This guy I've been on and off talking with for 3yrs lives in my old state and we have sex the past 4 times I've taken trips up there, the first time being may of last year.
We both have always cared about each other the past 3yrs and wanted to be together but I didn't move back like I said I would.
I promised him this past may I was moving in july, he said I was just trying to get his hopes up but I assured him I was serious and finally persuaded him I wasn't lying and he was really excited. He told me we would be together when I got up there.
Long story short, I couldn't move. He ignored me (All calls&text) all up until last week when he finally answered. he text me and said...i thought after the first month of not answering you give up but no you still wanna f*** don't you,do you like being used?... I called him and he told me he gave up and is trying to move on. I freaked out and begged him to hook up with me one last time (I was taking a trip up there the next day and would do anything to see him). He said one last time huh, and sure ill f*** you...Then said see you tomorrow f*** buddy, I went up there friday and he didn't respond to my texts, I resorted to begging him to hook up, multiple times...Finally sat. I begged again telling him it would be the last time and I wanted to get with him, he said go to hell you stupid bitch leave me alone...and said he was pretty sure I'm sleeping around and can't trust me not to have a disease, I told him I had not been with anyone but him he said bullsh*t have fun at your hotel tonight alone then told me to call a mutual friend of ours who is a guy, and went on to say a lot of other mean stuff.
Things were going really well before I was supposed to move in june, I am POSITIVE he cared about me and wanted to be together, I know in my heart I wasn't being used like he said..
My questions are, did I make him think we were just f*** buddies by begging him and telling him it would be the last time and all I wanted to do was f***, and this is why he was so upset and mean last weekend?
Is there anything I can do to make things better? I'm moving up there in october and planning on not talking to him till then, is 3 months long enough for him to cool off?
Should I explain to him that he never was a f*** buddy to me?
We both have always cared about each other the past 3yrs and wanted to be together but I didn't move back like I said I would.
I promised him this past may I was moving in july, he said I was just trying to get his hopes up but I assured him I was serious and finally persuaded him I wasn't lying and he was really excited. He told me we would be together when I got up there.
Long story short, I couldn't move. He ignored me (All calls&text) all up until last week when he finally answered. he text me and said...i thought after the first month of not answering you give up but no you still wanna f*** don't you,do you like being used?... I called him and he told me he gave up and is trying to move on. I freaked out and begged him to hook up with me one last time (I was taking a trip up there the next day and would do anything to see him). He said one last time huh, and sure ill f*** you...Then said see you tomorrow f*** buddy, I went up there friday and he didn't respond to my texts, I resorted to begging him to hook up, multiple times...Finally sat. I begged again telling him it would be the last time and I wanted to get with him, he said go to hell you stupid bitch leave me alone...and said he was pretty sure I'm sleeping around and can't trust me not to have a disease, I told him I had not been with anyone but him he said bullsh*t have fun at your hotel tonight alone then told me to call a mutual friend of ours who is a guy, and went on to say a lot of other mean stuff.
Things were going really well before I was supposed to move in june, I am POSITIVE he cared about me and wanted to be together, I know in my heart I wasn't being used like he said..
My questions are, did I make him think we were just f*** buddies by begging him and telling him it would be the last time and all I wanted to do was f***, and this is why he was so upset and mean last weekend?
Is there anything I can do to make things better? I'm moving up there in october and planning on not talking to him till then, is 3 months long enough for him to cool off?
Should I explain to him that he never was a f*** buddy to me?
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