Let's go to the bedroom.. let's have sex.. let's do it.. I'm in the mood for some love making.. etc... Is that so bad? I don't think it's weird to at least indicate that you're in the mood for sex with your gf/bf. And indicating can be done verbally and non-verbally. I could also immediately start giving oral sex to a gf or bf, without any interaction and wait for a rejection. That's possible to.
I have never asked a gf/bf "can we have sex?" But I have used other phrases like: "I really wanna do you.. right now!" Never got a "no" on that lol. And it's clear what I want/need and when I expect it.
Sometimes it's hotter to just say it directly than to vaguely lead into it with all this non-verbal communication.
The only thing that matters is that you respect another persons right to bodily integrity. So if he/she says no.. you obviously stop!
But this question: is it a written law in the US that you have to ask your bf or gf permission, every single time, prior to having sex? Because you present this question as if it is the norm and true to reality.
it is considered rape if she does not consent, if you two are very sexually active already then you could tease her into wanting to but you should never force her, even when you get married (if your not already), you should respect that she is your lover and companion, not your property/possesion or sex-toy.
or you could do what you like and face 5 years minimum for rape charges, even if she doesn't report it someone will, like your neighbor or your/her friends, respect your lover, and respect the law.
Well its just how things are. What's wrong with asking?
Its just asking a question, not that big of a deal.
You don't have to even ask it like "Can we have sex?" you can always say something seductive like "Would you like to take this into the bedroom?"
Each girl is different I suppose.
Well if your dating you'd be expecting some kind of sexual behavior from your other so consent and all, but if its the mood its a mood you just do it, And if she doesn't she can say no or pull away. Asking her "hey, can we have sex" while making out will kill anyone's mood. Its kinda odd.
You don't. Asking gives a chance to allow her to say no, and it spoils the mystery and intrigue of whats going on. Obviously if she says stop, you should at any point.
But... Instead of asking, just start foreplay. Show physical affection. Massage her, stroke her arms, kiss her gently while holding her neck, build things up slowly. And read her body language in her responses. If she is enjoying it, you can ramp things up a bit. If she seems put off or not into it, stay at the level you are at. And always be happy to be in physical contact with her, never have expectations of sex just because you are passionately making out with her or whatever. Never get angry at her for stopping. Basically get her warmed up and turned on properly, and there is no way she is going to resist when you start to go between her legs.
I don't get how people aren't getting your question, QA.
PEOPLE - the guy means why does he have to EXPLICITLY ask it out loud "can we have sex?".
You don't. I mean, if you guys are making out and she takes her clothes off all by her self and starts performing oral, it's a pretty strong implication it's ok to have sex w/ her.
If you and your girl have it flowing, you can have consensual sex w/o any verbal communication.
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You absolutely MUST have her consent at ALL times, as you said in your question description.
Do you need to explicitly ask every single time if you can have sex with her in order to know that you have her consent? No, of course not.
Couples and sexual partners make out, touch one another, and have all different kinds of sex together without either person ever asking out loud if they have their partner's consent.
Basically, consent doesn't always HAVE to be given out loud on order to know that you have it.
The issue is that sometimes she doesn't feel like it, just like how you don't feel like it if you've just come out of the toilet after a severe case of diarrhea. Basically, it takes two to tango, and sometimes someone just isn't up for it at the moment.
You don't HAVE to ask. But you do need to make sure she's ok with the idea.
Just be sexual about it. Give her a passionate kiss, look her in the eyes then smile as you nod your head to the bedroom and say "c'mon ; )"
She'll get the hint.
If she's down she's down. If she's not she's not. I don't understand when people complain saying they HAVE to ask. You don't have to beg
Do you mean when you have non-verbal consent? Because that's not considered consent.
Even if your making out naked and then you slowly bring yourself on top of her and are clearly about to insert, you still need to actually ask her, even if her consent is implied.
I don't get the question, maybe because i haven't had the same experience. But in my life i have never actually asked to have sex it's been implied with my actions. They either want it to or they say not now. Which pretty much never happen's.
Because females should ask for permission to have sex with their boyfriends as well.
It's just a good idea. I mean, I get it, she's your girlfriend, she's likely expecting you to want it, and or want it herself butttt it's still just the polite thing to do. Think of it this way, would you want a girl to just start driving your car, without asking you it. Probably not. 1. It's GTA 2. Men are very prideful when it comes to their cars... just like women are prideful about their bodies and how the look/feel. It's the same thing
You don't have to ask, but you do have to have permission from her. It's her body.
bc she might not want to do it... also you can't just undress people and start having sex with them..
When you're asking her, you're getting her consent!
Because asking her allows her to give you her consent?
Really, you think of women as sexual objects. Just because you date a woman does not mean she will have sex with you. You should establish your idea of a relationship when you start dating to avoid being turned down for sex.
Dude, i would be so put of my that. Like "May I please stick my dick inside your pussy" No dude, no. As long she is consenting, sex should be spontaneous.
Dude.. Are you fucking serious right now man? You always ask bro , She might not be in the mood for it , or is not ready for it yet. Calm Your tits man
If you don't have her consent. But still try and have sex it's called rape. Or at the very least sexual assault.
I think it's hilarious that so many people think that not verbally asking means rape. The autism is strong.
fucking your girlfrind is good and all but if you don't get her consent first she could say you raped her and you could end up in jail, and i don't think you want that.
Because at least in the eyes of the law, regardless of whom you have sex with if they do not have the consent for you to do so it is called "rape".
well you kind of needed her consent too didn't you? or am i missing something...
Any guy I have been with has always asked. I had no problems with it. Most times it was a simple baby you wanna? Just taking it could be considered sexual assault or rape.
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