My birthday is on the same day as my boyfriend's mom. Do I ever get a birthday for just me?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years (since soph. year of college) and we've discussed an engagement in the next year. The problem is that I share my birthday with my boyfriend's mother and since we graduated college, my boyfriend has prioritized his mother's birthday over mine. He gives me a gift in the morning, we sometimes see each other for lunch, and then he spends the entire evening/dinner with his mother, without fail. Sometimes I am invited, sometimes I am left out. His mom has complained about "having to share" her birthday so I have spent two of my past three birthdays without my boyfriend and I am starting to resent it. His mother gets the prime time every single year and the best I can hope for is to tag along with them and feel unwelcome (by his mom). What can I do? I don't want to settle for feeling unimportant on my birthday for the rest of my life.

[APKAssassin]

If his mother is complaining, she is a bitch. Despite the fact that it is his mother (the person who gave birth to him) that does not excuse him-for the most part-ignoring your birthday. The fact he does this and his mother complains about it is just plain rude. I think you three should arrange a schedule for this. Perhaps, his mother gets the first half of the day, a nice breakfast, spending quality time, etc. Then around 12:00 (noon) switch off to you, have a nice dinner, go to a movie or something, have fun. I believe using this schedule, you should get the second half for dinner, etc. because you are his girlfriend and he should be more worried about you being happy over his mother. Family is important, but you should never put family before the ones you love and care for without the requirements of a blood line.

[Monitor]

You need to address this with him. I dated a girl who also shared a birthday with my mom and she was my priority, not my mother.
If he intends to have a life and/or a family with you, then you need to be a priority over his mother
If he turns a deaf ear, then you have your answer, not just for that, but for your future together cause that's what you'll have to deal with for the rest of your life