It sounds like it wasn't meant to be, dear. Either he has a sincere addiction (in which case the disease is the problem, not the drug) or he's not into you enough to make you a priority.
The reason things were going better when you first got back together is probably exactly that--you'd just gotten back together. Nearly all couples who divorce/separate get along better when they first get back together... it's really very common. It's much more likely that he was "this amazing guy" because of that, and not because he "had stopped smoking."
Many people who use weed don't abuse it and don't let it interfere with their lives. Try imagining it as something else, like playing music or hanging out with friends... If he was constantly ditching you so he could go play music or hang out with friends, wouldn't it seem like he might not be very into you? Wouldn't it seem like he didn't care too much if the relationship ended? I'm saying it this way because constantly ditching plans with someone is a CLASSIC sign of not caring about them very much... It's also a classic sign of addiction, though.
Either way, you cannot change him. Only he can do that. Do yourself a favor - get single, get happy, and learn to value yourself, so that you know better than to stick around when people treat you like that.
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I've known a few people like that.
That's "normal" behaviour, at least for cannabis addicts.(it's worse with some other drugs) Drugs take a big chunk out of their life, to become more important than the rest, you included. But most will hide that at least for some years and deny it, pretending they "control their drug", "it's just relaxing, not addicting" Crap& B.S. of course. It's the inverse.
They can be very persuasive: actually, they believe their own story. And will try instead to persuade you to smoke too.
Thus the hope of persuading them to get out of it by discussing it are close to zero.
Professional help might get him out of it but most prefer their drug to kicking off (their drug is "fun" and "cool", kicking off isn't)
Drugs are often related to some "friends". They don't want to be scorned by those "friends" for kicking off because of a girl: in their circles that's being "pussy-whipped", "recuperated by the establishment" and other kind things like that. The ultimate dishonour.
my dear I will advice you to stay away from him, because he said he had stoped the first time but came back and started it again I will tell you to let him go and find yourself a new guy. although it is not that easy
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