when he's asked by mutual friends of ours what's going on between us and he said something along the lines of "Nothing, she's obsessed with me and wants me and has a crush on me and wants to hook up but I'm not interested in her like that." And then also he replied to this same friend about me telling them that I am his mom's friend. I'm clueless what to think about those comments cause he and I have been carrying on hot and heavy for the past 1 1/2 years so far. Is that his way of letting it get back to me to let me know that he's grown tired of what we've had going on? I haven't been able to talk one on one with him about it to get his answers about the comments. Could it be that he just didn't want our friend to know about us? I'm not sure what to do. I know I don't want to lose his friendship. I'm willing to walk away from the FWB part of our friendship without any problems. He's the one who instigates everything between he and I every time we hook up. I mean yeah I'll walk up to him and wrap my arms around him and hug him or grab his sexy butt; but as to who instigates sex of all kinds between us, he does almost every time it happens. I think I have maybe 10 times in the time we've been FWB.
HELP! PLEASE! I'm totally confused.
Well, I have totally ended things with my FWB because he treated me horrible one too many times and so I told him we were completely through. He doesn't believe me and still tries to hook up with me but I won't give him the time of day. I ignore him
FWB= Lonely nights, developed feelings & then dumped when he finds someone that he really likes. We all have to remember that men can have sex (steamy hot sex) and cuddle afterwards but once the door closes with them on the other side, all of that is out of their minds. They do no associate sex with love by far. When we put ourselves in the position to give a man ourselves with the understanding of it's only about sex then we give them a part of ourselves that we can not get back. He will hold a part of you even if you don't think so. Going into this, FWB relationship you have to understand that that is all it is going to be, that's the explanation of the word. Your concern now is that you at least end up with a friendship in the end, It won't happen (ultimately). You have allowed your feelings to get involved and you wanna use the excuse of "I will stop sleeping with him today if it makes it possible for us to still be friends" Bull, you can feed those bread crumbs on MySpace. Be honest to yourself, don't you owe yourself that much! Love yourself and then you will not want to be a FWB you will want the person that you lay with to share a real connection with your soul. Take your time and find yourself and slowly move on. Love & Peace!
How old is he? If he refers to you as 'his Mom's friend" you're probably older than he is.
That being said, younger men with older women make the best couplings! I had a girlfriend who was 13 years older and we had a GREAT time! The only spoiler was when people referred to her as "older woman".
I don't know what to think or what to advise you on. I hope some of the other answers are helpful.
you're ok with being fwb? I think your guys' friend wants to have a relationship with him and if they knew about you two being friends with benefits then it would make your "partner" upset he couldn't get laid with this friend.
Um hun. You are NOT an FWB. FWB implies friendship. In your case this guy won't even admit to that. If anything he belittles you to people YOU know. That is disrespectful and rude. Bottom line this guy is out for a piece nothing more.
If he is that embarassed about what you are together - I would suggest getting the hell outa this F-buddy arrangement. You are casual sex. Nothing more.
Girl, a FWB can be fun but if you have feeling for him get out, if you feel awkward or upset when he pretends nothings going on you have to get out of it. But wow if your letting him make you sound like a fool like that don't give him sh*t! I don't care if it was a life or death secret if anyone made me look like a fool like that there'd be hell to pay. Don't do the he instigates it as an excuse to keep doing it you can keep your legs shut
FWB is just that, a secret. It shouldn't matter what he says because you both just use each other for satisfaction. No, he probably still does want to hook up with you, but he doesn't want people to know about it. It's a good thing you decided to stop hooking up with him.
Do you want a guy to talk about you like that anyways? Do you want someone who doesn't want others to know about you two? If your gonna let him have sex with you, he should at least treat you respectfully. which doesn't seem like he is.
How old is this guy? As far as I can tell he is embarrassed about your arrangement but likes having sex with you. I would personally not only drop the sex with him but the friendship too. He sounds either young and immature or just plain rude.
This guy really said "Nothing, she's obsessed with me and wants me and has a crush on me and wants to hook up but I'm not interested in her like that." and then said you were just his mom's friend in reference to you? That's your call if you want to share your body with someone who talks about you like that but I would have a problem with it. I am completely understanding of somebody wanting to be discreet about their private life but he didn't have to throw you under the bus and make you sound desperate to do it.