I'm in a long distance relationship. Please don't lecture me on this particular aspect of my situation, I would just like some opinions & advice.
Because of this type of relationship, we don't have physical connection so we have to focus on the emotional aspect and communication through texting, calling, and skyping. We've been doing this for 8 months and all has been well, up until about last month.
I feel like something's changed and we don't talk as much. We used to talk on the phone a few nights a week, now he's "busy with his friends and work" that we talk once a week, if that. Sometimes when we text, it's gotten to the point where I don't know if he'll respond within 2 minutes or 2 hours. I understand people get busy & I don't expect constant communication with him, but I feel like before he would tell me more of what was going on in previous months (I'm hanging with some friends/at a store/ cleaning, etc) so that I knew not to expect a response from him.
It's not always like this. There will be good days, and then there will be bad days. But there never used to be so many of these bad days.
I'm just really confused as to why I feel this way about the situation. He says he's busy now, but it's not like in the past 8 months he's never been busy before. I've told him that I don't feel like we talk as much anymore and he says he doesn't understand and he feels like we do and he's doing his best. He says that nothing's changed, and part of me wants to believe him, but if nothing's changed, then why do I feel so upset and disconnected?
I do not doubt his love for me. He isn't cheating on me, he doesn't love anyone else. He's told me this multiple times and I know in my heart that it's true.
I don't want to break up with him, I don't want to move on. I would just like to talk to him as much as the previous months, or at least feel like I'm still emotionally connected with him when we're not talking.
Because of this type of relationship, we don't have physical connection so we have to focus on the emotional aspect and communication through texting, calling, and skyping. We've been doing this for 8 months and all has been well, up until about last month.
I feel like something's changed and we don't talk as much. We used to talk on the phone a few nights a week, now he's "busy with his friends and work" that we talk once a week, if that. Sometimes when we text, it's gotten to the point where I don't know if he'll respond within 2 minutes or 2 hours. I understand people get busy & I don't expect constant communication with him, but I feel like before he would tell me more of what was going on in previous months (I'm hanging with some friends/at a store/ cleaning, etc) so that I knew not to expect a response from him.
It's not always like this. There will be good days, and then there will be bad days. But there never used to be so many of these bad days.
I'm just really confused as to why I feel this way about the situation. He says he's busy now, but it's not like in the past 8 months he's never been busy before. I've told him that I don't feel like we talk as much anymore and he says he doesn't understand and he feels like we do and he's doing his best. He says that nothing's changed, and part of me wants to believe him, but if nothing's changed, then why do I feel so upset and disconnected?
I do not doubt his love for me. He isn't cheating on me, he doesn't love anyone else. He's told me this multiple times and I know in my heart that it's true.
I don't want to break up with him, I don't want to move on. I would just like to talk to him as much as the previous months, or at least feel like I'm still emotionally connected with him when we're not talking.
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