Is it a bad idea to marry your first (and only) boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

He'd be your first kiss, first date, first partner-- and the last. Is this a good idea?

[lumos]

I don't think it's a bad idea at all. If someone feels like their partner is the one, it shouldn't matter if said partner is their first or their 47th. What's the point in trying to experience other people if you don't feel like it's necessary, and if you feel like you've found the person you really want to be with? I'd call it hitting the jackpot. People always make it seem like you have to date at least x number of people and go through x number of "bad relationships" before finding that one gem that you want to stick with. Why the hell would anyone want to go through all that, especially if they've already found their gem and don't need to go through all of that shit?

[lumos]

Also, to hell with anyone who says that you're "missing out" or that you're "not having enough fun". You don't NEED to have sex with or date like x amount of guys if you don't feel like it.

[Helen201]

Why not? If you love him and you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with him then go for it. If you're worried because you "haven't got to explore your options" and feel the need to break up with him and see what else is out there. But if that scares you then you're probably with the right person. If it's meant to be it will.. If it's not it won't.
Many people in my family have married their first loves/ boyfriends and are quite content with it. Not everybody have to go threw 20 guys to find the right one.. Consider yourself extreme lucky if you got it right on your first try!

[unbothered]

Hello:) If its true love, then why not? some people spend the better part of their lives dating the wrong people just to find "The One" so if you have already met him, count your blessings. However, if you are having doubts or don't want to rush into something or feel that you need to discover who you are a bit more first, then do that before saying "I Do". Statistics show that lasting marriages actually tend to occur when both parties are well into adulthood (thirties). This means that its best to truly know who you are before committing to another person and vice versa.

[WhiteSteve]

Not necessarily. I mean, personally I think it's good to date many people and experience life, I feel like you learn a lot about others and yourself. But at the same time, if you just happen to meet the right person and get lucky on the first shot, don't kick them to the curb just because. As long as you truly feel those feelings are genuine and it isn't just you TELLING YOURSELF that this guy/girl is "the one" just because there's no base for comparison.

[xhobbesx]

If you're his too, then absolutely for it. Various outcomes.
1. First, last, only.
2. First, married, someone cheats, over.
3. First, married, cheats, stays together.
4. First, date other people, get back together, marry, last.
5. First, date others, never talk again.
plenty other s but those are the basic.

[Lucylou1990]

Not if you love him. Ask yourself this, do you think anyone else could make you happier? My sister has been with her bf since they were 15. I know as much as she loved him she began to question if it was a good thing they had been together since they were so young. This happened when she was about 21/22. They're the type of couple that have grown closer together as they got older and more alike. They're also the type of couple though that aren't joined at the hip. That's what makes them healthy. They have separate friends and went to difference Universities. They gave each other enough space to grow up but could still be together. Long story short they're 29 now, been living together for 3 years and due to get married in April. They're happy and meant to be. I don't think she could be with a better guy. If the love and relationship is there I don't think the rest really matters :-)

[artgirl123]

every relationship is different. There's no accurate way of knowing since it depends on the people in that relationship. I come from a traditional hometown and I've seen people with their first who love one another even when they're really old. I've also seen the type of couples who constantly argue. There's good and bad in all kinds of relationships and you can't let that affect you. If you feel he's the one and you want to spent the rest of your life with him, than give him a try :) you cannot know until you give it a shot

[front2back]

Usually people's second or third relationship is the best.

That's not to say the first one will fail or will be bad, there's many things it depends on. I've known successful firsts that lasted through marriage, I've known people who took 10+ partners before it was finally good.

Generally it's not best to marry your first bf (especially if you're young and the relationship hasn't lasted more than a couple of years), since you have no idea how/what to do and what qualities you know you really care for. Only experience can help with that.

[musicbrain5]

I married my first boyfriend/first for everything as well. It's not a bad thing at all. I don't think you need to go and be in relationships with 10 or 20 people before getting married or just settling with one man. There are no rules for dating and marriage. If you just feel that you are right for each other and you have a good relationship, your experience or lack of it doesn't matter at all. You got lucky on the first try. 😊

[WpCurious]

You are lucky if your first boyfriend is the guy you're going to marry. There is nothing bad about it, just make sure that you're making the right choice. You two share something special and unique that some people can only dream of having, so just appreciate it. :)

[KHaskins]

As a straight guy, I can't say whether "first boyfriend" is a good idea or bot, but a cousin of mine married the first girl he dated, and they've been going strong for years now with a second child on the way.

There's no written rule saying the first one can't be "the one."

[KHaskins]

*or not

[kittykatg]

My fiancé is my first everything except for first kiss. I know a lot of people would say more experience is better but I've seen enoughed failed relationships from my mom and had enough guys try to coax me into a one night stand that I know an amazing guy when I see one. He's perfect for me and that's all that matters.

[epiman94]

While I see no problem with marrying your first bf/gf, i think you guys need to break up or separate at least for a few months to see what life is like without them. Its an important aspect to consider if you guys are going to spend the rest of your lives together.

[LittleSally]

No.
I think it might be a good idea actually...

If you love him and feel he's the one, don't let the wish for some new experiences hod you back from committing yourself to him.
There's nothing better out there - and this I say with 98% probability.

[RestlessYouth_]

Yes, that's a terrible idea, or at least it would be for me. In my opinion, to understand yourself in relationships, you need experience. I think it's a good thing to experience different guys so you can truly understand the type of guy you want and need in your life. Though sometimes that kind of situation does work out.

[ArchivalMars2]

Statistically speaking you will go through 3 to 7 relationships throughout your life. As for marrying on your first and only relationship... I'd say you have to be sure because really it is a bad idea, now if you've been together for years and you still love each other than I don't see why not.

[Shimmyshammy]

Do you realize that this occured more often than not in the past? Before 1940s or so, this was exactly what people did! Do not feel pressured to force yourself to see other people if you feel so strongly for your first. If you love them, that's all you need, forget the stupid scrutiny of others.

[beautifulangel76]

I don't think so that's actually what I kind of had dream about. Maybe taking a break to see if it's really meant to be is best but I mean do you want to do. I would also advise you to make sure that the guy is the one before thinking of getting married.

[godfatherfan]

Nope. I dated 5 women but never had a real "girlfriend" before I met my ex wife. We were together 25 years. If it were up to me we would be crossing 26 in 3 days.

[BCRanger10]

No. My mom was was my dad's first girlfriend. Going on 33 years this coming June.

[Prettygurl12]

If neither partner is worried about missing out and both are satisfied with the relationship and not being with anyone else, no, not a bad thing. As long as both parties are mature enough to function in a marriage situation.

[dudeman]

Not for women. Statistically its the best decision you can make if you want the marriage to last.

[Anonymous]

it's not a bad idea at all. if it feels right, then it feels right. i intend to do this. I've been with my only "real" boyfriend that actually matters for about 3 years. he was my first kiss, first date and first partner. i intend to marry him and spend a very long time with him. he's the love of my life.

[noneyabusi]

Depends. If you really never look at anyone else or even consider anyone else and you truly are in love then why not. But if you're doing it because it's comfortable, but you dream about what I'd be like to be with someone else then it's a bad idea.

[CommieDearest]

It's a bad idea to get married young, but don't dump a guy you're happy with over some preconceived notion that first relationships don't work out anyway. Just ride it out, and let the chips fall where they may.