That ship has already sailed for me lol. I don't really think there's a point in waiting for marriage, other than religious reasons (which are... pointless). Anyway, sex is not something I've ever wanted to wait until marriage to have. I've just never thought it was THAT big of a deal. I mean sure, it's incredible once it's with the right person and there's an emotional connection etc etc, but you can have all that without actually being married to the person. I think people are putting sex on this gigantic pedestal where it really shouldn't be. I've never bought into this whole "pure virgin" BS because quite frankly, sex has nothing to do with ~*~purity~*~ and being a good/moral person. Sex is sex. Let's just leave it at that, lol.
With that being said, if someone wants to wait until marriage to have sex, then that's fine. I'm not the sex police, people can do whatever they want with their bodies. I only think it's stupid when:
- people who want to wait until marriage expect EVERYONE ELSE to also wait until marriage (and the ones who don't will burn in hell for sinning blah blah)
- when a person expects their wife (or husband, but this is a more common expectation among men) to be a virgin and wait until marriage, while they have already have sex (i. e. if the person is being a hypocritical douchelord)
That's it. Those will pretty much be the only times I roll my eyes at a person who brings up this subject.
People should simply stop judging each others' sex lives. Stop judging a people for having sex regularly, and stop judging people for wanting to wait. Either way they're really not doing anything wrong, as long as they're safe and consenting.
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I don't think it's so much about being married or not as much as being ready. The assumption of be ready to have sex the second you're MSN and wife is false. One piece of paper is not going to make you ready, that decision you have to make for yourself.
I didn't wait for marriage. I was 19, then I was with the guy for 2 years and we were engaged. But he treated me badly so I left him. I dated around for a few years, never really dsting any guy that long, I wasn't really feeling it. Then I met my guy now and I'm so happy with him. Would it of made it better if we had both wait for eachother? It probably would of been a little less messy. But the experience we both gained in previous relstionships made our love making insanely awesome! I don't think I would of wanted to wait until I was 24 to have sex. We always joke that if we could travel back in time we'd gind eachother younger and get together younger. But not everyone is lucky enough to meet someone great young. Sometimes we got to kiss a lot of frogs first :P
I fully think you should make this decision yourself. Let no one influence you. You know yourself, you know when you're ready :)
Its up to the person and if they decide to wait or not. As for me I am Christian and I was taught to wait until marriage. Just because I don't want to give it to the wrong person and then end up regretting it, because once its going its gone and you can't get it back. I want to lose it with someone special and someone that I see a future with. I see a lot of girls lose it at young ages at my school and then they end up regretting it and wish they had waited for the one. I think it is a very valuable thing that should not be given away so freely. Save it for the right person, or perhaps a person you can see yourself with for the rest of your life. Don't just toss it around like its a basketball because its not. Some people lose it at a young age other prefer to wait till marriage. I personally am fine with waiting, that's how I was taught. You have to get to know a person first, you can't just know nothing about them and then just decide to lose it with them, you'll just end up getting broken.
Marriages are proof that you are serious for relationship and u worth and deserve a girl and is ready to take relation to next level and is not fucking around for free sex in disguise of love, marriages works as filter who retain people who do it for fun and temporary enjoyment, looking for some pleasurable moments, who likes the fun part not the responsibility part of relation, it practically makes sense because at least it justify intentions, and shows that person is committed enough, unless anyone can come and clain that ththey loves u so much and after having sex they would fly, but temporary fun lookers will not be ready for marriages, as they will opt for other easy options, there are some girls who are also involved in fun part this piece of advice is obviously not for them as i know they will not be agree with my opinion, and thr sex focused guy will not be agree with me as well, if u think everyone is free to do what he desires irrespective of whether it is right or wrong, then thief would desire for stealing and rapist would desire? u know what i mean.
Definitely commendable. Its a lot harder to not have sex so to be able to restrain oneself is a struggle. You'll then have to sustain your relationship on the content of character rather than through sex
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First off: I'm not a virgin. But, I see the value in waiting. Mairrrage is not a legal document. It has historically been a committment between two people. Meaning if I want, I can get married tomorrow, but the ideology is, I'm inept to remain faithful for the rest of my life. Not what society has deemed of mairrage: I go to the cpjrthoise, sign a poece of paper, pay $30,000 for a ceremony, and get divorced six years and two kids later.
