of you two together. It's not a rejection of you as a person. This is a VERY hard skill to master. Think of it like food. If someone asks you to go for Chinese and you're in the mood for Italian, you don't think that Chinese is the worst food ever invented, you just aren't into it right now.

It's a numbers game, you're going to get rejected way more than you'll have success. But much like the best baseball players, they strike out way more than they get hits - they're still successful.

[S7evin11]

Very good points. Thank you for putting things together. The thing you said about rejection, it's also like a hard game, you keep trying and get more frustrated or you give up, with something like this you can't just give up at the same time if I keep trying it will totally mess me up

[yaddayaddayadda02]

I totally get you, dude. How many times when you started working out did you find your muscles fail and you were unable to do one more rep? Can't you do MANY times more reps with even heavier weight now?

The last thing to try is 'opposite george'. It's inspired by seinfeld.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cKUvKE3bQlY

[S7evin11]

The one thing that hasn't let me down is working out, my friends have notice a huge difference, a couple of guys said I look intimidating even though I wouldn't hurt any man unless they are harming me or my family I just wish women would see me as someone unique and attractive

[yaddayaddayadda02]

They will when you start seeing yourself as that. But remember, all your work is for YOU. To make YOU awesome. Not to attract women. That will come naturally.

Do me a favor. Either go on the pirate bay and download the black phillip show, or go on YouTube and search for the 'cult of black philip'. A comedian, Patrice O'Neal did a radio show and he knows a LOT about women. Don't necessarily try to act like him. You have to be you, but he nails a lot of how women think and act. Listen to the entire series (there's about 12 episodes).

[S7evin11]

Thanks a lot and I'll check it out

[Klaatu51]

show a pic just to see how ugly you are... you might just think that you're ugly... notactually be one.

[S7evin11]

Don't know how

[TinkeeWinkee]

You are over 45 man, get it together and seek some help.

[Anonymous]

Happines comes from within not from others

[S7evin11]

Explain to me in detail how I will find happiness.

[Opinion Owner]

Everyone has to find their own happiness, no one can tell you what another persons happiness should beT

[S7evin11]

Alright I will find happiness when I find a girlfriend to love but wait... That can't happen!

[Opinion Owner]

As long aw you have a downer attitude it wont, girls like someone who can make them feel better about their insecurites

[S7evin11]

If you make a girl feel good about her insecurities she will friend zone you. Fact

[Opinion Owner]

Only if she is the using kindgive a little take a little

[MaskedSanity]

@Asker

Bullshit.

[Opinion Owner]

Agree with insanity, nice name by the way

[Anonymous]

Maybe they don't like you because you're so negative.

[S7evin11]

If you were to meet me in public you would never guess I have any of these problems and I act very positive with others, I'm guessing you don't believe me... I wish you did what you are seeing on this sight is the "private secretive" me

[Opinion Owner]

Girls can sense your insecurity. You may not be aware you're projecting that but girls can tell. Its going to come out in some aspect of your behavior even though you're trying to hide it.

[S7evin11]

Or they don't find me attractive...

[Opinion Owner]

Yes because you're negative. The kind of guy who has no confidence and feels sorry for himself would be a turnoff even if he were gorgeous.

[S7evin11]

No it's not confidence, stop saying that! It's because of my face

[MaskedSanity]

Alright, if you think it's definitely your face, why not upload a picture, then? Show us your so called ugly face and we'll decide.

[S7evin11]

I don't know how... I would if I knew.

[katydollxx]

lighten up more hun.