when he's asked by mutual friends of ours what's going on between us and he said something along the lines of "Nothing, she's obsessed with me and wants me and has a crush on me and wants to hook up but I'm not interested in her like that." And then also he replied to this same friend about me telling them that I am his mom's friend. I'm clueless what to think about those comments cause he and I have been carrying on hot and heavy for the past 1 1/2 years so far. Is that his way of letting it get back to me to let me know that he's grown tired of what we've had going on? I haven't been able to talk one on one with him about it to get his answers about the comments. Could it be that he just didn't want our friend to know about us? I'm not sure what to do. I know I don't want to lose his friendship. I'm willing to walk away from the FWB part of our friendship without any problems. He's the one who instigates everything between he and I every time we hook up. I mean yeah I'll walk up to him and wrap my arms around him and hug him or grab his sexy butt; but as to who instigates sex of all kinds between us, he does almost every time it happens. I think I have maybe 10 times in the time we've been FWB.
HELP! PLEASE! I'm totally confused.
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FWB= Lonely nights, developed feelings & then dumped when he finds someone that he really likes. We all have to remember that men can have sex (steamy hot sex) and cuddle afterwards but once the door closes with them on the other side, all of that is out of their minds. They do no associate sex with love by far. When we put ourselves in the position to give a man ourselves with the understanding of it's only about sex then we give them a part of ourselves that we can not get back. He will hold a part of you even if you don't think so. Going into this, FWB relationship you have to understand that that is all it is going to be, that's the explanation of the word. Your concern now is that you at least end up with a friendship in the end, It won't happen (ultimately). You have allowed your feelings to get involved and you wanna use the excuse of "I will stop sleeping with him today if it makes it possible for us to still be friends" Bull, you can feed those bread crumbs on MySpace. Be honest to yourself, don't you owe yourself that much! Love yourself and then you will not want to be a FWB you will want the person that you lay with to share a real connection with your soul. Take your time and find yourself and slowly move on. Love & Peace!3