Think on these terms, and call me sentimental, maybe I am, but here's my view: when I look back on my first time, am I going to be fond of that memory? I want the first time I had sex to be with the person I am COMMITTED to, that way I never have the chance to regret giving it to some sank that left me two months into a relationship.
Sure maybe one of us sucks at having sex. Is she screwed because she will never have good sex? Of course not, because we are a committed couple who is open to discussion, like adults, about things we desire in our relationship.
There's no need to test drive a Bentley to make sure that it works, unless you don't have the money to pay for it In the first place.I can never understand women that do this. Your out of your mind. I would love to bet any woman that does this as much as she is willing to be that in 20 years you would go back in time and kick your own ass for thinking that way.
1) most marriages just don't last. All of us that are divorced said "well that won't be me". You don't always get a say in the matter. If it were up to me I would still be married. So you save yourself for that husband of yours then maybe in 2, 5, 10 or 30 years he tosses you out on your ass... wow... good thing you saved yourself.
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2) you might not be sexually compatible. I just broke up with a woman after 5 weeks together we just were not sexually compatible. there were other reasons but that was the biggest issue. I was willing to compromise. one for her, one for me... but she never let it be about me. so on to the next woman.
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Sex is a very important part of an adult relationship. It brings you physically and emotionally closer together. You are denying yourself a huge part if you keep that out of a relationship. It could be an issue that makes or breaks your marriage later. Because it isn't just about sex. it is the intimacy and closeness that is creates that can impact you in many other ways.If someone wants to wait until marriage up to them. In a way I can understand that mentality. Personally I choose abstinenc. Yeah sex is kind of special and kind of not a big deal and that not the reason I do it. I don't think sex itself is worth the wait. But I'd like to think that I would be 'worth the wait for some guy. When I was younger I was dumped/ cheated on more than once for ' not putting out' I was called a 'prude and ' stuck up'. So I like to take sex out of the initial relationship to test their sincerit. But until marriage? Depends on when ever both of us is ready. if it takes that long. fine. Let it be
Practicality doesn't have anything to do with it. God says to wait until you're married to have sex, and have sex with only to whom you're married. God is the ultimate authority on all things - what He says, goes. For those who don't want to live their lives in accordance with the will of God, that's their choice - and they'll pay for it. Heb. 13:4.
For some people sex is not important to them. For others it is really important. For some married couples, lots of sex is an important part of intimacy and for others not so much. Personally I think it is important to make sure you know what your needs are and to make sure you are with someone who is a good match. Otherwise you may find yourself unfulfilled but feeling like there is no way out that is compatible with being faithful and committed. Better to figure it out before marriage. Just my 2 cents.
Waiting until marriage is downright stupid. I am not going to be politically correct. This stupid notion came from religion to help quell lust. We are biologically made to want and need sex.
It's one of the most beautiful things a person can enjoy, and there are various people to enjoy it with, so why deny yourself that pleasure? Where is the logic? Who wants to live so unfulfilled?
And drilling into people that they need to wait until marriage does so much harm because we have the biological and natural urge for sex, so trying to convince people that they have to wait until marriage only leads to the eventual and risky behaviors in sex that result in harm. But if people didn't have idiots telling them they'll go to hell or need to wait for that one person, they could have enjoyed a healthy sex life w/o the unfounded reasons of guilt just because it's outside of marriage.When this phenomenon first started people were getting married in their teens and contraception was almost a myth. Practically back then it made a lot of sense. Nowadays it still makes some sense. a promise you make with your self is always good if you can keep it.! I just hope that anyone doing it for moral or religious grounds is not ignorantly/happily committing other sins or immoral acts and going back to the "but I'm waiting for marriage" to prove their sanctity
I thought about this a lot. People always say, "If you love me then you will do (insert action)", or "If you truly love each other, its okay" but most of the time, you will almost never marry a high school crush. I think that if the couple is mature enough, then its okay, as long as it is consensual and the other is not pressured into it with something like the first quote. But, I don't really care what others do if it doesn't hurt anyone or affect me. I'll probably wait until I'm steady financially because I don't want to be a dad in high school or college, but financially steady doesn't mean married, so I guess I'll wait and see
Actually, I think you shouldn't wait unless you are very religious. (sometimes someones religious beliefs can make them feel worthless if they don't wait. Which I personally find ridiculous.)
