Abused women--why do they keep going back to him?

Why do women keep going back to abusers, when there are plenty of better men out there?

you all know that battered woman syndrome is one Dr.'s theory, and isn't in the DSM-IV, right?


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  • When a girl is abused you have to realize for something like that to get to that point, this guy has done some serious psychological work. So he is telling her how much he loves her, and will take care of her, and how much she needs him. He will probably reinforce that a lot, that she needs him. So she will start to believe these things. When he abuses her she becomes confused but she's not going to leave because now she's scared. If someone can love her so much why is he doing this? So he will apologize and she will believe him because he tells her how much he cares about her. And besides if she leaves it's just going to make him mad and do worse work on her. If and when she finally gets out, if she can finally get away she doesn't know what a normal relationship is, and all she knew was there was a guy who hit her but he loved her, and although it doesn't make sense and shouldn't she doesn't know much difference, so she is attracted to these men that do that because that's the only way she feels cared about.