Why some black women get pregnant by a bunch a bunch of losers and thugs?

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Why do some black women get pregnant by a bunch of losers, not all of us but some of us. some of us date man with so many kids, with no job etc etc. Some of these guys doesn't even stay around to help raise these kids it's like they divorce you , so they divorce the kids too. What hurts me the most it's because society blame all black women for the cause of a few. The reason I write these post it's because I have one of my coworker she's 30 with 2 kids no dad around pregnant with third one. all of them have different dad but none of them stay around to help her raised the kids. What hurt me it's because I told her to make the other guy to wait for her to see if he'll want to stay around, but no she has too, and now she's pregnant he's nowhere to be found. oh by the way he has 10 kids already with 10 babies mama and she's the eleventh one. I don't even want to date a man with one kid, you have to have jobs, or in school trying to make it. Why a lot of us don't learn from the first experience, we're keep repeating them instead.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Black women, no. Some woman, yes. I have 3 kids all the same father who moved up state to finish school for law and im on my own here for my PhD. We are not together because he lies and is controlling, he's Hispanic by the way.
I went to a school where young girls can bring their child/children to the school daycare, a lot of them went through situations people would normally think a black woman would just go through, the school was mixed with a kind of races. It doesn't matter the race, its honestly the person and the reason behind the situation. Its crazy, being a black single mother some people hit me with "oh is the father still around for you and your kids" "do they have the same dads" " it must be so hard for you"like really. No it not hard because my kids push me everyday to do better and give them what I nevet had. At this moment i am blessed. And my kids father is a great dad, he visit them and send them stuff. I love him as the father to my kids but as a boyfriend no. I am currently dating someone who doesn't have children and the fact the he believes in me and respect me, my kids, he has my full respect. Why some women get pregnant by losers or thugs, sometimes we are all get blinded by love, thinking that person could be the one.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I have to agree with you. I have no idea why it seems like black women have the worst reputation for getting pumped and dumped so to speak. And what drives me crazy is they don't seem to figure out when it's going to happen even though a) other people can see it and they've been warned and b) they don't see it if it's happened to them before. It's beyond confusing to me. I don't see why you would risk being pregnant if you were it with someone for a long time or married anyway. i mean I friend of mine got pregnant while we were in college because she said doing it with protection didn't feel the same... Seriously? There's already like 4% (totally making this statistic up) of black women making something out of themselves; don't add to the stereotype. i for one want no part of that nonsense... Now that that's out of the way Id say that a number of women of other colors have the same issue. It may be more prominent with black women but it isn't strictly a color issue.

electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

Cause in life, there'll always be someone who gets the short end of the stick.

This question is sort of hard to answer primarily because no one can predict the future whether a man will stay or not. It doesn't even have to relate with race. Everyone does rational things in life.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think it is because of welfare programs that reward bad decisions. If you are brought up in a culture where that is normal, then you don't even feel any shame for it. This is what happens when women can get pregnant, and expect others to provide for the child, without being shamed at all. Any attempt to correct this problem is seen as sexist, or racist for trying to take money from people that are perceived to need help the most. So the problem keeps spreading, instead of getting better.

Someone mentioned Asian culture being the only one without this problem. In Asian cultures the woman would be greatly shamed for having a child outside of marriage, and they don't have the social programs designed to reward bad decisions. I know people aren't going to like this answer, but single moms, can't do what a married couple can do. That is why cultures for so long have valued virginity until marriage. It works better than telling people that have nothing to do with the child, that they no have to take care of the mother and child, because the mother wanted to use her freedom to make bad choices, and have others take responsibility for those decisions.

parkway · Accepted Answer

Society says she has the freedom to do what she wants.

Much of Black flawed culture traces back to Israel who promotes nasty attitudes in music and makes hitting and running ok.

One way to stop this action is do what other countries have done, stop rewarding bad behavior. So many girls think having a baby and getting welfare is taking care of the child. In other countries there is no welfare and the family has to kick in or old girl is out selling her cookies for a bag of beans and if she is lucky a chicken.

If you think Israel is not involved just look at 2 facts, who owns all major media - Jews. List the number of songs, music or movies and shows that depict a Jew in a negative way, the answer would be none. On the same token the Black woman is made low class by placing a driving beat and attractive hook line to it. You will see similar created crime issues in the inner cities as Israel.

Your friend is accepting what is out there. I heard a very attractive Black woman tell her friend on the phone she wants her son to be thugish. Being a thug is seen as attractive to many.

Junlian · Answer

now you know what us nice blk guys gotta deal with. but to your answer, its when she's clinging on to false hope and she sought for short term responsibilities. she basically had this " i want a confident guy with no future" rather than a "nice guy with a future." yeah yeah nice guys dont give woman the challenge or the affection woman want and they are predictable and all but guess what? blk woman just want not all thought some, just want that drama in there lives then put up there walls later on, when they knew damn well what they were getting themselves into. LONG STORY SHORT - FALSE HOPE. DECEIVING THEMSELVES.

Anonymous · Answer

Those guys are the majority of desirable guys when it comes to looks. Women want looks if they can't get a guy with looks and money. Women make bad choice after bad choice in men , but never want to shoulder any of the blame. There's plenty of black men with no kids and a job (I'm one of those guys), but when it comes to looks, they aren't good enough for women. Then they get pregnant by these kinds of guys over and over again and complain when the guy leaves, never realizing that maybe she needs to put some actual thought into selecting men.

Anonymous · Answer

It's called birth control, you should educate your friend. Also I'm not understanding what this has to do with race. Women can have sex with tons of guys and not get pregnant. Clearly the women who keep getting pregnant by these types of men need birth control education.

Anonymous · Answer

Do you hate black women? I'm half black and I have never been pregnant by some loser in my entire life. I went to college got a graduate degree and I only had 1 ex boyfriend I have no kids. Where I live it's the Latina women getting pregnant in high school and getting pregnant by black guys

justbeinghonest · Answer

LOL this question. Because idiots are idiots (no matter what color)  Getting pregnant by losers is something that women of all colors do.

Diego9O · Answer

Sorry to say this but your question is ridicolous. That reality don´t haves nothing to do with a racial background. It´s a social problem wich englobe women from different ethnic group.

sthrnsweeti · Answer

Same reasons why some white, latina, and Asian women do it. Kind of racist to limit those kind of women to just one race...

Anonymous · Answer

The question would be the same without the word "black". It's not a racial trait.

Dandeus · Answer

The same reason some white girls marry white trash losers and squirt out a bunch of brats: poverty and ignorance.

kheserthorpe · Answer

The most accurate answer is that it's an unintended consequence of the war on drugs.

Creole_Flavor · Answer

Why don't you ask someone in that situation? They might not even know

Anonymous · Answer

I not being racist but are 1 out every 3 black males a criminal or former convict. So what are the odds against black women gettimg pregnant by a thug or loser? Thats right 1 out of 3.

Anonymous · Answer

Not only African American women go through that but Mexican/Hispanic women get pregnant by losers and thugs who end up leaving them. It's sad :/

CasaNorba · Answer

Just a heads up, black women aren't the only ones that do this

bubbletrouble · Answer

Uh, the same thing happens in EVERY community but Asian.

Sexyandsexy · Answer

Its their hobby:)) being pregnant from homeless man:) they think its game:)

Anonymous · Answer

White women are doing those exact same guys now.

Why some black women get pregnant by a bunch a bunch of losers and thugs?

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