There are many things that make a relationship work. Intimacy is one them. Enjoying sex with your partner is important and you won't be able to enjoy it until you know what you AND your partner like. This involves practice. Even if you have sex with a guy who you don't end up marrying there should still be no regrets. Just be safe and learn what is best for you sexually. It'll make you happier in the long run.The basis makes sense. Be sure that the two of you have actual love and chemistry. Sex soul ties creating the illusion that chemistry is there When really it isn't. When the sex stops are the two of you still in love? Fortunately for me the marriage survived after 3 years sex less due to complications with childbirth. I have relatives that had premarital sex and their relationships FAILED miserably after the kid because he couldn't be faithful while she recovered. Sad but I think not having sex before marriage could really help.
its sort of like waiting and refusing to eat until late next week when you go to that fancy restaurant... i mean you COULD do it, it would suck and it doesn't sound practical and good luck finding someone to do it with you because if you think you're going to find someone who's going to physically starve themselves exclusively for the hope of eating something later then they're probably as crazy in the head as you are. thats why i always roll my eyes when abstinent girls complain that guys cheated on them, i mean seriously who's going to wait 3 years for a seat at a fancy restaurant that might not even be all that good anyway when they can just hit a cheap pizza joint and have a slice this very moment instead? that slut you discard as "easy" has had 100% more of your boyfriends penis than you have, and you let that happen.
1) If they're going to break up with you just because you wouldn't let them in your pants, then they obviously never loved you in the first place.
2) Check out the comments I (sin-and-love) made here: pieladyusa.deviantart.com/.../Virginity-is-Bad-313432269
3)www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1331149-does-growing-up-in-a-strict-religious-background-make-you-sexuallyI used to find the idea sweet and of course even now if my partner wanted to wait I would, but otherwise it's a bit impractical, I think you should know if our compatible in all ways before you spend the rest of your life with someone, because if your not sure before it could lead to an awkward marriage and maybe even divorce, I'm not saying its ok to go sleep with every guy you like but if you are planning on a serious thing with someone special it's better to know before hand, personally
No way. Not ever. I dont want any nasty surprises on a night thats supposed to be the best of my life. www.buzzfeed.com/.../19-women-reveal-their-worst-sexual-experiences
I'd wait for 9 months- 1 year minimum to have sex for the first time, but I dont want to make a lifelog commitment to someone whos boring in bed who also point blank refuses to improve or someone who is prudish or has zero libido.
Down arrow me all you want but thats my opinion.Many people believe that waiting till marriage is a good idea.
But far less actually do it. There are plenty of benefits to your marriage for waiting to have sex, especially if you are a virgin.
I was on the fence about it until I read this article. It's written for a younger male audience but I'm sure girls could find some good ideas from it too: www.artofmanliness.com/.../Still a goal of mine, hope I can make it that far. I always said I wanted to make it special once I a married to the love of my life (hopefully) but I won't jump off a bridge if I don't wait as long as we both are happy and know we respect and care for each other then there isn't nothing wrong with that, to me. I still would like to wait until marriage. :D
well, guys aren't really shamed by having sex, so the waiting for marriage thing is usually something only girls do. There are exceptions, of course. I don't really understand why shaming girls for sex is a thing, but alas it seems to be a popular thing.
No interest whatsoever in "hook ups."
I was brought up in a "no-sex-before-marriage" environment, and I'm perfectly willing to wait for that, but really, my metric is "no-sex-before-love."You are too young dear. You can get to know someone, but don't focus on sex or so. Later in your life when you finish your studies and get a job, you will meet different guys for sure. So keep waiting till marriage as s principle until you find the guy who is right for you or you think you are ok with it.
doesn't make any sense to me.
why follow standars and old-fashioned ideas like that?
people should be able to do as they please!
if you like/love someone and you wanna be with him completely, then why wait?
waiting until marriage for sex is probably the worst decision for me.
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