The common purpose of a promise ring is a smaller ring that you give to your gal as a placeholder for the engagement ring, because he's anticipating marrying her. Like, he sincerely plans on marrying her, not just because they've been together for a while. So, I think giving a guy a promise ring would be the same thing as proposing to him and giving him an engagement ring, which is just not really something that happens.
Don't take my word for it, but also, I feel like girls just shouldn't anyways because (I'm not saying this as a stereotype or saying that it's true for everyone) most of the time, girls are more passionate and emotional than guys, or maybe even too fast, so she may believe this is The One and can see herself getting a house and having kids with him while he just sees her as a cute girlfriend for now.
Promise rings are just things that are given to girls. Just like engagement rings or a bouquet at a wedding--they're things for girls.
I would just like to also throw in--there's nothing wrong with them. They're not meaningless, either, if you and your partner are committed. Something only has value if you give it value.
There is a difference between emotional and blinded by love, me and my partner are both emotional but neither of us are blinded by love. My ex however was a different story. When we were together, he told me he loved me almost immediately to which I responded "you won't know love till you've been in a fight with the one you love. It's a feeling that you will immediately recognize even if you've never felt it before." He was blinded by love. And yes, me and my current boyfriend have minor arguments even at the beginning because we never had a honeymoon phase. Honey moon phases you are blinded by love. I haven't been blinded since my first boyfriend so only reasons my ex's never fought with me was their honeymoon phase.
I think if you want to and you think the time is right, go for it. maybe talk to the guy first and see what his opinion on it is.
don't listen to all these people saying promise rings are stupid. and all they do is promise to marry one day. and you're too young. no. that's wrong. promise rings can mean anything. they can mean that you promise to commit. you promise to never cheat. you promise to always keep your promises. you promise to love. a mom and dad can get one for their child as a symbol of purity to promise to stay pure. a promise ring can mean anything. don't let these people fool you. do what you want. yeah usually the girl doesn't get the guy a ring but why be just like everyone else? be different. get him a ring of you want to.
No lol. Most likely they can't keep their promise either so why make them do so. Dating is about getting to know people to find who's compatible to you. It's not about marrying the first person you ever date. Although the idea seems nice, but unfortunately today's society makes this a very rare occasion.
I will say this though, if you expect the person to break up with you or cheat, you might as well break up with them because if you think that way, either they are the problem in your relationship (and there is if you think like that) or its your trust issues and you shouldn't be putting someone through the pain of a relationship you don't feel comfortable in.
I like the idea of promise rings honestly I thought about getting a girl a promise ring before I went off to college. Flat out if you think it's going somewhere don't get him a promise ring say to him "Hey I really love you and I want to stay together even when you (Whatever he is doing)." If he says he feels the same tell him he should get you a promise ring, he'll probably be 100% honest with you in that moment say "I don't feel comfortable with that" or say something like that or say "Ya I'd love that :)" either way you'll figure out where you stand :)
Promise rings are lame as hell, I wouldn't want one, or give one. If I was going to marry someone, I would give them the real things, what a money grab the promise ring is... Actually so is the engagement ring, but at least it isn't a bunch of HOOEY, at least for the most part.
I wouldn't just bc ( for me) it wouldn' t make a difference. Like I don't like to make promises as serious as that because I don't know the future or what will happen. And a physical manifestation of the promise won't change it so no, i would not get a promise ring for my bf
a girl should ask a guy out just as a guy should ask a girl out... but a guy should always be the 1 to buy the ring in my opinion... the guy needs to bring forth the commitment... that way when this 10 walks by in the store he remembers he's in it for life by his choice... sounds bad but it really is a big thing
besides it shows he cares and finding a man that cares can be difficult... any man might accept a promise ring but not every man would go out and get 1 unless they were serious
No they shouldn't. At one point in my life I bought promise rings for both me and my partner. Came home from a deployment and three women approached me apologizing that they had no idea we were together while I was deployed. Don't waste your money. But if you do, you can always sell them and get your money back if they have significant value. I mean... what else would you do with them?
These seem to have come along after I was engaged. I really cannot comprehend the reason for them. If your at a point of buying her a ring just get engaged. why spend money on a ring that is saying you plan on buying her a ring? Just because you get engaged doesn't mean you have to run out and get married. It turned out that I was engaged for 5 years. We moved the wedding a couple of times. But we were married 20 years.
it doesn't necessarily say you plan on buying her a ring. it is to promise to commit. to promise to never cheat. to promise to love. to promise to keep your promises. a mom and dad can get one for their child and ask them to promise to stay pure. it doesn't mean hey we're engaged but I don't have an engagement ring. that's not what it symbolizes.
What you described is called being a gentleman for a man. Being a lady for a woman. Or just being a decent human being. It is sad that anyone needs a ring to remind them to treat their partner or themselves with respect. When I was young, a promise ring was exactly that. A cheap ring that says I want to live my life with you but we need to deal with other life issues first (typically school or military service, something that will help get them going in life).
As a guy I can tell you I personally would not like that and I don't think many guys would be that keen on it either. I would feel like you are telling me I can't be trusted. I just personally think you should be able to trust the person without promise rings.
I've seen a guy wear a ring when he's engaged and plenty of girls wear rings meaning that they're on the way to being engaged but I've never seen a guy wear a ring for that purpose before even being engaged. My whole stance on it is that an engagement doesn't have a specific expiration time so if someone is going to wear a ring with the intention of getting married it might as well be an actual engagement.
My ex got me one before I left for the military and I never took it off. It wasn't a promise of commitment as much as one to not get myself killed though lol
Yes if a girl got me promise ring i would buy her one too i think it's cute for girl to do that for guy but you got know i am not like these other guys who think with their *****
No that's not something I would do personally and I wouldn't want one from a guy either. That said, if you know him well and share the same values, you probably have a good idea what he'll do if you were to give him one or how he'd receive it.
I'm sure some girls have, but it's a stupid idea. I get that virgins get promise rings as a promise to wait till marriage. But a promise to marry a girl in the future... that's what an engagement is for, so I don't see the value. Kind of redundant
an engagement ring is a ring given by a man to a woman when they agree to marry. a promise ring is a sign of commitment between two people. often, it is the first token of a serious relationship that is just developing, but exchanging promise rings can equally be a symbol of a joint commitment which is not related to love. a promise ring can mean many things.
I understand it. I just think it's redundant. it's just something physical, saying you want to marry them in the future. But that time frame is ambiguous and almost never given clarity, unless they happen upon it. The ring really doesn't offer much more than a verbal promise.
A promise ring would just annoy me to be honest unless I was 13. Now that I'm to the point where I'd like to get married soon, I would just be wishing it was the real thing.
I've dated three guys I got two guys a promise ring, my first be and my current. I see it as a sign as my commitment to them. It's a personal choice and I do it because I enjoy doing do
I never gave a guy a promise ring, but I want to get my best friend one, he is very important to me and he promised to always be with me no matter what. And if u Google promise rings you see there are so many for both guys and girls, so ya I would say do it, nothing wrong with it.
I'd probably buy a ring like any other male, but don't you think its weird? Not all women like men to take charge. why do you have to have leadership in a marriage?
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