Question for the Fellas, do you like the title of being the protector?

[AnnabelLee23]

I know it's one of those things society puts on men, but just curious, do you like being deemed the protector?

Also, is it a turn off if your girl isn't the type to leave you in a situation where you could get hurt? ( granted the girl can handle herself)

The poll is yes/no/ehh about liking the idea of being the protector

yes

no

ehhh... shrug

Updates

+1 y

To clarify the second question, If you and your girl were out together and 2 guys wanted to fight you and you knew your girl knew how to fight, how would you feel if she stayed to fight with you?

[Anonymous]

I voted No.
Tbh I've mixed feelings on this. On the one hand, yes we're generally stronger and, from what I've seen, more emotionally stable. I don't mind walking on the outside of the road, opening doors or any of those other mostly symbolic gestures. I do however mind the idea that guys can't ever be the ones protected and they always have to be tough and the ones to make sacrifices. The phrase 'man up' pi**es me off big time. I think the expectation that guys have to be tough leads to those who are experiencing issues like depression to ignore it and feel guilty, often leading to the situation getting worse (see: male suicide rates). Plus, guys get screwed in most divorces because their welfare is deemed secondary to that of the woman and children (see: "women and children" first attitude).

Despite all that though, I do like feeling bogger and stronger than the girl I'm with and would like to think that my girlfriend would trust me to at least try and protect her.

I guess it's ok to recognise and have fun with men's advantage in strength and height and women's attraction to that but only if you remember that guys have feelings to. Once you do that, everyone would be better off in my opinion.

Tbh I'm not sure what you mean by "Also, is it a turn off if your girl isn't the type to leave you in a situation where you could get hurt? ( granted the girl can handle herself)".

[AnnabelLee23]

I have four brothers, so i understand a bit.

What i meant by the second question was, if you and your girl are in a situation where 2 guys want to fight you, ( and you know your girl knows how to fight) how would you feel if she stayed to fight with you?

[Opinion Owner]

If I loved someone, I'd want them out of danger no matter what. Even if she knows how to fight there's still a chance she could get hurt and so, I'd want her to go and I'd just take the beating (I'm no good in a fight). I'd feel that way about my younger brothers, my cousins, my parents and any girl I'd be with. It's nothing to do with gender, I just don't want someone I love to be in danger.

I've no issue with protecting people I love but I disagree with the idea that it has to be men.

[AnnabelLee23]

what if she felt the same way about you getting hurt?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't care. I'd want her gone (from that situation, not my life :P ). If I really loved someone, I'd take a beating before I'd let them do the same regardless of what they want.

[AJElectric]

I don't want to be labeled as a protector. I just am that way. but that goes with anyone, not just women.

[Anonymous]

If she's one to start shit and expect me to protect her from the consequences then she can go to hell. I usually stand up for people I care about though, or even for people I don't necessarily care about but I feel the situation is unjust.

[AnnabelLee23]

lol I hear ya, I'd say the same thing.

[Justsomeperson1]

I'm 6'4 and big, I always would want to feel like a protector for my girl. Its almost natural to feel that way around any female close to me (unless they where in the military or something)

[Anonymous]

yes, more so in the mind as in i have no problem or issue doing, the time it gets frustrating is more the acts and certain behaviors i have to do in order to show the girl i can protect her, make her feel safe, etc., as in taking the lead all the time or most of the time.

[Anonymous]

I think most guys would like it except for the fact that it is generally not appreciated by women these days and in fact is resented by many. That makes us want to say fuck it.